I was wondering the same thing.
I actually think DH feels that I must like washing dishes? I do not
But even more so, I don't want to see a kitchen that is not clean when I wake up.
If I'm putting the kids in bed he MAY put a few things in the dishwasher (or he may leave them on the counter).
It's unclear to me if he really doesnt think to wipe the counters stove or clean the sink.
and laundry? I will do every ones laundry. All I ask is that you sort your dirty clothes as you take them off:
Once bin for lights, one for darks and a bag for delicates. I stopped doing laundry that wasn't sorted. DH just purchased more socks and underwear.
and a big lesson learned...
a few weeks ago, I got tired of cleaning things only to turn around and have to do it again when I come back. So I stopped cleaning, figuring he would not like it and pitch in.
Two weeks go by, the house is a mess but he never said a word. Then one day I was out side and some people were looking at a house for sale across the street. DH is a real estate agent and he actually showed them the house.
The lady asked me to use our bath room. They had been looking at houses all day and we live out in the middle of no where.
eeek! I was stuck. The house was terrible. I must have taken an eternity to respond. Should I let her in to the house that hadn't been cleaned in 2 weeks or should I be mean and come up with an excuse?
Well, I let her in after apologizing. I never felt so bad, ever. I realized my little test back fired. I spent the next 48 hrs CLEANING.
We did have a talk and I told him how I felt like the maid here. We also re read some info from the love languages book. He still doesn't clean much but at least he understands what I do (I think).