2012 Relationship Random Thoughts.... Part III

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have a date w/ okcupid guy. art shopping/dinner is the plan. he was cute, he was like "i didn't mean to ask you out via text. it kind of just happened. i'll call you soon".

i'm not a talking on the phone person, but the thought is appreciated. :lol:

it's kind of weird i think (the circumstance. talking for so long & then finally meeting in person) but idk. we'll see. it's at least a night out/meeting someone new & potentially like minded in the area :)
 
I changed my mind. I am going to allow my guy to take the day off so he can be at the hospital during surgery. I want him there in case they have to change procedures.

He wants to do something special this weekend to get my mind off my situation. I just wanna go lie on the beach and happy hour at Carmine. His bday is on the 1st. I have to think of something to do and find him a gift.
 
Eating dinner with his family always makes me feel sooo good about my family :lol: His family is craaaazy!! They be yellin and cussin and disrespectin the ish out of each other! :nono: :lol:

He wants to host thanksgiving at my house and I'm like noooooooo....not because of family stuff but it's so...adult like. He asked 'is that too personal for you?' I just kept the stank face but I might suck it up and do it. Oh man, it's official :lachen:
 
While on my way to work this morning I walked past Jamba Juice. This dude was sitting by the window on his laptop drinking his smoothie. He waved, I smiled and I kept walking. Next thing you know this dude is by my side. He left his laptop and bag in Jamba Juice to come chase me down. :lol::lol: He was cute so we went back to Jamba Juice to talk for bit and exchange info.

I've always wanted a guy to do that. To see me walk by and be so enamored by my beauty that they have to stop what they're doing to come after me :look:
 
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He is coming tomorrow. Excited! He told me he was nervous. I'm not as of now. More so bc this is the beginning and I want to build a strong foundation of friendship.

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Hmm.

Still no apology. That makes two days we haven't talked. Don't think we've gone a day without talking (even when mad:lol:) since last September.

Was quite down/annoyed at the start of the day, but now just keeping it moving. Feel OK.
 
We talked today and it seemed to me, and I could be wrong, that he didn't remember talking about the logistics of me moving there. He said I should leave my current job earlier because I need time to find an apartment. I was like uhh, I'm not getting an apartment as soon as I move there. I doubt I'll find a place in a couple days. Then he was like oh, well we can look together on weekends blah blah.

IDK...it pisses me off for some reason. It could mean nothing but I'm annoyed. Soo tomorrow, or whenever we talk, I'm going tell him I'm going to look at apartments alone this weekend.

Maybe I'm just looking for something to justify the anger I felt toward him when I woke up this morning.
 
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we got into a huge argument about whether he was circumcised or not.:lachen: he claimed he wasnt, i claimed he was and accused him of lying. i ended up googling pics and calling his brothers girlfriend to confirm.

apparently, he wasnt lying.:lol: but still i dont understand how it came to look EXACTLY like a circumcised one.
 
Oasis

If its at attention and he pulls the skin back, you shouldn't be able to tell. Plus, if he doesn't have a ton of extra skin, that would make it look circumcised when at attention. :look:
 
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Oasis

If its at attention and he pulls the skin back, you shouldn't be able to tell. Plus, if he doesn't have a ton of extra skin, that would make it look circumcised when at attention. :look:

thats what his bros gf said. but for him there is no extra skin at all. he doesnt have to pull anything back. when he told me i investigated. i poked and prodded. i took notes. :lol: and i see no difference.

i would think he was lying but he doesnt come from a culture where its normal and according to bros gf their dad is super anti-circumcision.
 
how come you guys arent moving in together?

Well my understanding (because this is exactly what he said!) is that when I get there we'll be living together. I told him ok but just until I find my own place. I don't want to live together permanently because I want my own space, I've never lived alone and I've been looking forward to it for two years. But when we talked yesterday it seemed like he was saying move here and find your own place immediately, until I told him that's not feasible.

We're prone to miscommunication because there are trained gorillas who express themselves better than him, so I might be reading this all wrong. I'm going to ask him about it today.
 
At 1239 he texted that he was on the road :)!

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finally gave my coworker a chance and went on a "non" date with him after work tuesday. (he's been asking for a few months now) it was really fun. we ate wings, shot some pool, and i taught him a card game. we stood outside and gossipped a bit about work. he held me close but there was nothing inappropriate to me about it. i knew he wanted a kiss but i couldn't bring myself to do it. it started to rain and he used his coat to to shield me as we ran to my car. we texted a little bit about nothing yesterday and today i haven't heard from him. i had the last two days off and i go back in tomorrow. hopefully it won't be too awkward.

ETA: every woman and their momma has been trying to holler at this dude. he's been all the rage since he began working there. according to him he hasn't approached anyone except me, but thats hard to believe.
 
Hmm...so this is week three of hubby training for his marathon. I still am unable to run normally....but I do try to keep up...on the first lap anyway. I love the way he finishes his course then comes back to walk with me.

I have to admit I get light weight annoyed that while I'm running he keeps up with me while only walking. :ohwell:
 
i have a date tomorrow (not w/ the other 2 men i've been talking to). i'm kind of bored (tired?) of dating. but not sure if that means i'd rather be in a relationship.
 
I have berber carpet in the bedroom and it hasn't been cleaned in ages. I tell my guy he needs to clean it. He says can't I just hire someone? WTH I have a brand new Bissell Carpet Cleaner sitting in the hall. Since he doesn't want to do it I'm taking the money and doing it myself.

Then to top that off he punctures the shield on the light switch in the bathroom but says he didn't do it. Well ain't nobody else up in dis herre piece so I guess one of my johns did it. :rolleyes: I wanna poke him in the eyeballz like the 3 stooges Moe would do Larry. :lachen:
 
omg :lachen: girls... let me tell you about my night tonight :lachen:

so i had an alumni event tonight, for african americans in my program. i went to this event last year and it was, in hindsight, more or less a catastrophe. i was still unemployed, and i was awkward, and embarrassed, and didnt want to be there.

tonight i went with a guy from my program that i went out with a couple times... it never led anywhere obviously, but we still go out together from time to time. so he was my ride for the night and we went together. i wore a black a-line dress (a "skater" dress) with a cropped cardigan over it and i have been favoring my hair pulled back on the sides and down in the back... my intent was to make connections to aid my now upcoming job search... i made some connects alright :lachen:

this smooooooooooooooooooth brother who looked like a cross between tommy on martin and kenny lattimore was trying to get in where he fit in ALL NIGHT. and it was very subtle initially, but when i asked to exchange contact info and he gave me his personal email and not his business email i said, oh, personal huh? and the flirting was nonstop from there. he laid it on THICK... bout how he was in zambia and london this summer, hes going to vegas this weekend, he was surprised i was talking to him, nobody looked twice at him in grad :look: he doesnt date snow bunnies :look: he loves the sistas :lachen: he was hitting me from every angle :lachen: I LOVED IT.

theeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen it turned out the president of his organization (and it was by no means a small organization it is VERY well known) was an alum in attendance at this event too! and he sat at the table with me (earlier in the night) blah blah blahing, and made sure before he left to give me his card... he was like 48! the other guy was 38...

and theeeen :lachen: this young guy who works at the dept of va i only talked to him a little bit because i wasnt sure if he was in the same vein as the others :look: but i was still like, i wanna give you my contact info, not even for networking, bc i want to go out with you socially! like being friendly... and hes like, im glad you said that, because im trying to get to know you socially :lachen: giiiiiiiiirl... i felt HIGH on all the attention :lachen:

and now im waiting for bf to get here :rofl: :dead: what a fantastic night! remember when this used to be my life? :lachen:
 
^ LOLLL! I love nights like those. Especially when I get to see my bf in the end!


On another note....Why is this dude texting me? I don't understaaaaaaaand.
 
meesch Get it girl!!

I'm so glad I got those things off of my chest. Discussing it with another sane, logical, intelligent woman makes me even more determined to make the right decision.
 
Just getting in. Seeing him was like he came back to me after a long time away. It wasn't awkward or anything. I have a good feeling about this :yep:. We spent time just talking and walking uptown.

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