2012 Relationship Random Thoughts.... Part III

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Starting the count down to our one year anniversary :grin:

One year ago today, he asked me out, and I reluctantly agreed to a movie date set almost one month in advance. :lol:

ETA: I didn't like him at ALL! I was just hoping to get a free movie and some sour patch kids and then say bye. :look:
 
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I hate folks hovering and making a fuss over me. Imma go off on him and my momma in a minute. I can't believe he brought that mess up again. I changed the subject to Football season and the darn ring.
 
I'm so jaded. I caught this guy staring at me several times last night.

1. I don't think he is single.

2. Even if he was, He didn't approach, so his staring didn't mean jack. Maybe I reminded him of someone.
 
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i had a dream that bf asked to marry me within 2 months of dating.

somehow the wedding had already been planned. i just remember there being a bunch of meat that was being smoked/cooked (prob had something to do with the restaurant we went to saturday) and it being too late to back out :lol: and then when someone asked to see my ring i waved my hand and went "ive got the golden ticket!" but then the diamond fell off the band :look:

i wished i hadnt agreed to his proposal

but then i woke up and remembered its already been longer than two months :look: :lol:

but i will still take this as a subconscious warning that i am definitely not ready for a marriage proposal :lol:
 
Countdown continues...

On this day is when he started texting me....all day. :look::look::look: I still didn't like him.
 
I want to decomission my teddy bear (yes, I still sleep with a teddy bear :look:). He's been in service since 2001, has travelled the world with me, so I think he has earned his retirement. Unfortunately, he can only be replaced by a large, bear-like man :lick: but I've given up hope. I want to stay positive but I doubt there is a man that's actually interested in me as a person and I don't see a point in chanelling so much energy into finding something when it always ends up being such a disappointment. I don't know what it is that makes men feel so lukewarm about me :nono: I haven't been in a relationship in so long and I'm aching to give some affection to someone. Whenever I see other couples being all lovey dovey together or hear men talking admirably about their girlfriends or wives, there's a rush of pain and anger that fills me. I don't even like attending events where I know there will be mostly couples in attendance.

I'm sorry for the rant, I just feel so sad and defeated :sad:
 
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my ex de-friended me on facebook.:lachen::lachen::lachen:

bosswitch said:
I want to decomission my teddy bear (yes, I still sleep with a teddy bear :look:). He's been in service since 2001, has travelled the world with me, so I think he has earned his retirement. Unfortunately, he can only be replaced by a large, bear-like man :lick: but I've given up hope. I want to stay positive but I doubt there is a man that's actually interested in me as a person and I don't see a point in chanelling so much energy into finding something when it always ends up being such a disappointment. I don't know what it is that makes men feel so lukewarm about me :nono: I haven't been in a relationship in so long and I'm aching to give some affection to someone. Whenever I see other couples being all lovey dovey together or hear men talking admirably about their girlfriends or wives, there's a rush of pain and anger that fills me. I don't even like attending events where I know there will be mostly couples in attendance.

I'm sorry for the rant, I just feel so sad and defeated :sad:
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i've felt this way before plenty of times and it all changed when i least expected it.
 
I'm in observation mode right now. We had a serious convo, he apologized... We'll see... I'm not pressed either way... In my eyes that's a good thing!

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now whenever bf and i are going somewhere he asks me what should he wear :giggle: i feel a little bad if i made him self conscious about it but COME ON he needs new clothes :lol: i think i might have committed a rookie mistake by telling him i dont like something he always wears, that felt a little mean, but, i didnt want him to wear it :lol:

luckily he has finally agreed to go shopping. he even co-opted the starter budget i just randomly threw out there as necessary for creating a starter wardrobe :lol: its gonna be soooooooooooooo fun
 
He went and bought an iPad after saying he was going to put that money in his 401k. :nono: Hope he's not always so frivolous with his money.....

Sent from my iPhone. Excuse the typos!
 
We will be partying 60's style this weekend. I told him to find an old silk shirt and polyester bell bottoms in his closet so he can look like Smokey Robinson butt last year at the HWD Bowl.

Why dis man say you are in luck I have a gold silk shirt from the 80's! LOL That's cool fashion is a circle. I really wanna find a shingled suede vest like we all wore for our family portrait. My mom pulled out old photo's. I keep laughing at my dad's mustache in the pictures because my guys is just like it. :lachen: Judge Joe Brown tache's in da house!!!!!!
 
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SO just got read by their uncle on how I was good for putting up with their shortcomings, and need to do much better to keep me. Go uncle!
 
had a fantastic night with bf last night :reddancer:

walking back from a quick enchilada run, he goes, "baby, i love you, but you are not going to drive me crazy with your sense of direction" :lol: he is going to force me to learn to read maps if it kills him :rofl:

then this morning we FINALLY found the perfect spoon to accommodate our heights and weights :lol: i sooooooooooooo did not want to get out of bed this morning :sad:
 
I talked to my SO last night for a while. When we got off the phone, I thought to myself he hasn't told me he loved me the past few days. A minute later he calls back and says "I'm loving you, I realize I haven't told you I love you lately." All I could do was giggle like a little girl. That made me so happy last night.
 
I had a great talk this morning with Sweetface. I learned more about his life, his business in Haiti and his personality. At first our pairing was brutal (SKRONG Taurus) but now I'm really seeing who he is. I look forward to so much with him. For right now, I just can't wait for us to go to Miami.
 
So we were doing FaceTime and his grandma called him. He had her in speaker and we spoke. He evidently sent a pic of me to her and she was telling me that it was a beautiful pic. She seem so youthful, I look forward to meeting her oneday.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
tinkat said:
So we were doing FaceTime and his grandma called him. He had her in speaker and we spoke. He evidently sent a pic of me to her and she was telling me that it was a beautiful pic. She seem so youthful, I look forward to meeting her oneday.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
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tinkat have you and the beau met yet? how far apart are you guys?
 
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tinkat have you and the beau met yet? how far apart are you guys?
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I was 12 hours away but I just moved last week so now it's half of that, about six hours. We were going to meet today as a matter of fact but some things came up. The plan is this month but I am trying to get adjusted here from moving.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
I think we've hit a crossroads or something of the sort. Help me analyze this please:
a) serious talks lately about the rearing of kids. Hes atheist im christian. I am all for compromise and allowing them freedom to choose their own beliefs but i want them to attend church. My familys social life is centered around church. He is so anti church he doesnt want them to go at all. Im old enough now to be thinking about these things even tho of course we'd wait till marriage.
b) i feel taken for granted. This is conceited but hell im a hell of a catch and i dont feel he fully appreciates that sometimes cause he didnt have to work too hard for me. Ex. I dont want to be over ur apt when its looking a mess clean that **** before u invite me.

At this point i feel in staying cause im comfy. I do love him and lawd knows the carnal is where its AT but i dont want to be settling. Help please.

Sent from my phone-typos to be expected :)
 
Room for St. Thomas booked. Not that I didn't believe him when he said he wanted to go but....well actually I didn't! I thought he was just idly talking like I do. Ive been "moving to Los Angeles" for several years now :look: I'm excited! :pulpdance:
 
Yeah...I'm thinking I'm going to just go ahead and unfriend all my ex's on FB. It's the right thing to do...their life is soooo unimportant to me...and I really don't want mine to be important to them.

But the question is...my last ex's sister's are my friends but they seem to of late keep posting updates on my ex...I don't care to see that stuff either...hmmm.
 
Rocky91

On point A: I don't understand. You want them to be able to choose their own religion but you want them to attend church? Just once to see if they like it or always? IDK, it doesn't sound like it's that big of a deal if you're willing to date, sex, marry and have kids with an atheist.

Point B: His place and it's cleanliness has more to do with him and less to do with you. Most guys don't keep their homes spotless anyway. It's his space and is an extension of him, not his feelings for you. Is it disgusting or just...like a guy lives there?

You could mention it to him but be careful about your tone. Maybe the best way to point it out is to lead by example. Keep your place clean and nice and when he comments on how nice it looks maybe give him some tips or mention how cleanliness is really important to you.
 
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VeryBecoming said:
Rocky91

On point A: I don't understand. You want them to be able to choose their own religion but you want them to attend church? Just once to see if they like it or always? IDK, it doesn't sound like it's that big of a deal if you're willing to date, sex, marry and have kids with an atheist.

Point B: His place and it's cleanliness has more to do with him and less to do with you. Most guys don't keep their homes spotless anyway. It's his space and is an extension of him, not his feelings for you. Is it disgusting or just...like a guy lives there?

You could mention it to him but be careful about your tone. Maybe the best way to point it out is to lead by example. Keep your place clean and nice and when he comments on how nice it looks maybe give him some tips or mention how cleanliness is really important to you.
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Thanks for your input!
I guess I can't articulate exactly what I mean well enough. I just feel like he
can't see a compromise. Like he can't understand that my religion is something that I want to share with my kids, while still understanding and encouraging that they make their own decisions and explore. My thinking is, what harm is sabbath school (like sunday school) to a lil 3 year old? They sing, laugh, play, make friends....and he acts like stepping inside a church is kryptonite. Again, all of this is probably jumping the gun anyways cause we're nowhere near having kids, but it's raising red flags in my head.

On point B, I don't think I'm a neat freak at all, and yea I understand it's a guy's place, but I can't fathom not ever washing your dishes, or ever thinking it's necessary to sweep the place every once in a while. And i really only push this point because he has said he'd want us to live together before marriage, which morally I'm not really against....but as a woman, I am not going to be a drudge for a man i'm not married to. So to see him completely incompetent on basic upkeep of a one-bedroom apt is startling.
I definitely drop some heavy hints, last semester when i was in an on-campus apt he would be over there seeing me clean, and I'd be like, so this is how you scrub a toilet, wash dishes, you see?? lol.

whew, i am letting off a load here.
I guess my bottom line at this point is I think I am beginning to go fishing in the deep blue sea for reasons to leave him because I am bored, and feeling scared at the fact that we are thinking marriage and this is the only relationship I've ever been in and i think i should explore what's out there. there i said it, i typed what i've been too reluctant to admit to myself all along.
 
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