I like him alot, BUT....

[firecracker]

Do you know why hes receiving a check? If its doesnt seem obvious it could be a mental problem. Be careful, this guy doesnt sound right. What was he in jail for? And why doesnt he have a car? If youre even considering a continuation of the relationship you should seriously find out what he was in jail for and why hes receiving the check! Could be something youd want to know sooner than later. Im actually a bit worried for you.....

Hum if he is in his early 20's his mammy may have got that free ssi check for ADHD when he was a child and he continued it.

I cannot believe she actually asked what should she do? Some folks can change and make a life after bad decisions but dude got excuses so he ain't really trying to rock the SSI check boat. Hell if all he wants is a spot and the billz to be paid with no extras its all good but he needs to find another SSI recipient and work that lil bs system together.

 

[firecracker]

I was in the same situation when I met my SO of 2 years. He now has a career, car, we live together and he pays the rent.
I thought the same as many of these women and so did my girlfriends, especially when he told me he already had a child, I thought to run lol, but I knew in my heart that I loved him for him, and I could hear his determination for what he wanted for himself, and not just saying stuff to keep me on side, and now we have made a life together.
So I guess I am saying do what your heart tells you to.

PS he still treats me like we first met, I couldnt ask for more ;o)

The one difference here is yours wasn't making excuses about a job.

 

[firecracker]

The only people I know that live off of other people with no jobs are alcoholics, drug addicts, or homeless. He is not one of those. Is he?

Chile users and gigolo's goal is to live off overs.

 

[firecracker]

Okay everyone is saying he's a loser. What about no good men with careers and cars who treat their women like ish? Screw around with other women, child support, baby mama drama, disrespectful, controling? Aren't those the real losers? Isn't there a such thing as a good man with no job or car? Okay let's say I kick him to the curb. The next week he gets a job, and a month later a car. Then he'll be everything I want. Smart, down to earth, great sense of humor, loyal, family-oriented, and he makes me feel like a queen. Even though he's been through mess with his mom, he still loves, and respects her. Isn't that worth something? Or should I call him a loser b/c of something as simple as not having a job or a car. That situation can change at any moment. Then what?

well hell if you feel that strong and think those issue are small marry the kneegrow then and live happily every after. By the way he is probably faking being normal cuz he still has to keep getting recertified for the crazy check. So who is he really fooling?

 

[firecracker]

It does have an impact. But how much of an impact should it have? That's why I'm torn. He's had jobs in the past. 4 months ago he was working. Don't the qualities that I mentioned count for something??

Hell nawl not with all the other stuff you listed. The negative outweighs the positive.

 

[firecracker]

I see you haven't read the thread in its entirety before making comments.

plenty of us read along and comment as we go. If we wait until we read all 50-11 pages we will forget which post we want to respond too. I'm getting ole I forget in 2n2!

ETAk she woke up after she busted his user loser arse. Don't fall for the okey dokey again.

 

[growth2come]

rough crowd!!! lol

 

[mz tracy 25]

rough crowd!!! lol

Tell me about it...smh

 

[lilsparkle825]

plenty of us read along and comment as we go. If we wait until we read all 50-11 pages we will forget which post we want to respond too. I'm getting ole I forget in 2n2!

ETAk she woke up after she busted his user loser arse. Don't fall for the okey dokey again.

the multi quote button is YO friend.