There is so much going on in this post that I don't know where to start. Everyone is human and everyone can make a mistake. I suggest that you distance yourself from this man and work on your issues and loving yourself more. I understand that he may have helped you feel better during a difficult time in your life but I would be leery of a man who counsels you daily about God and your problems in life but would not turn to the same God for counsel about his problems in his own life/marriage.
I hope this will send up red flags for some sister in the future.
Everything he said is in the "Slimebag man who is trying to get into the panties" handbook. Girl all he said was game, pure D GAME. Don't fall for it. He will not leave his wife, his life isn't that bad, and you certainly not DIFFERENT. Not being harsh, but please get over yourself he don't want you. If he did, he would say "Hold that thought", let me take care of this business with the wife and kid and if you are still interested after I am divorced we can try. Again, he is kickin straight GAME to you and you are falling for hit hook, line and sinker.
Don't strive to be a sideline peice. You should want to be "The One" and you won't be with him. If he is telling the truth and you end up with him, you will have to be Miss Suzie sunshine daily because he has already proved that when his mate isn't his ray of sunshine he will bounce. Again you are not different.
Fool still wouldn't have gotten jack shyt from me. Because I'd be on the receiving end of that divorce second time around after I pop out a baby for him and I'm not sally sunshine 10 seconds post child birth.
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I decided to stop all the contact also..I know that i can not try to forget and see him too ! Im in love but not completely dumb (even if i acted like i was)
Chile, please. Do not be dumb, ok?
Seriously.
You already know better.
Aint neither one of y'all in love.
You are vulnerable and he showed you some attention. Don't confuse this with being in love.
That individiual is married. If you are into your faith like you claim you are then you know that continuing anything with him will mark you both as adulturers in the eyes of God.
Leave this situation.
You sound like a nice person but don't let your fleeting emotions take you further than you want to go, keep you longer than you want to stay or cost you more than you want to pay.
T.D. Jakes is that you cuz' you preachin' girl.
I second the thought about men not wearing wedding rings. There's no excuse for it.
And I would like to share my story with you all. he
A guy at my job was sweatin' me hard and when I was moving gave me his number. Well my friend helped me move and I didn't call workboy and he said one day, well you have my number you can always use it. I told him to call me. We started talking and he would come over to my place and watch movies and I'm thinking cool because I wasn't trying to pay for $4 a gallon gas. But one night things went further than I wanted. Kissing but still further than I wanted for some guy who hadn't taken me on an official date. Sure he would bring food to my house whenever I wanted but i didn't have my standards written down and thoroughly thought out and in place at the time so I'm flying by the seat of my pants with just my general morals (no sex or nudity. No genital contact. That sort of thing).
Well I start to tell him I'm going to come over to his house and he's all cool with it. I tell him he needs to take me on a date. Cool. That weekend comes and he stood me up. I get to work monday heated. He didn't answer his phone all weekend. I'm ready to rip him a new one. Turns out his son got into an auto accident. He's telling everybody about the accident and I'm glad I kept my mouth shut.
Next weekend. Stood me up again. Didn't answer his phone. We get to work monday and he says his son walked into the living room and said he didn't feel good and fainted. He took him to the hospital and was there with him and when he finally answered his phone he even had messages from his mom mad at him for not picking up his phone.
Well a co workers mother works at the prison and the co worker was telling me her mother told her that he was sleeping with a woman at work and his live in girlfriend of 20 years found out and they were arguing in the parking lot. I go to talk to the chick he was sleeping with back when this happened and she tells me she and the girlfriend didn't argue but talked about it and they are actually on friendly terms now and that I should go talk to her because she is really cool.
She also told me that the guy doesn't have one kid like he's been telling me. He's got two
. and that he has slept with many women who work at the prison. I'm heated now.
So I confront him and he tells me all kinds of lies and I kept going to the people he is telling me the lies about and bust him big time. So the live in girlfriend has found out about this in the mean time. And the chick on the side from the past told me the next day that the live in girlfriend was acting funny so she knows he told her about me. Well weeks later he's claiming to be single again to some other women in the office and so I finally go talk to the live in.
She was soooo nice. She said when she confronted him about it he tried to say I came on to him and she yelled at him "Don't try and blame this on her!"
She was very sweet and quotin' all kinds of things about the Lord. And although I left with a very good impression of her I don't put too much into people preaching about the Lord and layin' up and making illegitimate children with scumbags. Sorry if that offends anyone. I'd say the say thing about someone quotin' allah and then eating ham sandwhiches on the side.
So in short this guy was scum and when I sensed something wasn't right I put the brakes on and started asking questions and demanding answers and his game fell apart. Come to find out now that the side chick from back in the day (sweetheart too) works with me and him in the same department now she's filling me in on homeboy. He once paid a welfare friend of hers with a large screen tv for sex.
He's a pitiful wanna be yound sex fiend who will do and say anything to try and stay in the game with the young women. Anything.
Always ask nosy questions and demand answers if a guy wants anything to do with you.
. I was in very bad period psychologically speaking.And one day during a break he came to me and ask me why i feel so sad..I said that i ve got some problems in my life etc and he asked me what was i my religion, i said catholics and he answered : good me too. After that he talked to me about God etc during hours and i feel so good so quiet after that...Every time we met, he supported me talking about faith and telling me that i have to believe that God can make everything possible etc..Days after days i i realized that he made me open my mind spiritually speaking....but also that i was falling in love wiyh him ...not because of all he said about religion but because he was there for me and because i liked his manner, his mind and i liked being with him..but problem i knew he was married with a 18months year old daughter...So i didn't even try to seduce him.
It's a ruse and I don't care how good this man talks, speaks and makes you feel. No man of God would prophesize to you and then sleep with you.
