It's funny, when my hair was relaxed I was never longer than SL and didn't care all that much. I didn't start caring about length until after I went natural, I thought big loose hair was amazing. Now that I have locs and they are headed towards APL I love them even more. Longer hair makes me feel more effortlessly feminine - like it speaks for itself. I'm sure this attitude is mostly in my head but I also think long hair is intrinsic to feminine mystique in some way