But I think if more women had these type of what I call Standby men who are platonic, at least until/if your situation ends, then there would be less women chasing after some of these men who don't want to be caught or led to water.
Something to think about here... most of us women do get extra focused on whoever is in front of us, then look back after it's over and can't believe the fog we were in. How does one keep that balance? Dating someone seriously while keeping your eyes open?