^^^ Unfortunately- that mess is some children’s reality. Some kids get upset with the sibling that has the parent that is providing and will trash their stuff too. Also father’s can’t be providing for an entire tribe all the time- especially when there may be extreme age differences as well.
Yep. I have a nephew like this. I don’t get to buy for his siblings and not him. It ain’t the kids fault their parents are trife.He sounds mean Bc any reasonable person would at least understand her perspective.
A real man would have also given a LITTLE SOMETHING for the other two kids, IMO. I hate it when adults know there are multiple kids in a household and continue to do things for one & not the others.
My family as a whole don’t play that - my cousin gets a new stepbrother = I have a new “cousin”. They both get gifts - maybe not financially equivalent - but still.
Or raise the kid himself...This meme has been going around the Internet for years. Aren't men tired of concocting these scenarios to make single mothers look bad and as reasons for not paying child support? Once that money enters her hands/account he has no control over it. If he wants control, he should buy the supplies himself.
Or raise the kid himself...
GIRL! I wasn't going to go there because these trifling men NEVER consider this as a viable option. They would rather force a woman to be the primary caregiver yet villianize her for assuring that ALL of her kids that live in HER house are taken care of.
That's the exact scenario with my brother. He got 2 for 1 with that human slot machine he laid up with. As trifling as he is, to this day she says he's done more for her than any of her other baby daddies and I'm like^^^ Got you beat- the anecdote that I was speaking of had 7 kids by 6 different men. The only reason two of the kids have the same daddy is bc they’re twins. It’s one of the most situations I’ve ever heard of .
I thank God that they’re white, no relation.
I've posted similar scenarios with no pro male scenario. That said, this is one of the very few instances that I'm on the fathers side. By splitting that money, the mother is punishing both Daddy Do Right AND the kid she had by him. If the kids with dead beat daddy's are coming up short then that is solely on her to hustle up some equality for them.
For those of ya'll who buying gifts for every new non blood related kid added to your tribe
One of my three brothers baby mama's has 6 other kids that ain't his. That's just one brother and one baby mama of I lose count how many. I wish I would call myself tryna be Jewish Santa Claus in that joint. My stance isn't based on my brothers because I care not what happens to their money. My mother was one of them "treat all the kids" the same types. You know what it got her ? Broke. And nan one of them bastids showed up at her funeral. All of her trifling blood grandchildren found a way to be there tho.
If a man is paying support and his child’s mother has other children, there is no way to ensure that the support he pays is going 100% to his kid only. Unless dad buys it himself, his child will not have extra clothes or toys, no more than they’ll have extra food or extra heat and electricity, than the other kids in the home. That’s life. If you want all your money going to just your offspring, don’t have a baby mama. Find a wife, have a child, and spend all the money you want on their school clothes.
^^^ Unfortunately- that mess is some children’s reality. Some kids get upset with the sibling that has the parent that is providing and will trash their stuff too. Also father’s can’t be providing for an entire tribe all the time- especially when there may be extreme age differences as well.