ang3lface816
Well-Known Member
I need a little help. I've tried searching the forum for assistance but haven't been able to find anything similar to what I have experienced...
I'll try to be as brief as possible....I'm looking for advice, or any stories of similar situations, or even a possible explanation as to why this could be.
I've been with my DH for over 6 years. We've been married for almost 3. I love my hubby dearly, and it's safe to say he feels the same about me. We are both pretty laid back people.
My hubby however seems to be a woman magnet! I can't explain it. It's the craziest thing. Yes, my husband is attractive. But he's not male underwear model attractive. lol. But it seems like wherever we go women throw themselves at him. When i say throw.. it's not actually an exchange of words (usually). More so non-verbally throw. I have ignored it for some timem usually I don't say anything when it happens (because I don't want to give the woman the satisfaction of thinking I'm intimidated lol) but my husband and I have discussed it.
My hubby is sort of clueless, at first he didn't even notice this was happening, but after me pointing it out he recogizes it as well. The confusing part is that my husband is not outgoing. He's not talkative. He's not flirtatious. (Believe me that I have watched him lol, to make sure there's nothing going on his end). And NOTHiNG.
What usually happens is we'll be out together. Arrived together, sitting together. We are not overly affectionate, but we will kiss (peck), rest a hand on the other's leg/arm from time to time. Despite our cues that we are together and in love, I've noticed women will place themselves in the vicinity of where we are. Begin to seek his attention... by talking loudly, trying to position themselves where a good "view" of them can be seen. Walking by repeatedly. Starting conversations with someone near by, about absolutely nothing of importance.
The most recent incident, we were at a birthday party yesterday. A child's birthday party. The party was for his (male) cousin's son. This woman is a friend of the child's mother. She attended the party last year (which was at a waterpark). So yesterday, I noticed that she kept coming around standing near me and my husband, walking past.. just basically putting herself in his view. When this happens my husband will either leave the area, or reposition himself so that the offending lady is no longer viewable lol. He really does everything he can as not to give them any attention.
When it happened last year, I blew it off. I didn't know if I was over reacting, or if this young lady was intentionally coming around in her skimpy bathing suit, or if I was just being "sensitive". I never mentioned it to my husband.
This year, she arrives after us. And anywhere my husband would go, I could easily locate her by keeping an eye on him. If he went over to the refreshments and began a conversation with a relative, very shortly after she would saunter over in the area, begin talking loudly, walking past him excessively etc. At one point my husband was standing off to the side by himself and she proceeds to positon herself right in his view and bend over (seductively- like she arched her back lol) to put ice in a cooler. I could not believe my eyes! My husband quickly left the area, and went to play basketball. The whole time this was going on I was about 10 feet away from her, and he was about 5 feet from where she was.
Once my husband was gone, this lady actually was able to sit down. When he returned she was up again. I'm a very observant person, I have been said to read people very well. However I cannot for the life of me, explain this/and other situations like this.
Upon leaving I did mention it to my husband and he said he noticed. Also said thats why he ultimately left to play basketball.
I am at a complete loss. This of course is one example. But it happens from time to time. My husband is the strong silent type, he isn't the type of guy you have to watch and be on his heels. He doesn't look at other women when I'm around/nor give me any reason to be suspicious of him or really do anything to make these women go looney. He's not the charming type, where women would just feed on his energy.
It's like he gives off extra manly pheromones and they cant help but be attracted. It's flattering to a point, but it's also very annoying. I dont want to be the psycho/jealous wife. So i don't say anything. And since they usually don't directly flirt with him, he doesn't say anything either. But it has happened, and upon talking with other members of my family, they have noticed it too. But they comment on how well he carries himself, and also noticing him distancing himself from the situation. They've said they have never seen him act in anthing less than a respectable fashion, and basically tell me that's how some women are.
I guess my whole point in writing this, is to see if any of you ladies have experienced similar situations? If you can point me in the direction of what I should do the next time this occurs (if anything), or anything that he should do. We both agree that if a woman were to approach him and flirt, it would be 100% his job to check her. However, this situation is tricky because they dont openly approach him, but through body language its very obvious that they are attracted. I feel that sometimes they get out of control (like the bending over) and that it is disrespectful to my marriage. I am not afraid that I will lose him, or that anyone could take him from me ( I believe if a man wants to go, it's not the fault of the "other woman") however it does make me a little angry because it's blatantly disrespectful to me.
I've heard women say that if a man is with an attractive woman, other women sometimes get competetive, as to see if they can "take him" (so to speak) because it makes them feel "wanted" or just as attractive as the woman he is with, if they can somehow garner his attention.
I don't know. I don't have any clue...
Please help...
I'll try to be as brief as possible....I'm looking for advice, or any stories of similar situations, or even a possible explanation as to why this could be.
I've been with my DH for over 6 years. We've been married for almost 3. I love my hubby dearly, and it's safe to say he feels the same about me. We are both pretty laid back people.
My hubby however seems to be a woman magnet! I can't explain it. It's the craziest thing. Yes, my husband is attractive. But he's not male underwear model attractive. lol. But it seems like wherever we go women throw themselves at him. When i say throw.. it's not actually an exchange of words (usually). More so non-verbally throw. I have ignored it for some timem usually I don't say anything when it happens (because I don't want to give the woman the satisfaction of thinking I'm intimidated lol) but my husband and I have discussed it.
My hubby is sort of clueless, at first he didn't even notice this was happening, but after me pointing it out he recogizes it as well. The confusing part is that my husband is not outgoing. He's not talkative. He's not flirtatious. (Believe me that I have watched him lol, to make sure there's nothing going on his end). And NOTHiNG.
What usually happens is we'll be out together. Arrived together, sitting together. We are not overly affectionate, but we will kiss (peck), rest a hand on the other's leg/arm from time to time. Despite our cues that we are together and in love, I've noticed women will place themselves in the vicinity of where we are. Begin to seek his attention... by talking loudly, trying to position themselves where a good "view" of them can be seen. Walking by repeatedly. Starting conversations with someone near by, about absolutely nothing of importance.
The most recent incident, we were at a birthday party yesterday. A child's birthday party. The party was for his (male) cousin's son. This woman is a friend of the child's mother. She attended the party last year (which was at a waterpark). So yesterday, I noticed that she kept coming around standing near me and my husband, walking past.. just basically putting herself in his view. When this happens my husband will either leave the area, or reposition himself so that the offending lady is no longer viewable lol. He really does everything he can as not to give them any attention.
When it happened last year, I blew it off. I didn't know if I was over reacting, or if this young lady was intentionally coming around in her skimpy bathing suit, or if I was just being "sensitive". I never mentioned it to my husband.
This year, she arrives after us. And anywhere my husband would go, I could easily locate her by keeping an eye on him. If he went over to the refreshments and began a conversation with a relative, very shortly after she would saunter over in the area, begin talking loudly, walking past him excessively etc. At one point my husband was standing off to the side by himself and she proceeds to positon herself right in his view and bend over (seductively- like she arched her back lol) to put ice in a cooler. I could not believe my eyes! My husband quickly left the area, and went to play basketball. The whole time this was going on I was about 10 feet away from her, and he was about 5 feet from where she was.
Once my husband was gone, this lady actually was able to sit down. When he returned she was up again. I'm a very observant person, I have been said to read people very well. However I cannot for the life of me, explain this/and other situations like this.
Upon leaving I did mention it to my husband and he said he noticed. Also said thats why he ultimately left to play basketball.
I am at a complete loss. This of course is one example. But it happens from time to time. My husband is the strong silent type, he isn't the type of guy you have to watch and be on his heels. He doesn't look at other women when I'm around/nor give me any reason to be suspicious of him or really do anything to make these women go looney. He's not the charming type, where women would just feed on his energy.
It's like he gives off extra manly pheromones and they cant help but be attracted. It's flattering to a point, but it's also very annoying. I dont want to be the psycho/jealous wife. So i don't say anything. And since they usually don't directly flirt with him, he doesn't say anything either. But it has happened, and upon talking with other members of my family, they have noticed it too. But they comment on how well he carries himself, and also noticing him distancing himself from the situation. They've said they have never seen him act in anthing less than a respectable fashion, and basically tell me that's how some women are.
I guess my whole point in writing this, is to see if any of you ladies have experienced similar situations? If you can point me in the direction of what I should do the next time this occurs (if anything), or anything that he should do. We both agree that if a woman were to approach him and flirt, it would be 100% his job to check her. However, this situation is tricky because they dont openly approach him, but through body language its very obvious that they are attracted. I feel that sometimes they get out of control (like the bending over) and that it is disrespectful to my marriage. I am not afraid that I will lose him, or that anyone could take him from me ( I believe if a man wants to go, it's not the fault of the "other woman") however it does make me a little angry because it's blatantly disrespectful to me.
I've heard women say that if a man is with an attractive woman, other women sometimes get competetive, as to see if they can "take him" (so to speak) because it makes them feel "wanted" or just as attractive as the woman he is with, if they can somehow garner his attention.
I don't know. I don't have any clue...
Please help...