You're better than me. I would've told him to go talk to his friends and I'll get back to him when I feel like it. Make him miss you.
Is she the one who texts first? Maybe he just thought she was busy? Who knows. I guess I just would go off on a guy simply bc he didn't text me for 8 hours. Maybe I'm too laid back. I don't expect FH to text me every morning. He usually does but I don't worry if he doesn't. *shrug* Sent from my iPad mini mini.
I notice I have a habit of pulling back and shutting down when my needs in my relationships are not met. I will first verbalize to my partner what particular void I am feeling and what I am needing from them to fill it. Once I do that I give them the opportunity to do their part. Then if they do I pay attention to Consistency. I am not for instant gratification that has no longevity.
So with that said, if they are not consistent or if they hear my needs and fail to make any changes. I do not complain or nag I just simply pull back and redirect my attention elsewhere on things that i know I can do to fill it. I don't like doing that because in my eyes it is excluding them from a very integral part of my life but if this goes on for a while, the connection and desire for them in my life fades.
Me to a "T". If they can't meet whatever important need then they are not the one. For me its usually occurs around critical emotional, spiritual and sexual needs.
Me to a "T" Those are my critical needs as well and those are non negotiable for me. The ironic part is as soon as you pull back there is all this attention and inquiries as to what is wrong or do I need something. I could reiterate what I have previously mentioned again but instead I am just like *blink blink*
Take a timeout and think about it honey boo boo then maybe it will stick.
Ladies,
If you were married, would you help or motivate your husband get his life in order such as license issues (reinstating, removing parking tickets, DUI etc.), credit issues (giving tips to improve), finances (helping to save etc.) or any important items in his life that he’s procrastinating on (like I am about taking my cosmetology license)? Or, is it solely his responsibility to fix?
I understand why an unmarried person may NOT offer support but what about married? I’ve heard of husbands with bad debt, credit issues etc. and I often wonder, why doesn’t your wife help you with this? (of course I don’t know background info but that’s what comes to mind)
This also reminds me of the thread where we discussed lending people who live together money.
One person on the board stated that if you live with someone, there’s no reason why I should be lending you money. I guess some couple still operate as individuals who merely co-habitate.
YOUR life, YOUR issues.
It would appear that the less complicated or messy his life is, the better OUR life.
Ummm detoxing?Picked up some 100% cranberry juice yesterday
could he just be trying to throw you off the track so you do not expect a ring? If not, yeah, I would be bothered by him loaning a friend such a large amount right before he asks you to start a new life with him. That could be yall's life savings soon. I would not like that he is loaning* huge sums of money and then asking me to live with him on a budget. However, if you aren't so perturbed that it's a total game-changer, then it is good that this happened now because it is a great time to talk about expectations and priorities. Are you sure he is not trolling you, though (so the surprise is bigger? Don't be perturbed til you get all the facts. )My bf just told me he "loaned" a friend a HUGE amount of money...like dang near his life savings for a new truck (for a business venture) and I'm really perturbed. I know it's his money but I wish he would've talked to me about it before he did it. This guy apparently had borrowed and paid him back before but never this much and he also has some financial issues going on due to a bad decision last year. He's been telling me he's on a budget this month but I didn't think it was that bad. His mother also borrowed another small fortune to finish her kitchen the next day. Valentine's Day is coming up and he keeps saying a ring is coming soon so I thing it would be that day until he told me this today. This really just shattered my hopes smdh. I'm just disappointed. I don't know what to say to him right now. I hope he gets his money back being that most ppl never pay back. Should I be bothered? Would you be bothered?
could he just be trying to throw you off the track so you do not expect a ring?
That's what I thought too InchHighPrivateEye
One of my coworkers told me that females don't give gifts for valentines day but I still ended up getting him something. I just love giving gifts.
We went shopping a few weeks ago and he really wanted something but they didn't have his size so I found it and ordered it online today.
I also got us concert tickets...to a concert I would've gone to regardless because we are both fans so this is kind of for me too. Let's hope we don't break up before then
could he just be trying to throw you off the track so you do not expect a ring? If not, yeah, I would be bothered by him loaning a friend such a large amount right before he asks you to start a new life with him. That could be yall's life savings soon. I would not like that he is loaning* huge sums of money and then asking me to live with him on a budget. However, if you aren't so perturbed that it's a total game-changer, then it is good that this happened now because it is a great time to talk about expectations and priorities. Are you sure he is not trolling you, though (so the surprise is bigger? Don't be perturbed til you get all the facts. )
*I am more talking about the friend here than the mom, because once y'all he get married, then yeah, he should check in before loaning even his mom a "small fortune" but if he has an engagement in mind, then maybe he is getting that out of the way now I know that I'm getting my family-givings that will be future-husband business out of the way now, before October
Anyway, yes I would be bothered but not sure to what degree.
Over 6 months. I'm glad I ended up getting him a gift because he booked a suite for the weekend and I'm sure dinner will be expensive. I told him he's doing enough and to not get me an actual gift.I give chocolate and end up taking it back to eat it myself how long have yall been together