Blessed&higlyflavoured
Well-Known Member
This guy has me f'ed up. I honestly can't think straight. I have to leave it with Jesus
My fiance' made his intentions known. It sounds like your man is doing just that.For those who are married or engaged, looking back did you notice that your guy made his intentions clear re: marriage and you being the 'one?'
I've been seeing subtle and maybe not so subtle signs from my guy. The signs range from him positioning himself career wise to be able to take care of us, referring to my dad as his father in law (my dad was in town yesterday and I mentioned that I wish he could have met him. He responded by saying that he'll meet his father in law soon). I don't know...I just get the impression that he is really serious about building a life with me and I want to know if stuff like this is par for the course....
Second time with the clear female friends and I gotta say, they aren't really making an effort to include me. They are all talking (you know that small circle formation) and I'm literally aside sitting down looking so interested in what I'm typing to you guys. I'm not sure how to feel right now. I feel left out and this will be the last time I gather with them...trust. If he's with me and my friends we all talk they even pull him in. It's been minutes and I'm separated. He came over and asked me if I'm ok. I said yes (what ma suppose to say?). I'm all pissed ....lol
View attachment 334779 And he officially put the ring on
today. I love it!
Congratulations! Your ring is beautiful.
So I don't know where to leave this question since its not directly about my FH and I, so I'll just ask it here.
Without getting into too many details, I have a very strained relationship with my parents but especially with my father. Communication with him is strained and limited to once a month via a text message that is more of a stock text that he sends out that asks and answers a question about my well being.For example, How are you doing? I hope all is well have a good day.
So the problem is that I do not want my father to walk me down the isle, personally I would rather just walk myself and meet my hunny. My FH just wants me to be happy but does wish I would suck it up and walk with my father. My mother flipped her lid when I even mentioned that I didnt want him walking me saying I was being disrespectful. The problem is I dont have a relationship with neither and we had a difficult...extremely difficult childhood that left me not speaking to him for years. My mother in law also thinks that I should let him walk me down the isle to save face from having people gossip about the wedding. I'm torn between saving face or my core values. I feel like the father "giving" away his daughter, including walking them down the isle and the father/daughter dance is reserved for parents and children who love and respect one another and who have intimate relationships with each other. So I just want to know what would you do in this situation.
So I don't know where to leave this question since its not directly about my FH and I, so I'll just ask it here.
So I just want to know what would you do in this situation.
A father walking the bride down the aisle is not a requirement or a right. Traditional..yes.
Are you inviting him? If so, he should feel honored with that.
You should feel comfortable on your wedding day and the focus during the planning should be on the fun stuff not repairing a strained relationship. Save that for later..if you are even interested.
Shawnyblazes, I'm so happyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy for you!View attachment 334779 And he officially put the ring on
today. I love it!
Looks like it's just a matter of time before he "puts a ring on it."For those who are married or engaged, looking back did you notice that your guy made his intentions clear re: marriage and you being the 'one?'
I've been seeing subtle and maybe not so subtle signs from my guy. The signs range from him positioning himself career wise to be able to take care of us, referring to my dad as his father in law (my dad was in town yesterday and I mentioned that I wish he could have met him. He responded by saying that he'll meet his father in law soon). I don't know...I just get the impression that he is really serious about building a life with me and I want to know if stuff like this is par for the course....
Hey fine 4's. Did you "clear the air" and let him know how rude that you felt they were being to you? Will he still keep the friends even though their behavior is quite shady? To me, their color is insignificant, but their behavior towards you should not be acceptable to him.Second time with the clear female friends and I gotta say, they aren't really making an effort to include me. They are all talking (you know that small circle formation) and I'm literally aside sitting down looking so interested in what I'm typing to you guys. I'm not sure how to feel right now. I feel left out and this will be the last time I gather with them...trust. If he's with me and my friends we all talk they even pull him in. It's been minutes and I'm separated. He came over and asked me if I'm ok. I said yes (what ma suppose to say?). I'm all pissed ....lol