erplexed Poor OP, I hope you can find something in this train wreck of a thread that will be beneficial to you. 
Jus' sayin'
loox at my signature* Okay you don't know my situation.
And, no, you don't have the same privileges. You just...don't. But you've got it all figured out.
Tell you what. I pray to God nothing happens to your "man", but guess what if he dies or leaves you? You'll find out soon enough just what kind of wife privileges you DON'T have Keep banging, though.
ps. Cosigning w/ your post.
ps. Cosigning w/ your post.
I think it's a real video, but he's not making that face in it.
This is all just sooooo.... "searching for word here".....rich...yeah rich! And disturbingly derailed!
It's okay to disagree for us to disagree with each other.
She asked for advice.
I think that is kind of the way he views it, us being together so long it's kind of like marriage, but I would have no legal rights regarding him because our being together is not recognized by law. And I think that it is really special when you make an official commitment in front of God, family and friends that you want to form a union, and make it legal.
she asked for advice... not to be bashed for her living choices and to be criticized for living with a man, having children and not being married. She didnt ask fo all that.
She has kids and some of us want the best for her. Sometimes the truth hurts, but I do understand what your saying. Another poster kept making posts about their living arrangements and some of us left the original OP alone because we had already said our peace and started to address the other poster because the other poster kept coming back in the thread, to defend her living arrangements, we then started replying back to her and her posts. Anyhoo, enjoy your weekend.
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Princess4real
I was talking about this post.
I couldn't pm you. So, I hijacked the thread.
On the order of 1,400 legal rights are conferred upon married couples in the U.S. Typically these are composed of about 400 state benefits and over 1,000 federal benefits. Among them are the rights to:joint parenting;
joint adoption;joint foster care, custody, and visitation (including non-biological parents);status as next-of-kin for hospital visits and medical decisions where one partner is too ill to be competent;joint insurance policies for home, auto and health;dissolution and divorce protections such as community property and child support;immigration and residency for partners from other countries;inheritance automatically in the absence of a will;joint leases with automatic renewal rights in the event one partner dies or leaves the house or apartment;inheritance of jointly-owned real and personal property through the right of survivorship (which avoids the time and expense and taxes in probate);benefits such as annuities, pension plans, Social Security, and Medicare;spousal exemptions to property tax increases upon the death of one partner who is a co-owner of the home;veterans' discounts on medical care, education, and home loans; joint filing of tax returns;joint filing of customs claims when traveling;wrongful death benefits for a surviving partner and children;bereavement or sick leave to care for a partner or child;decision-making power with respect to whether a deceased partner will be cremated or not and where to bury him or her;crime victims' recovery benefits;loss of consortium tort benefits;domestic violence protection orders;judicial protections and evidentiary immunity;and more....
Last night my SO and I were watching the T.O. show (which I rarely watch) and started talking about interracial dating and the state of black families today.
Well long story short he started talking about when he was at the barber shop with his friends and they were talking about black women. The men in the shop were defending black women and my SO was defending the reasons not to date black women
(Here's where he really messed up) So he continues to talk about their conversation and say's that he told them that if he was to ever "settle down" he would settle down with a latin girl !(I'm 100% black)
Soon as he said that I shut down completely, I asked him how could he make that statement when we have been together for almost 7 years ? And I know that I have been a good woman to him.
So he back peddles and says that he was just trying to "stir the pot" . I didn't buy it. I told him that since he knew he had a good black woman at home he should have been talking about that and not how he wants to settle down with some latin chick!
A latin chick has'nt been there for you for 7 years, helping pay the bills, raise our children, and cooking every night !
I was very hurt and embarrassed by his statement especially since his barber knows me.
He thinks that I am over reacting, but he just doesn't understand I tried to use the analogy of me telling my friends that I would want to settle down with a white man (even though I have a perfectly good black man at home) and it totally flew over his head.
I'm giving him the silent treatment right now because I don't know what to say, am I being too sensitive here ?
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