Ok I'm not trying to fan the flames but I was thinking about this just this week and then I saw this thread so here goes.
I have net been, I didn't realized it until now, but I haven't been trying to be married in the past. I have dates for ther sake of dating but it wasn't the same kind of dating that I have seen women do who are trying to find a husband.
Example 1: My mom. She used to tell me the story of years that she liked one guy more than my dad BUT my dad was better married marterial and had a plan for his future, He was a betterm an to have childern with. And yes she loves him. She says that the other guys was better looking but he is now still living down in ther boonies of MS. Not her kind of life style. She was dating to find ther best man to marry.
Example 2:
I recently hada collegue of my date and marry with two years. She was totally on ther prowl for a husband. She went to church and christian dating sites looking for a potential man. And she was calculating at dating. She knew what she wanted and if he did add up he was gone. It was interesting to watch. I now tell friends of mine that complain about having a husband about her. She was all about finding ther right husband. I'm not saying he is AWESOME. But she found the guy for her.
Example 3: My dear sister
DS has alwyas liked ther exciting guys (ther bad boy) if you will. She really wanted to settle down andh ave kids be boring get ther house ect but whenever that guy came along he couldn't keep her interest. He married an exciting guy and after a 5 year marriage he left her while she was pregnant. She has since met a nice boring guy which she appreciates more now that preivous. It was after alot of though about ther type of man she wanted to be with and fit with her new life style. He is a good guy I've met him
last example ME:
As I sad, never really thought about marriage until now, I have finally been considering it and realize that I was just dating the people who came around and not screening people for the possibility of where things are going. I think a lot of my firends are like this. We have had other things going on til now with careers, school, ect and it wasn't a priority. My dad though me to be independent and that what I have been focusing on the last ten years. Luckily I have gotten there.
I disagree with people that say you don't know where a relationship will go. If you use some insight you can get a generalized idea where his head is and if he is just looking for play. It about looking at actions and not listening to words. Men are doers, a good man is anyway.
Now let ther stones be thrown