2012 Relationship Random Thoughts.... Part III

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Fine 4s said:
Is this your SO? Is it possible that he was in a bad mood (and prolly should have stayed home)?

He reminds me a socially awkward ex.
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We've been seeing each other for a couple of months now. Although he has done a few things that are similar to this in the past, it has never been this extreme. He's been down about a few things and maybe that's why it was so bad OR maybe he's showing his true colors!

mallysmommy said:
My ex did this to me alot and i was too naive to believe that he was disrespecting me :nono: he would get out of the car and be almost inside before i even shut the car door.

Ijs
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We had a little discussion about it when we left the show... well the last part when he was darn near at the door while I was still sitting in my seat. He told me that the benefit of sitting in the back is so you can leave first... I told him he needed to learn date etiquette.

gabulldawg said:
Not cool at all. :nono: I probably would've called a friend or cab and just left. But I can't deal with rude/disrespectful behavior like that. :nono: I wouldn't have been able to enjoy the movie. :nono:

I'm hoping this was a first date?? If so, you should probably drop this dude asap. He has no idea how to treat a lady. :nono:
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Nope, it wasn't a first date. If the first date was like this their wouldn't have been a 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc. If this is his idea of how he's supposed to treat a woman... he's clueless. BTW... we went to one of his favorite restaurants on our first date and he ordered his drink and appetizer as we were sitting down:perplexed. But, the rest of the date was fine. I think he gets so caught up in himself at times, he doesn't realize that he's not the only one around!

kismettt said:
i wouldn't be able to get with that, socially awkward or not. some things are beyond help and i'd consider it that (unless you know him well enough to say this is out of the ordinary behavior for him).
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It's still fairly new so I'm just observing. He hasn't done this every time but, heck this could just be a taste of who he really is!

TayMac said:
All4Tris

He sounds very rude. That isn't how you conduct yourself even if you don't enjoy your date.
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This fool thought we had a nice date O_o! I guess a person caught up in self wouldn't notice that the person that was on the date with them didn't enjoy it...
 
Admittedly I dragged him out to my god daughters sweet 16 party. He was a little grumpy throughout the night. First thing this am, he apologized for being "selfish, self-centered, spoiled, anti- social" etc and said I didn't deserve that. Followed it with I looked nice last night. When we talked about being social he stated that I was a social butterfly and that I was dancing having a good time; I was "free and wonderful". I LOVED that he saw me that way!!!! Yes HE was grumpy but that had nothing to do with me. Yay me!

Our first little spat after a year!

ETA: just read All4Tris response. How ironic that I asked you if he was in a bad mood! I had no idea what was coming my way...lol
 
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Mortons said:
I feel like you should be way more grateful than you are. I'm doing lots to make you comfortable, even when I'm not, and all I hear are complaints.
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Mortons how are you? The last post I remember was not so great. Were you considering a break up? Stay up!
 
All4Tris said:
We've been seeing each other for a couple of months now. Although he has done a few things that are similar to this in the past, it has never been this extreme. He's been down about a few things and maybe that's why it was so bad OR maybe he's showing his true colors!

We had a little discussion about it when we left the show... well the last part when he was darn near at the door while I was still sitting in my seat. He told me that the benefit of sitting in the back is so you can leave first... I told him he needed to learn date etiquette.

Nope, it wasn't a first date. If the first date was like this their wouldn't have been a 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc. If this is his idea of how he's supposed to treat a woman... he's clueless. BTW... we went to one of his favorite restaurants on our first date and he ordered his drink and appetizer as we were sitting down:perplexed. But, the rest of the date was fine. I think he gets so caught up in himself at times, he doesn't realize that he's not the only one around!

It's still fairly new so I'm just observing. He hasn't done this every time but, heck this could just be a taste of who he really is!

This fool thought we had a nice date O_o! I guess a person caught up in self wouldn't notice that the person that was on the date with them didn't enjoy it...
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He still sounds rude and also self centered. Did he apologize?
 
i love it when a man can pick me up (lol it's not hard). but idk i love it. in the pool yesterday he kept picking me up and tossing me like it was nothing and i was like HOTTTT.

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All4Tris said:
We've been seeing each other for a couple of months now. Although he has done a few things that are similar to this in the past, it has never been this extreme. He's been down about a few things and maybe that's why it was so bad OR maybe he's showing his true colors!

We had a little discussion about it when we left the show... well the last part when he was darn near at the door while I was still sitting in my seat. He told me that the benefit of sitting in the back is so you can leave first... I told him he needed to learn date etiquette.

Nope, it wasn't a first date. If the first date was like this their wouldn't have been a 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc. If this is his idea of how he's supposed to treat a woman... he's clueless. BTW... we went to one of his favorite restaurants on our first date and he ordered his drink and appetizer as we were sitting down:perplexed. But, the rest of the date was fine. I think he gets so caught up in himself at times, he doesn't realize that he's not the only one around!

It's still fairly new so I'm just observing. He hasn't done this every time but, heck this could just be a taste of who he really is!

This fool thought we had a nice date O_o! I guess a person caught up in self wouldn't notice that the person that was on the date with them didn't enjoy it...
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Ever herd that instead of breaking up with a chick, a guy acts like an asz hopeing shell have some self respect to leave?

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Sorry. Your too good for this.
 
Softerlove said:
Ever herd that instead of breaking up with a chick, a guy acts like an asz hopeing shell have some self respect to leave?

:look:
Sorry. Your too good for this.
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Well he does other things that contradict that break-up method so, I don't think that's the case. I'm leaning towards him being socially awkward. I'm going to talk to him about it again in more detail (something I hate doing) and see how he responds.

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Fine 4s said:
Mortons how are you? The last post I remember was not so great. Were you considering a break up? Stay up!
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I think I always kinda am :ohwell: This relationship has been stressful and its the very beginning. I'm wondering if things will improve or if I will just see more of the same. I'm mostly disappointed because I thought being with someone older would mean they have their stuff together and would be much more easy going and secure. I've quickly learned that age means nothing, as I am the most responsible and secure party by a looooooong shot.
 
I mentioned, just as an idea, traveling somewhere for my bday next weekend. He starts looking up flights immediately and was like so do you want me to book this for you? I wasn't that serious about it but I made sure he knew I appreciated him doing that. He's all the way in Bhutan now...next stop India. I need to send him a list of things I want him to bring back.
 
bf just left. we spent the whole day in bed watching movies and sleeping. yassssssssssssssss... i was so tired all weekend :lol:

yesterday we had dinner with his family + his little sister's on/off bf. cool korean bbq restaurant where we sat on the floor with a hole underneath the table for our legs and coal fires for the table. his little brother wore a complete suit. his mom wondered if shed be underdressed because he was dressed up and she "knew" i would be dressed up too... womp.

speaking of his little brother i remain concerned that he flirts with me. he kept playfully putting food on my plate, had us toast like five times, told bf something about how he'd defend my honor when bf disagreed with me about something. but nobody else seemed at all concerned so, again, perhaps its just his personality.
 
All4Tris said:
Well he does other things that contradict that break-up method so, I don't think that's the case. I'm leaning towards him being socially awkward. I'm going to talk to him about it again in more detail (something I hate doing) and see how he responds.

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If this one was an isolated incident then I kinda sorta understand.

I have a friend who is sorta like this. I've known him for years. He does not like to respond to our texts immediately or return calls....he does this to all of us (one of our mutual friends doesn't deal with him anymore because of it). When we hang it's cool for the most part though...but he's the type to do the least. He ain't tryna add extra money to the bill when we go out, he's not that thoughtful either. I think his gf's are the only people he makes an effort for....and that is very very hard for him. We don't hang often, but since we sort of have a history I deal with him. He is very, very socially awkward. This boy is very inept when it comes to social etiquette.
Recently, he revealed to me that he genuinely appreciates me not judging him because he really does have a hard time with people. He has also been making an effort to show his appreciation....(which at times is awkward because he really is "different").

The other night we hung out and he did something I thought was rude... I realized that even though I care for him, his behavior is not acceptable all of the time. I still keep my boundaries with him and I have had to tell him about himself.

In your case this is a guy you're "seeing".The guy inmy story is a friend who is near and dear to me. this guy is supposed to be impressing you. His actions in the beginning are setting the tone for the relationship. It is imperative that you set your bondaries and keep them. You must show people how to treat you. Especially men! It's that simple.
 
I don't know what the heck is going on but for the last couple of weeks all the guys from my past have been hitting me up! I wonder if it has to do with me getting acquainted with my new friend. We are still getting to know eachother and I like it a lot....aug 10th has to be pushed back though :(....

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Thank you so much for blowdrying my hair! You didn't know what you were doing but I appreciate the effort!
 
I need to catch up in here. I hope all is well ladies. Love is always in the air.

Yesterday we spent the day partying, sunbathing on the beach, ball games and dipping in the spa on the rooftop of his friends condo on the beach. I had a great time but I'm pissed I'm left longing for a real hamburger and Dodger Dog. Before we started the day I told my guy to call his play brother to see does he need anything and what was on the menu. It was a teen bday beach party so they were going to grill hamburgers and hot dogs w/sides. Cool no problem I love dogs and burgers. I specifically asked do they have all the condiments for a real burger when they give this gathering yearly. How da hell you gone have burgers with no tomatoes, sliced onions, lettuce, cheese and pickles? That's condiments fool! I made a bowl of Baked Potato Salad and a ice tea pitcher filled with Jolly Rancher cocktails for the adults.

Allz I know is my dude and all his buddies really think a damn George Foreman is a way of life! LOL I was so mad they had those regular arse frozen hamburger patties. The Dodger Dogs were not boiled in beer first then grilled. Thank goodness I brought a container of food from home and ate in the car prior to going inside. I shol wanted a damn good burger and dog though. I'd have been a pissy drunk hungry piglet messing around with them! Oh well we had fun in the sun nonetheless. Now I'm hungering to make some more Dodger Dogs like I did last weekend.

I've been using my outdoor grill like crazy and making some damn delicious salads to share with my coworkers each Monday. We've been attending Dance Downtown events on Fridays since my pain is under control. Summer is going by too fast!
 
my ex texted me last night at 2:30 asking to see me. i texted him back this afternoon asking if he was srs and he claimed he sent the text at 7pm.:rolleyes: i get texts late occasionally but they always show the time SENT not received and it was sent at 2:30am.

i feel he's gonna need a good cussing out soon.:yep:
 
Today is the last day of my summer break. I have spent nearly everyday with him and our babies. I'm gonna miss just hanging out with them doing fun stuff.
 
He booked our flight, hotel and car for Miami next month. I can't wait! His BFF told me Saturday night that he spends ALL of his time talking about me. He blushed so hard but I smiled like a Cheshire cat.
 
Im looking forward to our road trip to SoCal next month. He seems to think I have a lead foot and is scared that a 8hr drive will turn into 5hrs if I drive (even though I think I could :look:) I'm nervous as to what accomodations we're gonna have, he's planning everything. :look: My only request is that we have to have a pool so I can sunbathe.:yep:
 
if i end the year single, i'm doing something wrong. :lol:

we had district training today & went to lunch with a teacher. she was like, "where do you go to church?" i told her i wasn't religious & she invited me to her church and was like, "there are a lot of young professionals" wink wink nudge nudge.

:lol:

oh texas...
 
Day 8 of the Break up... Feeling Awesome!! Looking to my new Singleness with Expectation, Thinking about going out on a group date Friday... Gotta KIM!!!
 
We're going to inflate the aerobed and sleep on the deck tonight. *sigh* so romantic.

Hope the bats don't get me!

ETA: Last thing I saw were the stars and the moon and the first thing I saw was the sunrise and his face...then the clear blue sky :)
 
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Haven't talked in 2 days. Worried...hope he's ok.
Phew...he just called. I guess they don't have wi-fi in the mountains :look:
 
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It's 4:30 something in the morning...and this is day 5 of my honeymoon. :grin::grin::grin::grin:

We had this for dinner. Fried chicken, steamed brocollini, loaded potato salad, sliced cucumbers and Moscato. :lick:

We were finishing the bottle of wine on the balcony after dinner and watching the waves come in...when somebody decides we should go walk on the beach. He knew I was tipsy...

That's all I remember...lol. Nah I can't handle my drink AT ALL. I woke up sand everywhere...everywhere. Anywho...I had to do some real estate and thought I would check in while homie is in the shower.

*hears water cutting offf* Uh...bye ya'll!!!!
 
love really is blind. my friend is always telling me about her friend from high school whose life choices :nono: (i believe she's the one whose relationship has been compared to twilight/50 shades of grey).

there's a smart way to do things and there's a way of doing things that are the reason why some people are like "absolutely not, never, no".

this is where being young and dumb can basically ruin your whole life. thankfully all of my stupidity had minimal long term impact (babies, financial ruin, etc etc).

:(
 
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