FemmeFatale
Well-Known Member
In your opinion why do you think black men (on a macro level) aren't as marriage minded as men of other races?
Because overwhelmingly, they're getting the benefits of being married without having to make it official.
^^^This is a problem from all women of all races, not just black women.
It is, but why is our group affected the most?
So you believe that it's the bw fault even though women of other races "hook up" with their men at the same rate and their men still desire marriage..?
It is, but why is our group affected the most?
I agree with MzLady. Even though I think there are other reasons, I think it all boils down to a lot of them getting what they want without having to commit.
Men have options that we as women do not, and they exercise them accordingly..
Tis all~
Contrary to popular belief, I knew a lot of ladies in college who were about their books and finding a mate. The brothers just weren't ready.
Because overwhelmingly, they're getting the benefits of being married without having to make it official.
This is it in a nutshell. I can't help but notice the women who place blame on men for not being marriage minded all seem to share certain characteristics.
Marriage is for women to earn and keep whether we accept that or not. Go hard or go home... ALONE.
This is it in a nutshell. I can't help but notice the women who place blame on men for not being marriage minded all seem to share certain characteristics.
Marriage is for women to earn and keep whether we accept that or not. Go hard or go home... ALONE.
This is it in a nutshell. I can't help but notice the women who place blame on men for not being marriage minded all seem to share certain characteristics.
Marriage is for women to earn and keep whether we accept that or not. Go hard or go home... ALONE.
This is it in a nutshell. I can't help but notice the women who place blame on men for not being marriage minded all seem to share certain characteristics.
Marriage is for women to earn and keep whether we accept that or not. Go hard or go home... ALONE.
On a macro level I think it's American cultural conditioning and the absence of so many of their fathers. In my view black men with absent father/husband figures seem to be the group most impressionable when it comes to programming influence (tv/media/music/internet). It produces a lot of ego-centered sheep who don't really even know how to be husbands, let alone see the benefit of marriage.
Black men I know who are/were marriage minded either had a strong example in their immediate surroundings growing up, whether it was their married parents, grandparents or aunt & uncle. A marriage that made them say "Hey, when I grow up, I want to have what they have". And/or they are/were in touch with their spirituality and had a solid individualistic identity, above the influence of programming and their peers.
A man who desires to be a husband, will make choices to become a husband. Just like a woman who desires to be a wife makes choices to become a wife. Not enough men desire it for the amount of women that are ready for it.