Should A Guy Ask For U To Come Over ...

[summerof1990]

if he hasn't invited u on a date..

Or asking to come to the house is just a more informal way to meet someone these days.. before a date???

Should I say yes to a come chill date if I don't know him also should he pick me up or if he ask me to drive over that's a absolute Nono.

orrrr am I overthinking ??

I'm 26 he's like mid 30s

 

[biznesswmn]

How long have u known him

How did y'all meet

 

[TwoSnapsUp]

He is in his mid 30s and can't bother taking you out on a date?

 

[ladysaraii]

The answer to all your questions is a big fat hayle no. ESPECIALLY if you don't know him. He could be crazy. He could be psycho. He could try to chop you in pieces. You don't know him.

And even if you do know him, he needs to take you on a date. Unless you just want a quick screw, say no to the come and chill

 

[MzLady78]

He can ask but you should decline.

 

[sarumoki]

Lol I was expecting you to say he was 20. People still act like that at 35?

 

[movingforward13]

He is in his mid 30s and can't bother taking you out on a date?

Exactly how I feel...

He is trying to see what little he can do before you give him some. If you don't set the tone that he has to do much- don't expect it later.

 

[lesedi]

 

[RocStar]

The question shouldn't be if a guy should ask you to come over, the questions should be why would a woman even consider this an option. There is no such thing as a "chill date." It is called dating and not chilling for a reason.

Don't do it OP. Move on to the next. You deserve more.

 

[hopeful]

And if he presses the issue after you decline, block him. You do not have to explain to anyone why you don't want to be alone with a stranger or that you want to be taken out on proper dates. Being taken out on proper dates is the bare minimum. How he will have shot at getting to know you.

 

[summerof1990]

How long have u known him

How did y'all meet

I actually don't know I just met him at the gas station

 

[RocStar]

I actually don't know I just met him at the gas station

Are you serious? Are you trolling? I can't tell.
(Serious question)

 

[lesedi]

I actually don't know I just met him at the gas station

Wait, he just stepped to you and asked you to go to his house?

 

[boudoir]

Op cmon snow sis.

 

[summerof1990]

So the thing is I just have the feeling he going to invite me over...

and once I ask a location and direction he says a home address

I guess I'll leave him alone too bad real smooth game nice looking good body and exp car.... ugh

But a girl is allowed to thot one night in her life right

I say if I do choose to go over at least he's not a broke one....

 

[MzLady78]

I actually don't know I just met him at the gas station

I KNOW you know better.

 

[lavaflow99]

This is all kinds of unsafe. You haven't even vetted him with several conversations. Please say no to the house date. If he is genuine, he will be patient and be ok with a proper date after proper conversation.

 

[lavaflow99]

So the thing is I just have the feeling he going to invite me over...

and once I ask a location and direction he says a home address

I guess I'll leave him alone too bad real smooth game nice looking good body and exp car.... ugh

But a girl is allowed to thot one night in her life right

I say if I do choose to go over at least he's not a broke one....

If you want to thot for a night, do you boo! Just be aware that there could be/will be consequences.

 

[TwoSnapsUp]

So the thing is I just have the feeling he going to invite me over...

and once I ask a location and direction he says a home address

I guess I'll leave him alone too bad real smooth game nice looking good body and exp car.... ugh

But a girl is allowed to thot one night in her life right

I say if I do choose to go over at least he's not a broke one....

So you would rather be a "thot" to a man just because he has an expensive car? That's what he is banking on, Sis. You're younger than him and clearly easily impressed. That's why you are only getting house visits. Please want more for yourself. Just because he seems well off doesn't mean you need to make yourself his jump off.

 

[Bunnyhaslonghair]

Absolutely not. Unless you just want casual sex with this person. If you want a relationship yall need to be going on formal dates, imo.

Chill= booty call/buddy in my mind.

 

[summerof1990]

Op cmon snow sis.

I mean what would Amber Rose do?? Loll

 

[LovelyRo]

He would be blocked!

 

[MzLady78]

So you would rather be a "thot" to a man just because he has an expensive car? That's what he is banking on, Sis. You're younger than him and clearly easily impressed. That's why you are only getting house visits. Please want more for yourself. Just because he seems well off doesn't mean you need to make yourself his jump off.

Not to mention the fact that there's a thread currently going that proves that just because a man has money doesn't necessarily mean he's gonna spend it on you.

 

[Bunnyhaslonghair]

Lol I was expecting you to say he was 20. People still act like that at 35?

Girl yes! And they try this with girls in their twenties because they are the only ones (not all) who still fall for that crap.

 

[summerof1990]

Wait, he just stepped to you and asked you to go to his house?

Lmaooo no I gave him my number

 

[Bunnyhaslonghair]

So the thing is I just have the feeling he going to invite me over...

and once I ask a location and direction he says a home address

I guess I'll leave him alone too bad real smooth game nice looking good body and exp car.... ugh

But a girl is allowed to thot one night in her life right

I say if I do choose to go over at least he's not a broke one....

So he hasn't asked you yet?

Well first off dear, you cannot read minds. If he indeed does ask you to go to his house then you've already gotten all the proper advice.

 

[summerof1990]

Wait so y'all judging a girl who looking for a right now..

Or even a "Netflix buddie "should have a date night?


Im only judging if it's a guy not doing nothing for himself and broke no image at all...

But if engineer pull up in a Maserati (ex) good looking y'all looking for something short term even a come chill is less of?

 

[hopeful]

Not to mention the fact that there's a thread currently going that proves that just because a man has money doesn't necessarily mean he's gonna spend it on you.

Right. And just because he spends it on you doesn't mean he likes you either or is a good catch. Bare minimum, takes you on a proper date and pays.

OP please don't go over a stranger's house. No man is that fine. A fancy car isn't worth risking your safety. Bad guys come in all socioeconomic statuses. You don't want to be alone with any man you don't know.

 

[movingforward13]

People - quick - post some BGAE links that reflect this situation... Here is mine -

'Women today “talk” they don’t date. They get texted and sexted, but they don’t get courted. When’s the last time you were taken out by a guy you actually liked? Sure the dudes who you don’t find attractive will trick StruggleBees 2 for $20 money on you, but why is the guy you really want to be with only offering “Ay, come through I want to see you, sexy.” Telling you to come through to chill is all the respect he has for you, and clearly it’s all the respect you have for yourself when you accept that offer to come over and chill instead of being a ****ing Spartan who says, “Queens don’t come through *****, they get taken out!”'
http://blackgirlsareeasy.com/2015/05/date_like_a_spartan.html

I say if I do choose to go over at least he's not a broke one....

But he asking you to go over his house.... he may not be broke but if he isn't spending it, he is useless.

 

[summerof1990]

Forgot to add not looking for a husband. Lol