GetHappy2014
Well-Known Member
@ArcticFemme & @*CherryPie* I can relate to both of your responses , *CherryPie* I too am usually thought of as the one that got away. ( I know to some it may sound egotistical) I have never had an issue with dating or relationships. When I was ready to settle down I did and when I wanted to remain single I did. I actually enjoy the game. But I think my level of confidence and self esteem plays a big part. I can be as sweet as pie to my partner but I have never ever been a doormat, and men discern that very quickly. I agree with ArcticFemme that women have studied men for centuries. However, I think Black women have been at a disadvantage in this area. So this all may seem new to some of us. Other cultures have been honing their skills for 'catching a man' for years. Whether it's through arranged marriages or through their college curriculum 'find your husband before you graduate'. As for Black women's strategies we have been so laxed in this area that now we have other races (Beckys) creeping into our territory. I think this book and books like these are necessary and helpful for some, as for me they are wonderful reinforcements, to what I've known and practiced for years.