Lilakoi’s_Sister
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ok, so i've been dating this man for a couple of weeks. we were on the phone talking last night about people we've dated in the past. he made the following statement in so many words. he said, he doesn't have to tolerate uncaring or nonchalant behavior from women. he said, if a woman is acting like she's not interested, it's no big deal because, "there are not that many good brothers out here, the pickings are slim." i'm trying to figure out if i am overreacting. but to me, when a man says that it makes me feel like there is no incentive for him to act right and be a good man because, 'hey the pickings are slim for you so you need to appreciate what you got.' now he didn't say this to me and i don't think he meant it that way but it was still a turn off to hear him say that "there aren't that many good brothers out there." i personally don't believe that. maybe i'm in denial. anyway, i promptly told him that i don't think the pickings are slim for me and anyway i don't limit the race of the men I date. he went on to say how he thinks white men are goofy, blah blah blah. anyway, my question is am i overreacting by thinking that this guy could be a potential jerk because he said that black women have slim pickings?
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