Crackers Phinn
Either A Blessing Or A Lesson.
I agree that the Cher wigs look ridiculous 90% of the time but the bigger problem is that the majority of women who follow trends and wear those wigs (or lashes or fashion nova nonsense or botched bbl) don't look in the mirror and realize they are the 90%.
A lot of what goes into being the best version of yourself is to be honest about that what you may think is ideal archetype may not fit with the female archetype that plays best for you. The good news is that there's a million ways to accentuate what is ideal for you. For example, Chloe Bailey is trying to project herself as some sex pot vampy siren when she could effortlessly ride out the girl next door archetype and it fits. Instead she out here tryna to be the archetype that she thinks is ideal instead of what works for her and it comes off as not authentic and cringy.
This made me think about a thread I made for late bloomers. Crackers Crumbs: For Plain Girls Who Have Considered Absinthe When Tequila Is Enuf
Also, a dating coach told me that a good way to gage if men are attracted is to pay attention to if their eyes dilated, i.e., their pupils got bigger and stayed big during a conversation. Everybody's eyes dilate when they encounter people they like but extended dilation indicates attraction. This is much easier to see with lighter colored eyes. Life/work tip - when you deal with white people watch their eyes. If you run into one with a huge smile on their face but their pupils are pin points that person means you harm. I notice this a lot with sales people but I digress.
@Crackers Phinn your comment about cleavage is fascinating. When you say men you'd known for years started treating you differently, how so? Please share if you're comfortable with that. It always intrigues me to know how basic men can be.
It's hard to hear and unPC to say but men tend to put women into two categories
-able and -able if every other option has been gone bust. Both of those categories have women falling on a bell shaped curves of how much effort the man will put into his interactions with the women based on where she falls on his curve (pun intended). Even if an attractive woman is off limits to a man, he will still treat her differently than if he didn't find her attractive, hence pretty privilege is very real. When women tell other women that men love confidence, they aren't quite telling the whole story. Men love sexual confidence in women. That plays out in how comfortable you appear to be with your body and the effort that you put into your appearance. My observation of moving from baggy clothes to form fitting clothes where my breasts said hello before I ever said a word got more men coming up to talk to me in public places and got me more business referrals. "Sheldon" from the Chernobyl thread choked on his own spit when I showed up wearing a shirt similar to this.
This isn't some Instagram thot wear but it emphasized what I was working with. I felt some kind of way about it but the consultants were like get over it. It is what it is and focus on getting what I wanted out of the attention.
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Fake hair is not supposed to look fake.
