idk. i think if a relationship is too much work i might decide that we were just fundamentally incompatible. i dont believe that it should be a struggle for us just to get along and relate to each other. like i follow your comments in this thread and it seems like while you really enjoy being your bf's girlfriend, you guys have some pretty bad communication issues. and every other week youre like welp maybe we're gonna break up. if i were in that kind of relationship id probably go ahead and decide that however much we like each other, it just isnt working and i would be better with someone else. so i guess it just depends on perspective and how much someone is willing to work to fit the pieces together. saying that it's better when the pieces fit together easily - i dont think is a bad view to have on relationships, just because it's true! things are a little more fun when theyre easier, i think