I ended my engagement and relationship today.

[Ms. Plain Jane]

No idea at all. I know she loves him enough to want him all to herself though.




LOL all I needed was you to come in here. Now I'm all "Sad wha, sad who?" (tried my best @ a Jay-Z pun, clearly I'm not skilled enough, lol.)



Berbers are considered different from Moroccan Arabs because they're more from the countryside. Like, you're either an Arab or a Berber and voodoo is big in Berber culture.

Glad that I could help!

Jeah jeah jeah. Hov!

 

[vevster]

I have a relative that married a guy whos family is into voodoo and that marriage never worked.

 

[carcajada]

I'm so sorry! That's freakin crazy.

 

[Zawaj]

Wow Vivez. I was rooting for you.

((Hugs))

Me too! Voodoo??!! Wow, just wow. Well, he's losing out!

 

[Ms.Honey]

Has he called you yet? What does he have to say about it all?

 

[A.Marie]

Thanks ladies. I was hopeful that we could try to work things out but the shoe hit the fan yesterday when he told his mother she could come stay with us without even asking me about it or getting my opinion. From there it's been a rollercoaster of a ride today, which eventually ended with me finding out about the voodoo.

I don't really see us getting back together because his mother will always be his mother no matter what and that's never gonna change. My best bet is to pick myself and leave while I still can.

As for the voodoo, whenever we went to her house, I would eat what she cooked. Didn't realize that she was dishing the food out and had it set and would hand me my bowl before I ate, so I'm pretty sure she's the reason I was almost near death back in April.
Then this afternoon, my mother went to check the boiler in my apartment and a BIG grey bird flew up towards the ceiling and then crashed down. Come to find out the bird was placed there, (if you saw how this room looked, you'd know it's not possible for a bird to just fly there, aside from the fact that my doors are never just left wide open) and in the Berber tradition, you place a grey bird in the house of a couple that you want to break up. They say when the bird dies, the love dies as well.

I was very hurt, and partially still am, but I'm more so concerned for my life and the lives of my family at this point.

If you don't mind me asking, what happened to you in April? You should get some strong religious people from your church and some could be some friends you trust to lay praying hands and quote scriptures throughout your home when he leaves. If that's not possible, you and your mom should do it.

 

[trini_rican]

If you don't mind me asking, what happened to you in April? You should get some strong religious people from your church and some could be some friends you trust to lay praying hands and quote scriptures throughout your home when he leaves. If that's not possible, you and your mom should do it.

I agree with this as well - your home needs to be cleansed of all that negative energy. I'd have a priest come in and pray and rebuke and cancel every negative word, every hex, vex, jinx, spell, bewitchment, witchcraft- that was sent out against you or any of your family members and turn it back. Decree and declare that no weapon formed against you will prosper and every tongue that shall rise against you in judgement will be condemned for this is the heritage of the servants of the lord and their righteousness is of you.

It works - it's my spiritual warfare prayer

 

[PinkPeony]

Wow sorry to hear that but I'm glad you saw the light BEFORE you got married.
Sending positive energies to you*and cursing out that evil MIL for you*

 

[Cincysweetie]

Voodoo?? WTF? That *****! Move on sister! You don't need that drama in your home nor in your life. That's sooooooo crazy.

Girl...like Gin said, he gone miss that food!!! And if you need someone to cook for...just lemme know what time dinner is served!

 

[SoUKnoMe]

If you don't mind me asking, what happened to you in April? You should get some strong religious people from your church and some could be some friends you trust to lay praying hands and quote scriptures throughout your home when he leaves. If that's not possible, you and your mom should do it.

ITA. I am sorry that you are going through this, but you seem to have strength. I am adding my hugs and prayers also. Take care of yourself.


eta... yeah he gonna miss that beautiful chicken and them biscuits. Gurl you gonna have feet under your table in no time.

 

[mj11051]

Just my 2 cents, I would never live in that place again. I'd have to find some place else to live.

 

[vivEz daNs lamouR]

Has he called you yet? What does he have to say about it all?

No, I'm gonna talk to him today and finish up the last few important things we need to speak about.

If you don't mind me asking, what happened to you in April? You should get some strong religious people from your church and some could be some friends you trust to lay praying hands and quote scriptures throughout your home when he leaves. If that's not possible, you and your mom should do it.

Well last semester I was taking 6 classes and doing an internship that was 4 days a week so my schedule was overpacked and I was always overworking myself. But randomly in April, I fell ill with the weirdest illness ever. My lymph nodes in my neck swelled up to the size of golf balls and the next thing you know, I had a fever of 105 that wouldn't go away and I couldn't walk. I was admitted to NYU Medical Center (which is one of the best hospitals in the country) and no one knew what was wrong with me. I started going in and out of consciousness, and the antibiotics they gave me because they thought it might've been a bacterial infection wasn't working. My brain was frying for 13 days straight, my temperature was so high that the thermometers weren't reading it anymore because they only hit 105, and eventually the doctors took off the antibiotics and told my mother there was nothing more they could do for me and that they were sorry. Mind you, my doctors were the directors of their fields.

One morning, this is what my mother told me, I was complaining of how cold I was and numb, my mom (who is also Moroccan but a Christian) believes that death starts in the feet and moves its way upwards, and when she touched me that's exactly how I felt to her. She took off her cross and laid it on my chest and opened her Bible and kept asking me to hold on but all I kept saying was that I was so tired and wanted to go to sleep. She spent that whole morning praying, and that evening, my fever broke.

Prior to this I was going to his family's house and eating his mother's cooking. The ironic thing was that I never wanted to eat but I didn't want to be rude so I did. She also came to the hospital to see me which to me now means that she probably came to see the progress of her work.

 

[vivEz daNs lamouR]

I have a relative that married a guy whos family is into voodoo and that marriage never worked.

The funny thing is is that she's a practicing Muslim so I don't understand how she does that when witchcraft is forbidden is Islam. However she's also a Berber, and the funny thing is I've heard rumors that she did voodoo to her husband (R.I.P) and that's why her SIL is terrified of her and stays away from her at all costs.

 

[scorpian]

No, I'm gonna talk to him today and finish up the last few important things we need to speak about.



Well last semester I was taking 6 classes and doing an internship that was 4 days a week so my schedule was overpacked and I was always overworking myself. But randomly in April, I fell ill with the weirdest illness ever. My lymph nodes in my neck swelled up to the size of golf balls and the next thing you know, I had a fever of 105 that wouldn't go away and I couldn't walk. I was admitted to NYU Medical Center (which is one of the best hospitals in the country) and no one knew what was wrong with me. I started going in and out of consciousness, and the antibiotics they gave me because they thought it might've been a bacterial infection wasn't working. My brain was frying for 13 days straight, my temperature was so high that the thermometers weren't reading it anymore because they only hit 105, and eventually the doctors took off the antibiotics and told my mother there was nothing more they could do for me and that they were sorry. Mind you, my doctors were the directors of their fields.

One morning, this is what my mother told me, I was complaining of how cold I was and numb, my mom (who is also Moroccan but a Christian) believes that death starts in the feet and moves its way upwards, and when she touched me that's exactly how I felt to her. She took off her cross and laid it on my chest and opened her Bible and kept asking me to hold on but all I kept saying was that I was so tired and wanted to go to sleep. She spent that whole morning praying, and that evening, my fever broke.

Prior to this I was going to his family's house and eating his mother's cooking. The ironic thing was that I never wanted to eat but I didn't want to be rude so I did. She also came to the hospital to see me which to me now means that she probably came to see the progress of her work.

Whew this is all sound scary and MIL with the Voodoo I would never eat her food....... I'm glad that you are ok...I agree with the other poster... I would forget about that apt..... let him have it and get yourself a new place to live and make sure that him and his mom don't know where it is

 

[vivEz daNs lamouR]

Voodoo?? WTF? That *****! Move on sister! You don't need that drama in your home nor in your life. That's sooooooo crazy.

Girl...like Gin said, he gone miss that food!!! And if you need someone to cook for...just lemme know what time dinner is served!

ITA. I am sorry that you are going through this, but you seem to have strength. I am adding my hugs and prayers also. Take care of yourself.


eta... yeah he gonna miss that beautiful chicken and them biscuits. Gurl you gonna have feet under your table in no time.

Thanks ladies. I'll send you the invite for dinner Cincy! Lol (((HUGS)))

 

[Butterfly08]

Wow. It takes a lot of courage to do what you did but sounds like it was for the best.

Any problems you have now only become magnified after marriage, so his mommy issues would really be a beast. Vodoo?

I completely agree. Imagine your children being raised in this environment. And the constant spiritual battle everytime your MIL felt like it.

I'm glad you had the courage to end it now. I pray that no weapon that has formed against you shall prosper. Thank God that you were healed from your sickness.

 

[Irresistible]

No, I'm gonna talk to him today and finish up the last few important things we need to speak about.



Well last semester I was taking 6 classes and doing an internship that was 4 days a week so my schedule was overpacked and I was always overworking myself. But randomly in April, I fell ill with the weirdest illness ever. My lymph nodes in my neck swelled up to the size of golf balls and the next thing you know, I had a fever of 105 that wouldn't go away and I couldn't walk. I was admitted to NYU Medical Center (which is one of the best hospitals in the country) and no one knew what was wrong with me. I started going in and out of consciousness, and the antibiotics they gave me because they thought it might've been a bacterial infection wasn't working. My brain was frying for 13 days straight, my temperature was so high that the thermometers weren't reading it anymore because they only hit 105, and eventually the doctors took off the antibiotics and told my mother there was nothing more they could do for me and that they were sorry. Mind you, my doctors were the directors of their fields.

One morning, this is what my mother told me, I was complaining of how cold I was and numb, my mom (who is also Moroccan but a Christian) believes that death starts in the feet and moves its way upwards, and when she touched me that's exactly how I felt to her. She took off her cross and laid it on my chest and opened her Bible and kept asking me to hold on but all I kept saying was that I was so tired and wanted to go to sleep. She spent that whole morning praying, and that evening, my fever broke.

Prior to this I was going to his family's house and eating his mother's cooking. The ironic thing was that I never wanted to eat but I didn't want to be rude so I did. She also came to the hospital to see me which to me now means that she probably came to see the progress of her work.

Nothing can curse what God has blessed! It has no power over the Blood of Jesus! Claim it and stand on it and know it with all your heart!

you said it wasnt him it was her, but it is him if he is not making your feelings/ needs important! This is a blessing in disguise! You will come to see that! Keep praying Because only God has final say in everything!

hugs!

 

[Irresistible]

I agree with this as well - your home needs to be cleansed of all that negative energy. I'd have a priest come in and pray and rebuke and cancel every negative word, every hex, vex, jinx, spell, bewitchment, witchcraft- that was sent out against you or any of your family members and turn it back. Decree and declare that no weapon formed against you will prosper and every tongue that shall rise against you in judgement will be condemned for this is the heritage of the servants of the lord and their righteousness is of you.

It works - it's my spiritual warfare prayer

Amen to this and in total agreement for her!

its all canceled ,cast down and powerless in the name of Jesus!

 

[sharentu]

so sorry to hear about your relationship ended (( hugs )). like someone else said please, please have folks come and pray throughout your house when you return. i would also say use blessed oil on all the windows and doors. you are beautiful young lady, you have many great things going for you. i dont think you will be alone long, unless you choose to be.

 

[vivEz daNs lamouR]

Thanks so much, I appreciate the support. I just spoke with him again and we kind of had it out and I gave him back the ring to which he asked me if this was really my decision. He thinks we can move forward from this and doesn't want this to be over, but I can't live with a MIL who does voodoo to get rid of me. I can't tell him either, because he won't believe me.

I plan to smoke my apartment once he leaves.

 

[brooklyngal73]

This is just sheer evil!!

Be glad that you're rid of that family. You're gonna hurt now cuz the breakup's still fresh, but in time you'll feel better.

Well last semester I was taking 6 classes and doing an internship that was 4 days a week so my schedule was overpacked and I was always overworking myself. But randomly in April, I fell ill with the weirdest illness ever. My lymph nodes in my neck swelled up to the size of golf balls and the next thing you know, I had a fever of 105 that wouldn't go away and I couldn't walk. I was admitted to NYU Medical Center (which is one of the best hospitals in the country) and no one knew what was wrong with me. I started going in and out of consciousness, and the antibiotics they gave me because they thought it might've been a bacterial infection wasn't working. My brain was frying for 13 days straight, my temperature was so high that the thermometers weren't reading it anymore because they only hit 105, and eventually the doctors took off the antibiotics and told my mother there was nothing more they could do for me and that they were sorry. Mind you, my doctors were the directors of their fields.

One morning, this is what my mother told me, I was complaining of how cold I was and numb, my mom (who is also Moroccan but a Christian) believes that death starts in the feet and moves its way upwards, and when she touched me that's exactly how I felt to her. She took off her cross and laid it on my chest and opened her Bible and kept asking me to hold on but all I kept saying was that I was so tired and wanted to go to sleep. She spent that whole morning praying, and that evening, my fever broke.

Prior to this I was going to his family's house and eating his mother's cooking. The ironic thing was that I never wanted to eat but I didn't want to be rude so I did. She also came to the hospital to see me which to me now means that she probably came to see the progress of her work.

 

[NewYorkgyrl]

I have not read all the response yet....

But do you really think you should move back into that house?
If you do make sure you smoke it out with some sage bush.

 

[vivEz daNs lamouR]

I'm gonna thoroughly smoke my apartment and clear all of the negative energy.

 

[NewYorkgyrl]

ok - I googled it are they Arabic or Morracan? I didn't even know they did voodoo - aren't they muslim? I swear I learn something new on this board daily.

There are MANY different countries that have people who practice voodoo, some more than others. But for some reason people/society/the world just seems to target one particular country....

 

[Irresistible]

so sorry to hear about your relationship ended (( hugs )). like someone else said please, please have folks come and pray throughout your house when you return. i would also say use blessed oil on all the windows and doors. you are beautiful young lady, you have many great things going for you. i dont think you will be alone long, unless you choose to be.

yes! blessed oil and prayer!

I dont know what sage does but I know what annointed oil and prayer does!

 

[FlowerHair]

Thanks ladies. I was hopeful that we could try to work things out but the shoe hit the fan yesterday when he told his mother she could come stay with us without even asking me about it or getting my opinion. From there it's been a rollercoaster of a ride today, which eventually ended with me finding out about the voodoo.

I don't really see us getting back together because his mother will always be his mother no matter what and that's never gonna change. My best bet is to pick myself and leave while I still can.

As for the voodoo, whenever we went to her house, I would eat what she cooked. Didn't realize that she was dishing the food out and had it set and would hand me my bowl before I ate, so I'm pretty sure she's the reason I was almost near death back in April.

Then this afternoon, my mother went to check the boiler in my apartment and a BIG grey bird flew up towards the ceiling and then crashed down. Come to find out the bird was placed there, (if you saw how this room looked, you'd know it's not possible for a bird to just fly there, aside from the fact that my doors are never just left wide open) and in the Berber tradition, you place a grey bird in the house of a couple that you want to break up. They say when the bird dies, the love dies as well.

I was very hurt, and partially still am, but I'm more so concerned for my life and the lives of my family at this point.

Wow! Thank goodness you found out about the voodoo...
I don't believe in it, but her evil ways have harmed you long enough

You'll make it through

 

[NewYorkgyrl]

yes! blessed oil and prayer!

I dont know what sage does but I know what annointed oil and prayer does!

My family and friends that are West Indian commonly use this...especially if they are moving into a new place. Sage is used for clearing negativity inside and outside ourselves, and from our dwellings.

I'm not saying every West Indian uses it or knows what it is...but all the ones I know have knowledge of it.

 

[SoUKnoMe]

I am so glad that your have a Bible believing praying mother. Man I could not believe what I read of your illness. What a terribly evil woman. Just no words for her, but I do know that God does like this evil, neither to have his children harmed.

To have loved a man so much to overlook his mother is one thing, but to have her with evil motives for harm... ain't that much love. I am glad that you have been strong enough to walk away. You deserve and will have so much better.

 

[DragonPearl]

Thanks ladies. I was hopeful that we could try to work things out but the shoe hit the fan yesterday when he told his mother she could come stay with us without even asking me about it or getting my opinion. From there it's been a rollercoaster of a ride today, which eventually ended with me finding out about the voodoo.

I don't really see us getting back together because his mother will always be his mother no matter what and that's never gonna change. My best bet is to pick myself and leave while I still can.

As for the voodoo, whenever we went to her house, I would eat what she cooked. Didn't realize that she was dishing the food out and had it set and would hand me my bowl before I ate, so I'm pretty sure she's the reason I was almost near death back in April.

Then this afternoon, my mother went to check the boiler in my apartment and a BIG grey bird flew up towards the ceiling and then crashed down. Come to find out the bird was placed there, (if you saw how this room looked, you'd know it's not possible for a bird to just fly there, aside from the fact that my doors are never just left wide open) and in the Berber tradition, you place a grey bird in the house of a couple that you want to break up. They say when the bird dies, the love dies as well.

I was very hurt, and partially still am, but I'm more so concerned for my life and the lives of my family at this point.

This is just horrible.

I am glad you're out of this situation, especially if he is putting his wicked mom ahead of you. You don't need to marry into that family.

 

[DragonPearl]

There are MANY different countries that have people who practice voodoo, some more than others. But for some reason people/society/the world just seems to target one particular country....

Ya know.

Haiti has been unfairly tagged with the stereotype.