Were you ever someone's mistress?

Have you ever been someon's mistress

  • No

    Votes: 102 71.8%

  • Yes

    Votes: 31 21.8%

  • It's complicated...he was separated, etc.

    Votes: 11 7.7%
  • Total voters
    142
  • Poll closed .
levette

levette

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Take this poll. I hold no judgments against anyone who has done this. Just curious
 
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levette said:
Take this poll. I hold no judgments against anyone who has done this. Just curious
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You may not hold judgment, but since this thread is wide open. there will be a whole lot of judging going on. :lol: This is just a war waiting to happen :yep:
 
I've never been a mistress, side piece, or jump off, but I do have 2 friends that were both unknowingly mistresses.

Both had gotten engaged to their SO, we're very close with the man's family and everything. Once they found out that they were actually the other woman they both quickly ended it.
 
levette said:
Take this poll. I hold no judgments against anyone who has done this. Just curious
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Even if you don't hold judgement against the people who take the poll, LHCFBI will.

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PSA for newbies: This is not Vegas. What happens in this thread, will not stay in this thread.

No comment on the question, which shouldn't be construed as anything but no comment.
 
nope. not as far as i know. but one of my really good friends was a mistress for a good 2 months. knowingly. he had a wife and kids in another state, was finishing up his fellowship, she moved the kids first so they could get adjusted to school or whatever. he and my friend were both at fault... they both wanted it, and put themselves in compromising situations multiple times before they finally went ahead and did the deed. she said it was the best sex she ever had.

i had another friend who cheated on her wife. several times.

lol my girlfriends are crazy. i'm the most straight laced out of all of them.
 
Mistress? No, he wasn't married. But he did have a kid and long term girlfriend.

I didn't know it at the time.

I found out in the grocery store whilst getting Gatorade his daughter ran up, grabbed me by the ankle, she followed the 2 year old and asked "who are you?".
 
Syrah said:
Mistress? No, he wasn't married. But he did have a kid and long term girlfriend.

I didn't know it at the time.

I found out in the grocery store whilst getting Gatorade his daughter ran up, grabbed me by the ankle, she followed the 2 year old and asked "who are you?".
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Omg!! What happened next?
 
Syrah said:
Mistress? No, he wasn't married. But he did have a kid and long term girlfriend.

I didn't know it at the time.

I found out in the grocery store whilst getting Gatorade his daughter ran up, grabbed me by the ankle, she followed the 2 year old and asked "who are you?".
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Did you say, 'Your new momma.'?
 
I answered no. But I see that you have it's complicated he was separated. Are you still considered the mistress if he is separated and has filed for divorce?
 
Yes I have. Unknowingly though. I reconnected with an ex. He was in a different state at the time. His wife called me up months later saying they were married and had a child together. I was heartbroken. He even lied about the state he was in. Now I do alot of investigating.
 
Nope. Not even unknowingly. But I *just* dodged a bullet with someone who was persuing me that I met a few weeks ago, because his wife called. I didn't even so much as hold his hand and all my conversation was G rated. ( he was very gentlemanly and polite :ohwell: ).

I don't consider a few conversations over a two week period of as being involved with someone and never have.

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Syrah said:
Mistress? No, he wasn't married. But he did have a kid and long term girlfriend.

I didn't know it at the time.

I found out in the grocery store whilst getting Gatorade his daughter ran up, grabbed me by the ankle, she followed the 2 year old and asked "who are you?".
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Oh wow......
 
runwaydream said:
:lol: why ya'll givin warnings and sh*t. just let folks answer the question
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:lachen::lachen::lachen:

No, Not knowingly. But I've been in situations where the person had a gf. In my entire life, I've received maybe 3 phonecalls that went something like, "Is this so and so? Well I'm his gf and we live together and/or have a child.

This happened shortly after us meeting. And in all three cases the women appreciated me for the way I handled the situation with respect and dignity and I left dude alone immediately. I need to be the only one, I dont play harem games.
The last woman wanted to continue being some sort of aquaintance. She'd call me every now and then just to vent and receive comfort. (I believe it was initially to keep track of me) I remember one of her last phone calls to me was to tell me that she finally left his trife butt and moved on to educate herself and raise her son alone. I always thought that was strange, but it didnt really bother me. I last heard she was married and happy. --Found that out recently through a friend of the trife dude.
 
I remember one bullet I dodged. The guy lived a few hours away but we worked for the same branch so we crossed paths a lot. We had been talking for a couple of months & finally was okay with him driving to town to visit me- he would stay in a hotel so there would be no automatic assumption of hanky panky. Anyway the convo goes like this:

Me: What's that I hear in the background?
Him: oh, it's my kids....
Me: UMMMMMM, YOU HAVE KIDS?! First I'm hearing of this! How many? How old? What? Who? When?
Him: Here, say hi. (Puts kids on phone)
Me: *pause/blank stare*
Him: Can we talk about this later though, I can tell you're upset, but I had my reasons for waiting to tell you.
Me: We'll DEFINITELY talk about this later. But moving on....did you hear ***** is cheating on his wife?! Ugh! Can't stand that!
Him: You don't know what that man's going through right now.
Me: *pause/blank stare*
Me: Wellllll, I know he went through a wedding, and a reception, and he went through some vows with a ring & a signed legal certificate and stuff. That's all I have to know.
Him: I mean, when me and MY wife separated..."
Me: Wait, wait, wait. Hol' up. You're married???!!!
Him: I'm SEPARATED. Well- But I do still live with her right now... for the kids.
Me: *click*

That didn't even make sense, even if I were stupid enough to ride along his crazy train. Anyway, turns out years later he got caught with multiple women...some of which complained he gave them an STD. All I could do was thank everything that is Holy that I didn't caught up.
 
Unwittingly. Going with dude for several months before I found out. I made a blog about it. One of the most painful experience I had ever had. Nearly lost ma damn mind. Which is not normal for me because I am a nut cracker and never fall hard for anyone. But he got me good......


I never envisioned being someone's side piece ever! Imagine my shock when I found out I was!
 
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Yeah. When I found out I dumped him. It was like cutting off my own arm. I was hysterical with grief. My family was worried about my sanity. Yet I felt good that I refused to continue to put myself into a position that I felt was less than I deserved.

I don't regret having that experience though. Before I met him I swore I would never get married. After I fell in love with him I wanted him to be my husband. I realised that, even if he left his wife and became my husband, he would also cheat on me. But loving him kinda turned me onto the idea of marriage. Shortly after I got over him I met DH.

I feel that experience led me to being married AND appreciating my DH more.

Saying that, I still think that women who knowingly and repeatedly sleep with married men are skanks. I have a couple in my family who only go out with married men and always swore I would never be like that.....
 
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I know of a few acquaintances who were married and whose husbands were very unfaithful, irresponsible, and just trite. So they took it upon themselves to have 'other' relationships. One girl even justified that she was separated and he cheated first, so therefore she was moving forward with her life but never filed for divorce. Even though she carried on this affair with the other guy for a year, She was hoping they (her and hubby) would work it out.

Another friend of mine dated this guy for 9 months who she assumed was divorced ( wife and kid lived in another state) , but legally they were still married. She left him shortly after. I would have done the same... I would not be able to accept dating someone who is married by paper, even if they have been separated for years who live in different states.
 
:drunk: :lachen: :lachen::lachen:
Of course, no one has been a mistress. :look: Everyone just has friends that have been. :blush: The upstanding ladies of LHCF wouldn't dare. :nono:
 
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evsbaby said:
I have been. I said it up thread. Have you? Hence the cackle?[/QUOTE]

Relax. It's not that serious. The point is that average person is not going to answer this for the various reasons stated in the first 3-5 posts. You can't be that transparent here and that is common knowledge.



:lachen:I've seen enough to know not to tell my business here. I think it's great that you felt comfortable enough to share. Sometimes we all need an outlet, but for me I've learned this is not it. :nono:
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