I could hear my younger brother saying the same thing. My mom never wrapped or rolled her hair at night, so I didn't grow up doing it either. I learned how to wrap my hair when I got to college, and now I don't wrap it (or roll it)except the first night after I straighten it. I tried wrapping every night, but it's just not for me. I also sleep in one place- with no movement.
My little brother didn't grow up around women wrapping and rolling their hair. He also didn't see us in sweat pants and big old T-shirts. We always had PJs and night gowns. His expectations will be different. He actually told a girlfriend in high school that she should do her hair like his sister because he didn't like those styles she wore. Imagine a 10th grade boy trying to tell his girlfriend that she should rollerset her hair. LOL
I don't think any guy LIKES head scarfs. Some are more tolerant than others, but the would prefer to run their fingers through our hair. As for wanting a "fantasy girl"... It's TRUE. They want us to be perfect- sugar and spice and everything nice- but they don't want to know about the maintenance. Just like they know we have to go to the restroom, but most guys don't want to hear it, see it, smell it, etc. They just want us to be perfect all the time. I'm sorry, but it's true. There are exceptions, but most are that way. Deal with it or find an exception!