I totally get what you're saying. I've never understood this mentality. Why exactly are you waiting until your achieve these things again? How is being married going to get in the freaking way? I would think waiting to have kids would make more sense to me (again just speaking in general, not directed at this situation).
I was thinking of folks of a certain faith, who abstain before marriage, and don't use BC.
In that
particular situation, I can understand a
little more choosing to wait to get married, because once that cat is out of the bag - well, honeymoon babies happen. And if you want to be a stay at home mother, or have an exceptionally heavy school/work load - I
can understand that. A little.
I can even understand it from a man's POV, esp. if he is the kind of man who expects/demands that he will be the provider, and he is still in school and cannot yet afford a family - so he wishes to wait until he graduates and is a little more established.
In
neither of those situations, however, would the engaged couple be
living together, nor making babies together - because they would value marriage to each other - and if either of those things DID happen to pop up due to circumstances - there wouldn't be a 'wait' for the wedding, there would be two people going to the Justice of the Peace the Monday after those double lines showed up, or the morning before the mortgage/lease was signed.
*sigh*
So, I can see it happening - and working - sometimes.
This ain't one of those times. Esp. considering she ain't the right race of woman to be 'worthy' of being settled down with. Umph.