Mai Tai
Miss Nigeria-America
Dont be scurrrrred honey! Get some KY and condoms and have an all day freak fest!
...I think I'm still a virgin??
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Dont be scurrrrred honey! Get some KY and condoms and have an all day freak fest!
qchelle
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Chantelle09
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Yeah it takes a while to get used to having sex if your a virgin & the other party doesn't have much experience either. I think your a virgin till your cherry pops, you'll know because there will be blood all over the sheets.
Also if your not lubricated enough, whether from using KY jelly or naturally it will be more painful & take longer to penetrate. First times should always be with someone you like or know because it might take more than one attempt.
Also if your not lubricated enough, whether from using KY jelly or naturally it will be more painful & take longer to penetrate. First times should always be with someone you like or know because it might take more than one attempt.
LovelyNaps26
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thinking about this i'm reminded of a young woman in a similar situation. she went to the doctor b/c she wasn't feeling well and after a few tests her doctor asked her if she was sexually active and she basically told him the same story. she did make an attempt but the act wasn't fully complete. the doctor 's question was rhetorical b/c he knew the answer. basically he said that the guy must of had some really determined sperm because she was pregnant. imagine one sorta kinda first time and the girl ended up pregnant. 
she wasn't happy, to say the least. this isn't a cautionary tale, just to say that whether or not anything snaps, crackles or pops i still think sexual activity means one is no longer an official card carrying member of the V-club. it is what it is.
she wasn't happy, to say the least. this isn't a cautionary tale, just to say that whether or not anything snaps, crackles or pops i still think sexual activity means one is no longer an official card carrying member of the V-club. it is what it is.
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kmn1980
Emoticons don't affect me
Nope. Doesn't matter. I'm married with two kids and I don't always have a "reaction" when me and my husband get it in (no pun intended). I think you watch too much television.
It didn't go in "far enough" for a "reaction" but it went in. That's all that matters. Personally, I think you should wait until you're married but since that ship has sailed, in the words of Thomas Palmer circa 1840:
"If at first you don't succeed, try, try again."
Mai Tai
Miss Nigeria-America
Not all the time...didn't happen to me but then again...I discovered toys before boys...
Ok I'm done qchell
ThePerfectScore
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the worst reaction in the world is when a man really does on in and hits your cervix... lord have mercy was that the most painful thing about losing my virginity... I was all achy after that sorta like cramps. Not to scare you.... but it took me a moment to realize what that sensation was. Your cervix should only be touched by your gyno...
qchelle
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Not all the time...didn't happen to me but then again...I discovered toys before boys...
Ok I'm done qchell
Why you gonna put it in white huh? I fixed it for ya
carcajada
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If you're gonna watch porn with him and you have no experience, watch some boring, amatuer, fat people porn...they tend to not move as much. Because if you watch some porn star, screaming, hollering, squirting, and carrying on...that ish can phuck your mind up about what it's supposed to be like. And you might end up with all these impossible expectations as to what it should be like.
I have no experience with the previously mentioned happennings
inocchio *sings* you've got no strings to hold you down...lol
Shinka
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You may want to consider some foreplay to help you both relax and get everything nice and lubricated to add some ease to the situation. Not to be funny, but please make sure he is aiming right. Cause I know many of educated and uneducated couples who were aiming for exit and not the entrance
I agree with the penetration folks, once its penetrated even a little, the Big V is gone. Don't worry sweetie, lots of women don't enjoy their first time for various reasons.
There's nothing to be scared off, but don't try again until you're relax. Tension and anxiety wont help.
Happy lovemaking
VelvetRain
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the worst reaction in the world is when a man really does on in and hits your cervix... lord have mercy was that the most painful thing about losing my virginity... I was all achy after that sorta like cramps. Not to scare you.... but it took me a moment to realize what that sensation was. Your cervix should only be touched by your gyno...
Ain't that the truth. The pain from that is unreal.
song_of_serenity
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Again. That's SO not true!!! Some are born without a hymen and it's just a thin piece of mucus membrane that can break so easily, especially if you're an active girl.
This misunderstanding of "Oh, all virgin bleed when they first have sex" is what makes women in countries dominated by male rule resort to getting surgery to actually GIVE them a surgically created hymen (I know some do it just to be a virgin again, so to speak in the west.
) and some even sneak a caplet type thing in their vagina so it will break and blood will be on the sheets. This could be life or death for them because if they don't bleed, it's seen as her being not pure.
Not every virgin will bleed. Some bleed a little. Some bleed a heck of a lot. But it's not true blood is a sign of purity!
ThePerfectScore
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Since I don't e-talk behind people's backs
its like did you bake a cake just b/c you mixed up all the ingredients and made batter? It's not a cake unless you put it in the oven for a substantial amount of time. and that oven has to be turned on...
its like did you bake a cake just b/c you mixed up all the ingredients and made batter? It's not a cake unless you put it in the oven for a substantial amount of time.
and that oven has to be turned on... 
MissMasala5
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Again. That's SO not true!!! Some are born without a hymen and it's just a thin piece of mucus membrane that can break so easily, especially if you're an active girl.
This misunderstanding of "Oh, all virgin bleed when they first have sex" is what makes women in countries dominated by male rule resort to getting surgery to actually GIVE them a surgically created hymen (I know some do it just to be a virgin again, so to speak in the west.
This could be life or death for them because if they don't bleed, it's seen as her being not pure.
Not every virgin will bleed. Some bleed a little. Some bleed a heck of a lot. But it's not true blood is a sign of purity!
Thank you! I was just discussing this with a GROWN WOMAN who assumed the same. Had to bust out my Netter's Anatomy to show her the four most common hymen structures seen in women, which included one that was mostly open (as in really not there).
OP, I'd also like to know the answer to BGTs question, just out of curiosity.
pookaloo83
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thinking about this i'm reminded of a young woman in a similar situation. she went to the doctor b/c she wasn't feeling well and after a few tests her doctor asked her if she was sexually active and she basically told him the same story. she did make an attempt but the act wasn't fully complete. the doctor 's question was rhetorical b/c he knew the answer. basically he said that the guy must of had some really determined sperm because she was pregnant. imagine one sorta kinda first time and the girl ended up pregnant.
My cousin got pregnant the same way. On her first time and he barely went in.
erplexed
winterinatl
All natural!
That dude Christian Temple said something interesting. He said that once you have been "explored" and "known", all your mysteries given up, you are no longer a virgin. So if you are getting head or giving, or getting fingered and folks doing things to your poop shoot, you have been KNOWN you are not a virgin in the spirit of the word.
caligirl
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thinking about this i'm reminded of a young woman in a similar situation. she went to the doctor b/c she wasn't feeling well and after a few tests her doctor asked her if she was sexually active and she basically told him the same story. she did make an attempt but the act wasn't fully complete. the doctor 's question was rhetorical b/c he knew the answer. basically he said that the guy must of had some really determined sperm because she was pregnant. imagine one sorta kinda first time and the girl ended up pregnant.
I would be PISSED!!!
ThePerfectScore
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BTW, OP: If this isn't too much to ask, when you said:
let's just say it didn't go in all the way because it couldn't.
Do you mean you weren't wet/lubricated enough or he wasn't hard enough? For my own future reference.
My friend said her painful loss of virginity almost experience was like there was a wall he getting past... im guessing some sorta of muscle spasm that made her clinch up.
ThePerfectScore
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winterinatl
All natural!
I meant to be explored by someone else, hun. If a man has been all up and through your cookies "exploring", well, no, I don't see you as a virgin in the spirit of the word. You been known, lol.Naw, cuz I've been doing self exploration since I was a child...
negrita desesperada
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I had the exact same experience. I was very very young and bad I won't even say out loud how young bc ya'll will be like 
12 and then 16
It wouldn't go in and I was confused on whether or not I was still a virgin. I was totally not someone holding on to it or concerned about being pure, etc. Really just wondering from a a technical standpoint. I didn't feel like I'd actually had sex. So I considered myself still a virgin until 4 years later when it actually happened for real. It was painful, required a lot of effort and I bled, I mustve had a tough hymen.
I can understand both sides tho.
I won't even say out loud how young bc ya'll will be like 12 and then 16It wouldn't go in and I was confused on whether or not I was still a virgin. I was totally not someone holding on to it or concerned about being pure, etc. Really just wondering from a a technical standpoint. I didn't feel like I'd actually had sex. So I considered myself still a virgin until 4 years later when it actually happened for real. It was painful, required a lot of effort and I bled, I mustve had a tough hymen.
I can understand both sides tho.
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VelvetRain
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Wow still shocked at the misinformation by some in this thread. You are referring to Vaginismus.
YasashiiSekai
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BTW, OP: If this isn't too much to ask, when you said:
let's just say it didn't go in all the way because it couldn't.
Do you mean you weren't wet/lubricated enough or he wasn't hard enough? For my own future reference.
hmm... well now that I think of it, it was both... even though we've been planning it, we were both nervous so I think that's why it couldn't go in.
azuquita_morena
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I agree with the everything here, especially the bolded statements. I would also add that just because you went there with this guy that time, that does not mean you have to continue to [go all the way], unless you want to. That means you can keep trying with this guy or another guy or wait until you meet the right guy or until marriage. In any event, I think it's wise to keep it (your business) to yourself and people you trust.
Yeah, I wouldn't be concerned. Unless you live in a culture where men have women tested for the presence of a hymen before marrying them, the hymen test isn't sufficient evidence of anything.
A woman can be a technical virgin, having had anal sex, oral sex, manual sexAnd on the other hand, if a woman who has not had sex is raped she's technically not a virgin because she's been penetrated. Yet, that non-virgin status puts her in the same category as most married women and Hussy Mae, who sleeps around. Context is key here.
softblackcotton
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To answer your question from the perspective of a 25 year old virgin. Nope you not a virgin.you may not be Sluts McGee but you are not a virgin if you've had penetration by a penis in any orifice, vaginal, oral, or anal. I consider myself a virgin, no naked penis near my vagina, no oral given or taken, no false starts, no anal, no toys, no fingers from somebody else, no guy has ever seen me fully naked, no handy jobs. don't ask me how I got by so many years without doing that stuff. It's a looooog a** sad story. I am a virgin by today's society standards, but in the purest of the pure Biblical standard even I am not considered a virgin because I have been "known" above the waist and I have also "known" myself LOL. A couple of guys (2 to be exact) have seen me with my top off and have done stuff there. A few guys felt me up over my clothing. I also think about sex, so in most strictest sense I am not a virgin because in my mind I have had sex many, many, many, many times. LOL I think the Bible says something along the lines to paraphrase, "If you think it in your heart, then you did it." So in that sense only newborns to 7 year olds are virgins because by 8 children start getting the idea of sex especially if they have older siblings, cousins, or what not.
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