I'm Thanking My Gut Right Now

[TinyBlu]

...so Mr. Attractive is already starting to show his true colors.

We're still meeting for dinner tomorrow (I'm SOOOO curious about how he will act), but our phone conversation (which still seemed a bit one-sided) has raised a few red flags already.

As I said, he's quiet. When he speaks, he's very eloquent, but the times we've talked, it just seemed like he had a smooth (playa) comeback for everything. I even brought it to his attention tonight our conversation. I blatantly told him that everything he says seems like a line. Seriously, some of the things he says leave me thinking "Do women really respond to this SH**" I also told him that authenticity is the sexiest quality on a man for me and I think I heard crickets chirping.

Of course, he offered to pick me up (which I declined), then he wanted me to meet him at his house so he could drive me to dinner... I simply responded "Would you mind if we just met at the restaurant?" He went with it, but I could tell it was reluctantly.

The rest of the conversation (if you could call it that) entailed me asking a question to which he would respond but would not ask me a question in return (indicating that he's really not interested in learning about me)

DRUM ROLL PLEASE... the flags really started waving when he asked what I was doing for New Year's Eve. I told him I didn't have any plans... this joka says "Maybe we can get out of town for the evening" WTH?!?!?!?!?! I gave him an emphatic NO.

What have I missed these last two years? Do relationships move this fast?

Clearly, he's a PLAYA and gets a kick out of the chase. Ten bucks says he's going to try to stick his tongue down my throat tomorrow.

Yes, it took me six years to respond to his advances, and this will definitely be short lived. Wow...

 

[awhyley]

So why are you still meeting with this joker tonight?

 

[Pat Mahurr]

So why are you still meeting with this joker tonight?

My question as well. I mean it sounds like you genuinely dislike him. Any further research (6+years in) seems a waste of time unless your goal is just to prove yourself right.

 

[Leeda.the.Paladin]

I agree. Time is precious. Why waste anymore with him?

 

[intellectualuva]

Cancel the plans and/or take yourself out on a date. Dude is clearly rubbing you the wrong way.

 

[Evolving78]

If you go out with him, you will end up having sex, or whatever. You still have the ball in your court. He has clearly shown you his hand. If you go out with him, you lose, unless that is what you want. This man is a wolf.

 

[TinyBlu]

So, he called this morning to say how excited he was about our "date," and I told him that I didn't FEEL like we were headed in the same direction, and cancelled the date.

When he asked why, I explained that I was uncomfortable with an invitation to an overnight trip so early in our getting to know each other (I didn't mention in my post that he wanted to fly me to Vegas to bring in the New Year) ... that I need to get to know someone before spending that kind of time with them...

HIM: "We've known each other for six years..."
ME: "We've known OF each other for six years. We're just now interacting and getting to know each other..."

5...4...3...2...1...MELTDOWN

HIM: "So you're saying you're not used to having a mature man in your life that knows how to spoil you and treat you like a queen..." (GASLIGHT MUCH???)
ME: "No, I'm saying that I move slower than that."
HIM: "...which may be why you've been single for two years. Older, mature men don't waste time chasing someone indefinitely..."

At this point, I didn't feel the need to defend WHY I made my decision, so I was about to give him the "I hope you find what you're looking for," closing statement, and this A** CLOWN says

"It's not like you're the only one on my list of potential invitees. There are plenty of women that will happily accept my invitation and don't expect me to beg to spoil them. Good luck with Spinster-hood." CLICK.



BULLET. DODGED.

 

[Evolving78]

You have come too far. You have done so much self work. We are gonna be your accountability partners! Cancel the date and stand strong!

 

[Evolving78]

So, he called this morning to say how excited he was about our "date," and I told him that I didn't FEEL like we were headed in the same direction, and cancelled the date.

When he asked why, I explained that I was uncomfortable with an invitation to an overnight trip so early in our getting to know each other... that I need to get to know someone before spending that kind of time with them...

HIM: "We've known each other for six years..."
ME: "We've known OF each other for six years. We're just now interacting and getting to know each other..."

5...4...3...2...1...MELTDOWN

HIM: "So you're saying you're not used to having a mature man in your life that knows how to spoil you and treat you like a queen..." (GASLIGHT MUCH???)
ME: "No, I'm saying that I move slower than that."
HIM: "...which may be why you've been single for two years. Older, mature men don't waste time chasing someone indefinitely..."

At this point, I didn't feel the need to defend WHY I made my decision, so I was about to give him the "I hope you find what you're looking for," closing statement, and this A** CLOWN says

"It's not like you're the only one on my list of potential invitees. There are plenty of women that will happily accept my invitation and don't expect me to beg to spoil them. Good luck with Spinster-hood." CLICK.



BULLET. DODGED.

Thank you Jesus! Glorrraayy! I’m proud of you!!

 

[CarmelCupcake]

Glad you were able to see his true colors before investing more time

 

[Leeda.the.Paladin]

Omg, he couldn’t even be gracious about it. His loss.

 

[awhyley]

So, he called this morning to say how excited he was about our "date," and I told him that I didn't FEEL like we were headed in the same direction, and cancelled the date.

"It's not like you're the only one on my list of potential invitees. There are plenty of women that will happily accept my invitation and don't expect me to beg to spoil them. Good luck with Spinster-hood." CLICK.



BULLET. DODGED.

Onto the next ------>

 

[awhyley]

Just wanted to post some more accolades.
Don't have time to waste on 'shady' characters. There'll be plenty of holiday parties . . . . and men.

 

[TinyBlu]

Just wanted to post some more accolades.
Don't have time to waste on 'shady' characters. There'll be plenty of holiday parties . . . . and men.

LOL!!! Thank you!!

 

[PrissiSippi]

You go girl!!

 

[RoundEyedGirl504]

Good for you, even when we can't really articulate it, we can feel something is off.

 

[lavaflow99]

He's garbage and glad he showed his hand early. And yay for you OP for recognizing that something didn't feel right about him and exploring it more.

Next!!

 

[ChasingBliss]

5...4...3...2...1...MELTDOWN

HIM: "So you're saying you're not used to having a mature man in your life that knows how to spoil you and treat you like a queen..." (GASLIGHT MUCH???)
ME: "No, I'm saying that I move slower than that."
HIM: "...which may be why you've been single for two years. Older, mature men don't waste time chasing someone indefinitely..."

At this point, I didn't feel the need to defend WHY I made my decision, so I was about to give him the "I hope you find what you're looking for," closing statement, and this A** CLOWN says

"It's not like you're the only one on my list of potential invitees. There are plenty of women that will happily accept my invitation and don't expect me to beg to spoil them. Good luck with Spinster-hood." CLICK.



BULLET. DODGED.

MATRIX STYLE GIRL...DONT FORGET THAT!

 

[ChasingBliss]

Everything about him screams narcissism.

 

[ArrrBeee]

Yaasss! Girl! Yaasss!

So proud of you for listening to your intuition, not defending your choice to cancel, doing the work, and not falling back into familiarity.

Well done sis!

 

[Nay]

Wow, what a loser. Kudos to you for nipping that nonsense in the bud. His feelings were so hurt

 

[hopeful]

Wow, what a loser. Kudos to you for nipping that nonsense in the bud. His feelings were so hurt

They really were . He’s like I waited 6 years, kept sniffing around for 6 years to still be told no . And that’s really all she did. Said no. And nicely. And had every right to. She doesn’t even really know this man. OP found out why she wasn’t feeling him all these years.

 

[Nay]

And why is it when you tell some sucker "no," he has to try to insult you with, And that's why you are single, blah, blah, blah. When guess what? Being single is still head and shoulders better than being with you, Fool!!

 

[hopeful]

And why is it when you tell some sucker "no," he has to try to insult you with, And that's why you are single, blah, blah, blah. When guess what? Being single is still heads and shoulders better than being with you, Fool!!

Right?! And haha they are single too! So what about that? Why do they think they are single?

 

[lavaflow99]

And why is it when you tell some sucker "no," he has to try to insult you with, And that's why you are single, blah, blah, blah. When guess what? Being single is still head and shoulders better than being with you, Fool!!

Right? They think these "insults" will be painful coming from them? Umm no....it makes them even more comical and a bigger joke. And only reaffirms the decision to reject them. Loser.