Were you ever someone's mistress?

Have you ever been someon's mistress

  • No

    Votes: 102 71.8%
  • Yes

    Votes: 31 21.8%
  • It's complicated...he was separated, etc.

    Votes: 11 7.7%

  • Total voters
    142
  • Poll closed .
^^^ I don't care what strangers on the net think about my actions to be honest. Otherwise i would not have posted.

Also most of the time I think that what is left unsaid in posts reveals more about the person than what they actually type. Your first post is perfect example.

I may be naive but I actually think that the majority of women do not sleep with married men.

I do agree though that most who do would not feel comfortable with saying so, which is fine.
 
^^^ I don't care what strangers on the net think about my actions to be honest. Otherwise i would not have posted.

Also most of the time I think that what is left unsaid in posts reveals more about the person than what they actually type. Your first post is perfect example.

I may be naive but I actually think that the majority of women do not sleep with married men.

I do agree though that most who do would not feel comfortable with saying so, which is fine.

*shrugs* Ok. You're free to assume what you like. :yep: That's okay with me.
 
I have. I was much younger and believed the whole "we're getting a divorce" story. I fell hard and certainly did love him and I do believe that he loved me as well. He did in fact divorce his wife, however by that time reality had already kicked me in my a$$. I got smarter about the situation and realized that if he could do it to her, we would most definitely do the same to me... I walked away from the situation and never looked back.
I know some probably wouldn't admit to it out of shame and backlash, but I'm human and we all make mistakes... It's what I learned from said mistake and corrective measure that I took is what made me into the woman I am today.
 
a friend of mine, yes a FRIEND, though after what she did i looked at her differently.. well, she carried on an affair w. her boss. he was newly married w. a new baby. in return for her sexual services, he would give her money. like a lot. this guy was pretty loaded.

she met this guy's wife and everything. she said something kind of puzzling though. she said she would be upset if the guy were to be w. anyone else. its okay that he's w. his wife, and she wanted him to stay with her, but that if he were to get another sidepiece she'd feel as if he's cheating on her and she'd be very upset and hurt by it.

but i mean.. isnt that what she was doing to the wife? i dont get how sidepieces could be hurt that a cheater is cheating.
 
:drunk: :lachen: :lachen::lachen:
Of course, no one has been a mistress. :look: Everyone just has friends that have been. :blush: The upstanding ladies of LHCF wouldn't dare. :nono:


I don't know if this was directed at me, but since I was the only person who posted details about a friend, I'll respond. :)

First, I don't consider myself all that upstanding. Secondly, It really was my friend. I advised her against it, but ppl do what they want to do. The closest I've come to being a mistress was when I had a weird friendship with a married man, who didn't tell me he was married when we met. There was also a thing I had with a guy who in a relationship. But it never progressed to anything physical. I guess it was more of an emotional affair. I think I posted about that situation here awhile back.


But neither of those stories are very interesting IMO. My friend who was sleeping with the married doctor was a much more juicy tale. :lol:
 
I don't know if this was directed at me, but since I was the only person who posted details about a friend, I'll respond. :)

First, I don't consider myself all that upstanding. Secondly, It really was my friend. I advised her against it, but ppl do what they want to do. The closest I've come to being a mistress was when I had a weird friendship with a married man, who didn't tell me he was married when we met. There was also a thing I had with a guy who in a relationship. But it never progressed to anything physical. I guess it was more of an emotional affair. I think I posted about that situation here awhile back.


But neither of those stories are very interesting IMO. My friend who was sleeping with the married doctor was a much more juicy tale. :lol:

It was a light-hearted comment that's being taken very seriously I see, but it wasn't directed at anyone. You were not the only one that said that, but either way it was a joke.

If any other poster would have said it, no one would take it soooooooo seriously. But this isn't the first time and I'm sure it won't be the last.
 
I met someone while he and I were single, we became close and invlolved intimately. He was the first and only guy I knew and became close to in a new city. he reconnected with his ex, they eventually got back together so we stopped for a while. They got engaged and every now and then we "went there" eventually I stopped completely because i felt bad, was tired of coming second to someone i had strong feelings for and i didnt want karma to get me too bad lol.
 
Yes, my man is currently married. He says he will leave his wife but no paperwork has been filed yet. He has to get his money together. It is weird that he had money to go to the soccer game at the MetLife building last weekend. I am just so grateful to be with him, rather than be all by lonesome and MANLESS. I believe he will leave her and that he does love me. Do you guys think I am wrong? I am not a homewrecker. Gosh, just the thought of him makes me smile! We're going to the movies tonight at midnight right after she falls asleep. It makes it easier that way. :)
 
Yes, my man is currently married. He says he will leave his wife but no paperwork has been filed yet. He has to get his money together. It is weird that he had money to go to the soccer game at the MetLife building last weekend. I am just so grateful to be with him, rather than be all by lonesome and MANLESS. I believe he will leave her and that he does love me. Do you guys think I am wrong? I am not a homewrecker. Gosh, just the thought of him makes me smile! We're going to the movies tonight at midnight right after she falls asleep. It makes it easier that way. :)


:lachen:

Lemme guess you got pregnant too?
 
Yes, my man is currently married. He says he will leave his wife but no paperwork has been filed yet. He has to get his money together. It is weird that he had money to go to the soccer game at the MetLife building last weekend. I am just so grateful to be with him, rather than be all by lonesome and MANLESS. I believe he will leave her and that he does love me. Do you guys think I am wrong? I am not a homewrecker. Gosh, just the thought of him makes me smile! We're going to the movies tonight at midnight right after she falls asleep. It makes it easier that way. :)
:lachen: Now watch somebody come in here and take this seriously.
 
Mai Tai said:
I've never been a mistress, side piece, or jump off, but I do have 2 friends that were both unknowingly mistresses.

Both had gotten engaged to their SO, we're very close with the man's family and everything. Once they found out that they were actually the other woman they both quickly ended it.

How did that happen? Those men's families were grimy too!
 
How did that happen? Those men's families were grimy too!

Oh yes, I have experienced how grimy families can be, even the MOTHER. She will treat you like you are the only and bestest thing that ever happened to her son. She will tell all her friends that you are the love of her son's life, her future daughter in law, etc and treat you like gold. All along she knows all his dirty secrets and hides them right along with him...VERY WELL.
 
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OK, fess up..

I want to hear stories from those who are in it RIGHT NOW..and have no expectations of it being anything more than what it is.:lol::lol::look:.
 
How did that happen? Those men's families were grimy too!

FlyyBohemian

Gurrrl! You will be surprised how many of the men's families are in on the joke.

One of the women that I know who was an unwilling-mistress ended up becoming best friends with her "fiance's" sister. I mean they were tight, and she NEVER told my friend that her brother (my friend's "fiance") was actually married AND still living with his wife and kids.

My friend went to family functions, traveled with the sister, and everything and not one person told her. When the sh-t hit the fan, she ended the friendship with the sister, and had to deal with the wife who started stalking her. This man was well on his way to having 2 lives.

The whole time she is telling me the story, my jaw was seriously on the floor. I told her she needs to write a book and make some money...
 
I was almost one. Did some research, found out the truth and let that ni99a go. Come to find out that he and the wife are currently divorced.
 
Some women are wives, some women are mistresses, most women have played one role, or the other to a man in her life at some point!
 
Now I understand why that member here made a thread suggestion about having an incognito feature.
This would be the perfect time.

You will NEVER hear a woman on here confess being a mistress. With all the UE Unicorns around here who piss glitter and can never do any wrong, no one here is going to admit to their faults. :rofl:
 
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I've never been a mistress, but I was contemplating going on a date with a guy. He turned out to be married, but I didn't know. I wouldn't expect a person to be married and flirting with me the way that he did. He also did not wear a ring. I only found out when I googled his name hoping to find a facebook page or something. The first thing that popped up was a record of his marriage. He had been married for almost a year when he started pursuing me. In my opinion, he never intended to be faithful to his wife if he was cheating that early in the marriage. He was also very stupid, because we had mutual friends. The mutual friends also invited me to stay at their house any time I was in town, and he was their neighbor! His business was located near the place where I worked. There's no way that either his wife or I wouldn't have found out what he was doing if I did decide to start dating him.
 
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Lucie said:
Yes, my man is currently married. He says he will leave his wife but no paperwork has been filed yet. He has to get his money together. It is weird that he had money to go to the soccer game at the MetLife building last weekend. I am just so grateful to be with him, rather than be all by lonesome and MANLESS. I believe he will leave her and that he does love me. Do you guys think I am wrong? I am not a homewrecker. Gosh, just the thought of him makes me smile! We're going to the movies tonight at midnight right after she falls asleep. It makes it easier that way. :)

awwww damn. this is the only one ive seen posted that will surely come back to haunt the poster :look: even if its a joke :look:
 
DrC said:
Now I understand why that member here made a thread suggestion about having an incognito feature.
This would be the perfect time.

You will NEVER hear a woman on here confess being a mistress. With all the UE Unicorns around here who piss glitter and can never do any wrong, no one here is going to admit to their faults. :rofl:

You mean you don't piss glitter? :perplexed


:lol:


In all seriousness i had a friend who's dated a married man for a long time as an adult. He was an abusive monster, and all our friends agreed that she was stupid for getting involved and we would not trust her around our men. I think it stems from a traumatic early sexual experience she had in high school, though she has not gotten to that point in therapy where she connects all the dots yet. :ohwell: homegirl just started finally :nono:... one of the music teachers was having an affair with her. She blames herself his being fired, despite the fact that he was the adult in the situation and CLEARLY persued her while she was a minor.

The older i get the more appalled at his behavior, but i had to give her the side eye when she was dating an older abusive (much) older married man. :nono:

I think you have to be damaged to rationalize that as kosher.

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