2012 Relationship Random Thoughts.... Part III

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I went today to an art party with a bunch of gal pals. Saw many cute guys. Im acting shy these days. Maybe I'm losing confidence in talking to guys because I feel so out of practice and haven't had any dates turn into a relationship in a long time. Anyway, I saw a cute guy and my friend went over to talk to him for me. She pointed me out and he came over to talk. He was really nice! I think we were both slightly embarrassed. He did ask for my number. I hope he calls or texts. I feel like he won't but I would like for something interesting to happen in my life for once!
 
renewmetoo said:
Soooo having second thoughts about our upcoming nuptials. As much as I hate to admit it, I really did this azzzzzz backwards. *big sigh*
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What's wrong? If too personal, feel free to ignore but hope you work things out either way. *hugs*
 
Spent the last 24 hours in the ER/hospital with FH. He's fine, just a broken leg that needs surgery. I love him so much. Funny enough, before I got the phone call I was so pissed at him I was thinking of going away for a few months. I miss him.
 
still seeing my crush. he's sooo cute (physically but he also says super adorable things). :yep:

still talking to this guy from okcupid. he moves out here in a few weeks. and it's awesome to talk to someone who GETS the things i'm into (we talk about books, working in education, social issues, politics, etc). he may be a bit of a douche as far being an ~educated black men. i'm detecting a little arrogance there (where he has studied/traveled/worked. all very brand name/elite). which confidence with a dash of arrogance can be hot. but anything more is annoying :nono:

we'll see.
 
so ive been thinking about my relationship and my free time and trying to figure out whats different. before i got in this relationship, i indulged leisure activities and went out on a lot of dates. now it seems like i dont really do anything to fill my spare time and im bored. i dont understand how i dont have anything to do now that im dating someone when i used to always stay busy before.

then i realized my hobbies dont really lend themselves to sharing with other people. my hobbies are basically solitary. i like to read or write, and exercise (which i guess isnt necessarily solitary, but i dont particularly like exercise with other people) and plan for the future. those are things that i would get fully involved in and really concentrate on to the exclusion of the presence of other people. so now i feel like i cant have that intense focus on them because i have this wonderful interruption in my life a couple times a week.

i had a good routine being alone and managing my time. but i didnt have any activities that i could share with other people, or that i just DO while being able to do other things, ykwim? so while bf fills his time with biking and frisbee and those dumb games and video games, i feel like i dont have anything i could share, with him or anybody else, as a way of filling my time.

so, im trying to find new things to do to enrich my life. *grumble grumble* the problem being im not particularly interested in much else really. hopefully ill have the balls to try yoga this week. gonna do some research and see what else out there might be a good fit for me.
 
I was on the phone with him a long time knowing I have to go to work for my last day :look:. Im going to pay for it tonight! He said messing with you is going to have my sleeping schedule already more jacked up than it already is. I don't think he minds though.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
tinkat said:
I was on the phone with him a long time knowing I have to go to work for my last day :look:. Im going to pay for it tonight! He said messing with you is going to have my sleeping schedule already more jacked up than it already is. I don't think he minds though.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
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I can relate. My sleeping schedule has been jacked up for the past 6 months, all due to my relationship with my guy. We spent hours on the phone before we even had our first date and we still spend hours on the phone. But I can't imagine it being any other way at this point. I love it.
 
LOL the inventor called me last night, 10 whole days after I called him. I didn't pick up. He's been asking my roommate abt me, talking about "how's our friend doing?" Boy, bye!!!
Yet he never called. He claimed he didn't get my voicemail. I'm sorry, I've never heard of such a thing. Either way, I don't even care to talk to him anymore:lol:

So, he texted today when I didn't acknowledge the call asking what my day and week are looking like. No, sir. You think I'm going to map out my week for you?? Not happening.

So, I ultimately responded: oh, you have my number?
What day do you have in mind?

Him a few mins ago:
Great! I see that you're excited to hang out. I'm free x, y, and z days. I leave for West Africa next weekend.

He must be joking. Little does he know: I have a date Tuesday and I'm out of town the rest of the week. Take that! Hmph.
 
Really? You've been downstairs for at least 3 hours with one of your boys playing NBA 2000 wtf ever year it is. Me, my son, and your daughter 'bout to eat without your ***. Sigh. You can just get in where you fit in on this one.
 
deltadreamland said:
I can relate. My sleeping schedule has been jacked up for the past 6 months, all due to my relationship with my guy. We spent hours on the phone before we even had our first date and we still spend hours on the phone. But I can't imagine it being any other way at this point. I love it.
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Aw, now I don't feel bad..lol. Bc although I enjoyed it I was embarrassed when I looked at the time we were on the phone. I broke a record with him compared to any other guy.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
I hung out with my flirt buddy today and it was fun. We went out to eat and walked around for a bit. He listened to me go through my notes from the CDF conference. I had a good time.




He's an inch or 2 shorter than me. Whhhhhhhhyyyyyyyyyyy I say! Whhhhhhyyyyy???
 
tinkat said:
I was on the phone with him a long time knowing I have to go to work for my last day :look:. Im going to pay for it tonight! He said messing with you is going to have my sleeping schedule already more jacked up than it already is. I don't think he minds though.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
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deltadreamland said:
I can relate. My sleeping schedule has been jacked up for the past 6 months, all due to my relationship with my guy. We spent hours on the phone before we even had our first date and we still spend hours on the phone. But I can't imagine it being any other way at this point. I love it.
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There's a picture on pinterest that I pinned that says, "you're my favorite reason to lose sleep" :yep:
 
deltadreamland said:
Really? You've been downstairs for at least 3 hours with one of your boys playing NBA 2000 wtf ever year it is. Me, my son, and your daughter 'bout to eat without your ***. Sigh. You can just get in where you fit in on this one.
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And as soon as I made this post, guess who comes flying up the stairs, telling his friend good bye, and eating with the family. He knows. <3
 
I love fh... I do, but I am almost certain that he isn't the man for me. Invites have already been sent and we already share a child and an address. No words...
 
renewmetoo said:
I love fh... I do, but I am almost certain that he isn't the man for me. Invites have already been sent and we already share a child and an address. No words...
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If you are sure in your heart that he isn't the one let it go now vs later. I rather deal with canceling wedding plans vs divorce court.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
renewmetoo said:
I love fh... I do, but I am almost certain that he isn't the man for me. Invites have already been sent and we already share a child and an address. No words...
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Did you think he wasn't the man for you when accepting the proposal?

Just asking because it seems a bit last minute. Sure it isn't a last minute wobble/commitment phobia, or " the grass is greener" moment?
 
Vanthie said:
Did you think he wasn't the man for you when accepting the proposal?

Just asking because it seems a bit last minute. Sure it isn't a last minute wobble/commitment phobia, or " the grass is greener" moment?
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I was wondering the same things. It is last minute. Usually around proposal time is when you have to seriously think about whether this is the one. Even if you initially accept that would be the best time to change your mind. I'm not sure how long ago he proposed. Also, cold feet is perfectly normal. Marriage is a huge commitment, even though a lot of people pretend that it's not.
 
renewmetoo said:
I love fh... I do, but I am almost certain that he isn't the man for me. Invites have already been sent and we already share a child and an address. No words...
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I cant tell you what the best decision is, but I can tell you not to stick yourself in a situation for life where you wont be happy. I had a taste of it, and I wont go back. Not for anything.
 
wahhhhhhhhhhh i miss bf... i always feel like i wont even notice if we skip a weekend but then when we do it starts feeling like FOR EEEEEEEEEEEEEVER... hope we're doing thursday this week

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He told me that his brother in Colorado is going to surprise his parents at the end of August with a visit. His brother asked if he wanted to come also. He told me he is going and asked if I wanted to come :). So I guess I will be taking a trip to Pittsburgh next month!

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
tinkat said:
He told me that his brother in Colorado is going to surprise his parents at the end of August with a visit. His brother asked if he wanted to come also. He told me he is going and asked if I wanted to come :). So I guess I will be taking a trip to Pittsburgh next month!

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours. Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
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Nothing but happiness for you!
 
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