Wow, a lot like the Halle situation with Eric Benet's daughter and all.
Beautiful and caring like yourself, but yet Halle got cheated on. It makes you wonder why men who find beautiful loving women risk all that, (cause it aint every woman that is going to take care of someone else's child), for someone who is on the outside.
Well girl, I know you are hurting right now but just breathe. That was the advice a man gave me who totally broke my heart a long time ago. He told me he knew it was going to hurt like hell but all I had to do was breathe. I don't know if he meant deep breathing or just don't go kill yourself...lol.
Suffice it to say, years later after his marriage failed, he had a love affair with coke, and almost lost his job we run into each other. He wants to tell me how he should have never left me and that he'd made a mistake. The first observation I made was that wow, I never realized he was that short.
I'm looking at him thinking well damn, you dumping me was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. I just didn't know it at the time.
And so love it will be this way with you. You can't see it now, but he did you a favor. You owe him a big thank you, bcause he just shortened the time line for you to find the person you were truly meant to be with.
Imagine that true prince of a man who has been on hold all these years while you were with the dumb one. Girl tell that fool thank you and thank him again for the man you don't know yet, because he is out there.
I have to believe that because I broke up with my ex recently because of internet activity. Long story. I cried for 4 days, did the whole drunk dialing, begging via email and text (he won't even take my calls) I was pitiful. I was. But now I'm like who is he to deserve me? What I may be thinking of as love right now could very well be just an illusion. Well I know it is because I fell in love with someone who did not exist.
When I peeled back the skin he was not even there. It hurts no less, but I have to realize that he vexed me with a man I had created in my mind. Had I never looked to see what was really there, I'd still be with him...m-i-s-e-r-a-ble.
Now I'm free to find the person I can trust and be happy with, and for now that person is me. Take care boo. You'll be fine.