larry3344
Well-Known Member
Now this is something that's been bothering me for a long time and I just feel I needed a release. I am 18 going on 19 and look forward on having a family later on in life, marry and STAY married. My parents are divorced but it hasn't changed my belief that marriage , once you found the right person, is sacred. I love my dad but he has done things that even the most loving person will have a hard time to forgive which brings me to the next topic.
Why is it (based on my experience) so hard for Black men to stay married and be dedicated to their children but seems a lot easier when it comes to dating women of other races. Before I get any further I am not blaming anyone here; I just want to understand why is it that all of my mixed friends (black and other) have their father in their lives while all of my black friends live with their mothers and before you say anything this is trend that I have seen anywhere I go.
I work at a movie theatre and these last three weeks there has been thousands of people who come in since it is the holiday season, and all the black kids (90%) would either be by themselves or with their mothers ONLY. All the mixed (black and other ) children would be with both parents with their fathers cooing all over them. On top of that, it is not only White women, now its asian women, arab women anyone under the sun but black women. It used to not bother 'cause we are sons and daughters of God no matter what race but the thingas although I do see other mixed children that are not mixed with black most races are still pretty faithful to their own but us... it seems to be going downhill. Like having black is not good enough.
I am West African and africans tend to marry their own but there's always that odd uncle or aunt who travelled and married someone outside of the culture and the children always end up being embraced by the entire family. Because that's the way africans are as long as there's their blood running through your veins you are family no matter what mix you are.
But as a young woman who finds herself only attracted to black guys am I going to have a harder time meeting one than women of other races? I am not trying to make this a BLACK WOMEN vs BLACK MEN issue. I truly believe, that anyone can marry anyone he/she likes but the reason why its bothering me because I can't help but notice trend especially with oour own.
Why is it (based on my experience) so hard for Black men to stay married and be dedicated to their children but seems a lot easier when it comes to dating women of other races. Before I get any further I am not blaming anyone here; I just want to understand why is it that all of my mixed friends (black and other) have their father in their lives while all of my black friends live with their mothers and before you say anything this is trend that I have seen anywhere I go.
I work at a movie theatre and these last three weeks there has been thousands of people who come in since it is the holiday season, and all the black kids (90%) would either be by themselves or with their mothers ONLY. All the mixed (black and other ) children would be with both parents with their fathers cooing all over them. On top of that, it is not only White women, now its asian women, arab women anyone under the sun but black women. It used to not bother 'cause we are sons and daughters of God no matter what race but the thingas although I do see other mixed children that are not mixed with black most races are still pretty faithful to their own but us... it seems to be going downhill. Like having black is not good enough.
I am West African and africans tend to marry their own but there's always that odd uncle or aunt who travelled and married someone outside of the culture and the children always end up being embraced by the entire family. Because that's the way africans are as long as there's their blood running through your veins you are family no matter what mix you are.
But as a young woman who finds herself only attracted to black guys am I going to have a harder time meeting one than women of other races? I am not trying to make this a BLACK WOMEN vs BLACK MEN issue. I truly believe, that anyone can marry anyone he/she likes but the reason why its bothering me because I can't help but notice trend especially with oour own.