Kawaii1
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Basically.... although I don't get down with rubbing tits on the chest. I know it happens but that is foreplay. I guess I don't agree with grinding. It should not occur. Those private shows can get quite raunchy.
So you don't have problem with strippers at his bachelor party.Bride's story.
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Basically.... although I don't get down with rubbing tits on the chest. I know it happens but that is foreplay. I guess I don't agree with grinding. It should not occur. Those private shows can get quite raunchy.
**Glamourlicious**
Well-Known Member
I don't understand the NEED for strippers but I understand why men do it.
If my honey has a bachelor party...I want to know NOTHING about that night. That will be his final night of being single with his boys. There is to be no fingers...toes...tongues...ears...nose...genitalia...ANYTHING touching... LOL He can look all day and night...but NO touching...and no tipping over 20 bucks! (We are in a recession) LOL But beyond that...we are fine. I will let him know...if HE has strippers...I will ALSO have strippers. LOL Usually that clears up some things for us. LOL
In this story...I don't think her FH did anything wrong. Sounds like harmless drunken guy stuff. And the strippers...hey...they were just doing what they do daily...their jobs. Those strippers are not there looking to take the groom home...they are looking for a paycheck. Like I said...it's a recession. Heck the stripper would prolly spank her also if she paid her. So I think that if she decided to "allow" her man to have strippers...she should have just left the details unknown...I mean if your trust him...why do you need the details of his final night of singledom?! Just my .02
If my honey has a bachelor party...I want to know NOTHING about that night. That will be his final night of being single with his boys. There is to be no fingers...toes...tongues...ears...nose...genitalia...ANYTHING touching... LOL He can look all day and night...but NO touching...and no tipping over 20 bucks! (We are in a recession) LOL But beyond that...we are fine. I will let him know...if HE has strippers...I will ALSO have strippers. LOL Usually that clears up some things for us. LOL
In this story...I don't think her FH did anything wrong. Sounds like harmless drunken guy stuff. And the strippers...hey...they were just doing what they do daily...their jobs. Those strippers are not there looking to take the groom home...they are looking for a paycheck. Like I said...it's a recession. Heck the stripper would prolly spank her also if she paid her. So I think that if she decided to "allow" her man to have strippers...she should have just left the details unknown...I mean if your trust him...why do you need the details of his final night of singledom?! Just my .02
AnnDriena_
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Giirrrrrl you know good and full well men don't play that. Talk about ego and double standard.
This is the part I don't like about the whole thing. Why is he acting like he'll never have fun again now that he is marrying you?
And another woman on that board made the point that most of these strippers that do private shoes are nothing more than prostitutes who don't work at the "classier" clubs that provide some sense of security and other benefits. They will do anything for a buck and then add alcohol and judgement goes out the window. That's what alcohol does. It lowers your inhibitions.
UmSumayyah
Well-Known Member
If you're engaged to be married, you aren't single.
Caught in the supply closet with your co-worker, letting strippers pull your pants down... same thing imho.
Caught in the supply closet with your co-worker, letting strippers pull your pants down... same thing imho.
MissNina
Libra Girl
I firmly believe that some women just pretend to be ok with it because they know their man is going to do it anyway.
Even though I personally truly don't care nor see the big deal, I agree with this statement. Obviously, in this story, the fiancee wasn't really okay with it otherwise she wouldn't have reacted the way she did over that little incident. However, it actually makes some sense to me why a woman would pretend to be okay with it if she wasn't.
From a logical standpoint, if the man is getting ready to marry you, why get into this whole big argument, potential break up or have him just str8 up lie to you over one night out of 365 days in the year?
Unless he frequents strip clubs now or he has some kind of addiction (which hopefully you would know before now), he will not be going to the strip club on a regular basis when you're married either. It just would seem like less hassle and strain to just let him do him with a few stated boundaries here and there.
Ramya
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This was not a "little" incident. Having a woman spank your bare behind is not normal nor little. In any other setting most women would be hot. Her being a stripper doesn't make it different. She was wrong to lie and say she was OK with the situation when clearly she was not. He was wrong for seeing his fiance's discomfort and doing it anyway and crossing boundaries within their agreement.
Sugar Brown
New Member
I admit I don't understand the Bachelor party / stripper connection. What man really wants to have his face in a strippers booty and then put those same lips in his new wife's face on their wedding day/night?
but
in this case I can't figure out why FW gave FH a thumbs up on having strippers in the first place then felt like she wanted to hear all of the details then got sick when they whupped him with his own belt.
but
in this case I can't figure out why FW gave FH a thumbs up on having strippers in the first place then felt like she wanted to hear all of the details then got sick when they whupped him with his own belt.
MissMeWithThatIsh
New Member
Well....
I definitely agree with the OPs points, and I feel some women think they cannot ask their fiances not to have strippers and have those wishes respected with no further questions or lies or deceptions (aka doing it behind their back) occuring.
I honestly would not have minded if my DH had strippers, because I trust him not to cross the line in any way I would find inappropriate. I spoke to him about it, and he stated, "No good would come from a bachelor party anyway, at least not for the man being married, and many men just aren't mature enough to make a decision not to engage in those things."
I agreed, but added, "If I met you, and you were into the strip club, then I would have to make the decision then and there as to whether or not I was okay with it. I would have also needed to make a decision as to whether or not I would be okay if this was something that would be a part of your life even after being married. I can't change you, you have to change you, and I can accept the situation or not."
I think she was okay as long as she thought he would have been like, "Yea I was there but all I could think about was you, and I couldn't even enjoy myself!"
I definitely agree with the OPs points, and I feel some women think they cannot ask their fiances not to have strippers and have those wishes respected with no further questions or lies or deceptions (aka doing it behind their back) occuring.
I honestly would not have minded if my DH had strippers, because I trust him not to cross the line in any way I would find inappropriate. I spoke to him about it, and he stated, "No good would come from a bachelor party anyway, at least not for the man being married, and many men just aren't mature enough to make a decision not to engage in those things."
I agreed, but added, "If I met you, and you were into the strip club, then I would have to make the decision then and there as to whether or not I was okay with it. I would have also needed to make a decision as to whether or not I would be okay if this was something that would be a part of your life even after being married. I can't change you, you have to change you, and I can accept the situation or not."
I think she was okay as long as she thought he would have been like, "Yea I was there but all I could think about was you, and I couldn't even enjoy myself!"
Theo
New Member
I personally don't see myself having a problem with strippers (I mean, they're just looking right?), but I'm not engaged yet. I may feel very differently about it when the time comes around. The way I see it, many happily married men watch porn.... both alone and with their wife. Not much of a difference to me. As long as its within moderation.
If my husband wants to have a bachelor party, honestly, he can do what he wants. I'm not going to give any rules or stipulations because I think that's silly. I would feel very silly telling my husband no touching/ bodily fluid exchange like I'm keeping him from doing something he wants. If he still wants to be motorboating random *****s he doesn't want to get married to me! I shouldn't have to tell my future husband not to disrespect me at his bachelor party.
If my husband wants to have a bachelor party, honestly, he can do what he wants. I'm not going to give any rules or stipulations because I think that's silly. I would feel very silly telling my husband no touching/ bodily fluid exchange like I'm keeping him from doing something he wants. If he still wants to be motorboating random *****s he doesn't want to get married to me! I shouldn't have to tell my future husband not to disrespect me at his bachelor party.
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