Ladies, I really, really, really, need some help. I have finally started dating the man of my dreams. He is kind, gentle, sweet, understanding and a great catch. I can tell that he really loves me a lot, he shows it and has no problem expressing it. We talk about the future cause both of us are about to graduate from college, and we have a lot of fun being together.
Well today he googled my username (not this one) but another one that I used to have on another site in 2009. So some posts that I made in June 2009 came up, unfortunately it was about sex. I posted a thread about having the worst sex ever in a forum that was...well an adult forum. I had about 8 posts total in the entire forum and have not posted there since 2009. I also posted about some stuff that I liked in other threads where that was the topic.
Prior to posting that stuff though, I was in a relationship for 5 years. I was beaten, and mentally abused for the last two (really three but I was stupid and did not see the warning signs) and I got the hell out of that and started to date someone about 5 months later just to kinda cut loose, date, have fun and yes..we had sex. I went thru counseling after that last person I dated cause I was really depressed and drinking a bit. I went back to school, got promoted at work, lost weight, started to feel better about myself and then I met him.
Well he text me today, after he read that and he called me a whore, told me I was filthy and that he did not want to sleep with me because I may post about on a message board. He text me everything that I have ever posted and then he dumped me and told me that I was fake. I apologized and explained everything to him, and he forgave me. But then he started to cry and tell me that I was a whore again. I tried to call him again and he said he was gonna go to bed and that it was too hard for him to talk to me.
I changed a lot since 2009. It may have not been forever ago, but I really made steps to get over that and move on and it kills me that he saw that, but I cannot take it back. As of the last time we talked, we are still together, but he kept reading my old posts and even took screenshots of them. He said that I crushed him and that he didn't know what to do with me.
I feel so bad, and I cannot stop crying. He really made me feel like dirt, and I feel low like I did back then. What can I do?
He called you a whore and filthy. He's not wonderful...when the chips are down he will kick you (again) if you let him. The names are telling of the kind of person he is. I won't even get into his detective work which is a whole other bag of b.s. I think it's a done deal and should be left in the past. I think instead of apologizing and feeling guilty for a time in which you felt you were depressed, you should be more concerned with the way this guy is talking to you now: you said you were mentally abused before, can't you see the signs? He's not a prize so be happy he cut you loose and kim. You deserve someone who loves you for who you are (and your past) and someone who won't fly off the handle calling you names. I'm sure they're out there. I'm sorry you're in this situation but I hope that you can see it for the gift that it is. Who knows where this relationship was going to lead? This verbal abuse is only the beginning imo.
He's going to be blowing her up because some men are dogs. You run and they chase you. I can smell dog all over her original post. And you know he cursed his mom out, any man that can let the "w" fly, doesn't have any respect for women starting with Mom.
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PREACH, THE HYPOCRISY IS HILARIOUSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS 
I'll google a potential. I'll just have some tact when I bring it up in conversation. 
