I have read and digested what everyone has said, first I would like to say thank you, from those who said they didnt see the point of the thread to those who gave solid advice. I know that traditionally most couples try very hard to make sure that they are completely faithful to the other person, they dont look at others, they dont give there number out, nothing. Im not saying that this is not a great way to have a relationship because it is but for an early twenties couple that is almost impossible. I definetly dont want to stay like this the rest of my life or even for much longer, so eventually i do want a completely committed relationship. My question now is since we have already started the relationship and I have been lenient to where i let his eyes wander and his conversations with others go, do yall think it'll will be too much in the future to ask him to stop at least the majority of his flirting. Yall are right, I do care. I want to make the right decision, and even though I love my semi-freedom and the love and attention that he does show me, I want to make sure that i am not blind sighted and ten years down the line figure out that im not happy. Hope that was clear. :-/
I strongly disagree with the bold. It is quite possible for people in their 20s, 30s, or whatever else to be in a relationship where they do not do the things you outlined. There is no such thing as impossible. It comes down to what is most comfortable for the couple involved. IMO people often don't want to accept responsibility so they project responsibility onto everything else. Whatever way you (or I or anyone else) behaves is because YOU (we) want to behave that way, because of one's personality, character, and their decision to act on temptation, options, etc.. Own it.
I say all of this from the perspective that the relationship you outlined in the OP is not "wrong" so long as you and your SO are comfy with it. I don't adhere to the idea that every relationship must work a particular way. There's no one size fits all
Though I would call that more than flirting based on what you outlined in your OP, it seems you guys have some what of an open relationship.
Now that I'm learning that you don't want this kind of behavior on both your parts to continue for much longer I have to revise my original answer. It depends on whether he wants that as well. Some people are just "free" like that and disappointment is sure to follow when we expect things from people they do not want to and therefore can not provide. The only way to know is to ask him and to watch his behavior.
Generally speaking, habits are hard to break.Someone will of course say "oh but I did XYZ and then I stopped cuz' that's how I roll", but for every person out there who did X,Y, and Z and suddenly stopped there are 5 people who continued the same pattern. People are pattern orientated and this applies to both women and men, you and him. In my experience *most* people who are naturally loosey goosey remain that way esp. when the temptation is great, they simply get better with age at covering their tracks. That is, unless *they* want to change.
To summarize, all things are possible. Talk to him and see if you guys are on the same page regarding timelines and terms. Don't assume anything. Match the words with the actions. You also have to ask yourself if you're really ready to break certain modes of behavior because often ppl fall back on their nature/habits during rough patches. Know what you really want, what he really wants, and what both of you can realistically provide the other.