I'm sure it's rare. We had a relationship prior to him making that statement, and we had been broken up for about a year
I know this is serious but I got a good laugh reading this thread.
...I'm kinda suprised it led to discussion...![]()
Me too... but I think what did it was when Krazy mentioned that she wanted to help him be a better man... suddenly... MESSAGE TIME!!!
I'd actually flip it back on Krazy (OP) and ask her what exactly this "male friend" is to her. They kiss, and they talk bi-weekly...define that! I've got male friends, and the ones I call "friends" are strictly that - there is no, "one night we had too many drinks and woops!" about it...
I don't mean to be "blunt" but I'm just going to put it out there - I sense a lot of "insecurity" that is hidden under sexual attachments (and by sexual, I mean male-female and various levels of activity). It's that "bad attention is better than no attention" type thing.
I'd actually flip it back on Krazy (OP) and ask her what exactly this "male friend" is to her. They kiss, and they talk bi-weekly...define that! I've got male friends, and the ones I call "friends" are strictly that - there is no, "one night we had too many drinks and woops!" about it...
I don't mean to be "blunt" but I'm just going to put it out there - I sense a lot of "insecurity" that is hidden under sexual attachments (and by sexual, I mean male-female and various levels of activity). It's that "bad attention is better than no attention" type thing.
He sounds like my guy who told me during the summer that having sex with him would be one of the smartest decisions I ever made. AND THEN PROCEEDED TO EXPLAIN TO ME WHY.
He wasn't talking all that mess once his girlfriend and I were in the same room though![]()
erplexed
Why are you even 'talking' to him? His character is as plain as day. He's not a nice man.Nah he was perfectly sane. The first thing that came to my mind was, maybe he has no girl because in the first sentenance he said "I haven't had a piece of &(% in 3 months) I'm like dang is that how you think of women? He says all kind of off the wall stuff like that... Sometimes I think he is slow
For instance...He's going to IRAQ in April....tell me why did he sign a ONE YEAR lease....(not six months or 3 months...one year)he was just estatic. Earlier I told him that I didn't wanna be in a relationship with a person who doesn't have responsibility...(This was his way of showing me)...I'm like...babe...so basically you gonna be paying a note on an apartment you're not living in...in IRAQ? He was like....yeah but....I GOT AN APARTMENT aren't you happy?
He is sooo lame to me. He hasn't done anything to break our friendship up, but I don't even like talking to him on the phone...my IQ goes down a gew points everytime!!
YPDATE:
He tried to explain himself again last night
He said he just felt so right...so hott...so perfect when he was with me, and he would love to share the experience with me...it would be full of so much passion you know cuz he know how to put his thang down....
GOODNITE!!
Hold up Hold up. Just for the record we were friends were a few months, and began dating.I immediately knew he wasn't for me and we broke up after a few weeks of dating. So duhhh we kissed during the time we were together :crazy:
Another thing, don't be quick to make assumptions about this and that about my life. Come correct. What I tell yall something on LHCF there are no additional strings, ghosts, or details. In fact I don't even indulge in sexual activity, and haven't for a few months now. I don't appreciate that ish AT ALL![]()
Direct some of this fiestiness to that nasty little boy.![]()
Eh I wouldn't even bother with the friend stuff. This guy is being all out disrespectful. He asked, and you told him you weren't interested. He's still pushing the issue and being down right gross about it. It's funny now but really it's not cute. In his mind he has reduced you to one of the those pieces of #$$ by even coming out of his mouth with that mess. I would shut him down and wish him well on his tour.
How about a dude called me up to say absolutely nothing. I was sitting in silence for about 2 minutes, then I said...umm...wassup?
He said he was just thinking and decided to call me up. I said oh, that's nice. Then he was like, aren't you going to ask what I was thinking about? (Then the stupidity begins)
Me: Not really...It's none of my bizz....
Him: I've been fiening it's been 3 months since my last piece of *$%
Me: That's rather disturbin...thanx for tellin me that bit of info. But eh that's why your hands were created eh?
Him: Oh I don't do that...that's nasty but I was just thinkin
Me: Thinkin what
Him: You owe me. You remember that time we kissed and I wanted to have sex and you said no or your period was on or something. Well we should F%*& now....
Me: I owe you nothing but a goodnite. Bye
Now he wants to text me that I'm wrong for that....and at least he was showing an effort and it aint his fault that he tryna work for it but his dream girl ain't feelin him
Is he retarted?
...I don't mean to be "blunt" but I'm just going to put it out there - I sense a lot of "insecurity" that is hidden under sexual attachments (and by sexual, I mean male-female and various levels of activity). It's that "bad attention is better than no attention" type thing.
SimpleKomplexity said:Hold up Hold up. Just for the record we were friends were a few months, and began dating.I immediately knew he wasn't for me and we broke up after a few weeks of dating. So duhhh we kissed during the time we were together :crazy:
Another thing, don't be quick to make assumptions about this and that about my life. Come correct. What I tell yall something on LHCF there are no additional strings, ghosts, or details. In fact I don't even indulge in sexual activity, and haven't for a few months now. I don't appreciate that ish AT ALL![]()
SimpleKomplexity said:True....I am going to pull back from him. I rarely speak to him now, maybe once or twice a week....And yeah he does have low self esteem....hmm maybe that's why I try to help...I know how that feels. But I think he thinks a girl will magically save him from his depression and boredom with life....that's sad
SimpleKomplexity said:Instead of saying, I have power like I thought I was, I was shouting to the whole world I didn't love myself and I had to seek love my having sex with others. Sex made me feel secure, happy, and beautiful, but it was only short lived.
I've tried so hard in the past to become celibate but it has never worked? Why? Because I didnt want it to. Over the past year I've become sort of like a sex addict, always looking for a new high, instead of looking for the high inside of me.
I asked myself, how long could this continue. How long could you hold on to exes or friends with benefits who care nothing about Kristen on the inside. If I was so content with just being "Friends w/ benefits" why did I feel so empty inside?
How about a dude called me up to say absolutely nothing. I was sitting in silence for about 2 minutes, then I said...umm...wassup?
He said he was just thinking and decided to call me up. I said oh, that's nice. Then he was like, aren't you going to ask what I was thinking about? (Then the stupidity begins)
Me: Not really...It's none of my bizz....
Him: I've been fiening it's been 3 months since my last piece of *$%
Me: That's rather disturbin...thanx for tellin me that bit of info. But eh that's why your hands were created eh?
Him: Oh I don't do that...that's nasty but I was just thinkin
Me: Thinkin what
Him: You owe me. You remember that time we kissed and I wanted to have sex and you said no or your period was on or something. Well we should F%*& now....
Me: I owe you nothing but a goodnite. Bye
Now he wants to text me that I'm wrong for that....and at least he was showing an effort and it aint his fault that he tryna work for it but his dream girl ain't feelin him
Is he retarted?
I'm surprised he hasn't stalked me today....
Me: That's rather disturbin...thanx for tellin me that bit of info. But eh that's why your hands were created eh?![]()
I rarely speak to him now, maybe once or twice a week...