classoohfive
Well-Known Member
I've never been a mistress, but I was contemplating going on a date with a guy. He turned out to be married, but I didn't know. I wouldn't expect a person to be married and flirting with me the way that he did. He also did not wear a ring. I only found out when I googled his name hoping to find a facebook page or something. The first thing that popped up was a record of his marriage. He had been married for almost a year when he started pursuing me. In my opinion, he never intended to be faithful to his wife if he was cheating that early in the marriage. He was also very stupid, because we had mutual friends. The mutual friends also invited me to stay at their house any time I was in town, and he was their neighbor! His business was located near the place where I worked. There's no way that either his wife or I wouldn't have found out what he was doing if I did decide to start dating him.
My experience was similar. I wasn't really interested in dating anyone when he approached me, but he seemed nice. We were just doing friendly texting every now and then and the occasional short conversation on the phone. That's really all there was since I wasn't really interested and I was in the middle of a semester at school. Every time we talked he would ask to take me out to the movies or dinner or lunch but I was always busy. Just when I considered going out on a date with him, this fool changed his Facebook status to married because he had JUST tied the knot. Based on the date, he had gotten married sometime during the short time he had kept asking me out on dates, which he asked again after the update (didn't bother responding). He didn't wear an engagement ring and she wasn't on his FB page (even when he updated he didn't add her name). I read the comments from the people congratulating him, including the friend that was right by his side the day he asked for my number.
I'm glad I was too focused on school and didn't give myself a social life outside of my family, I don't have time for drama and liars.
I guess he thought he wouldn't get caught since they live about 2 hours away; however we ended up having two mutual FB friends who probably would have told me something if they did see/hear him flirting.