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[firecracker]

Puck a wyte man









Uh oh I forgot I already did but his body/skin had a oh so odd different unappealing sweaty scent. I think it was missing that black mandingo warrior scent.


Folks need to date whoever, whatever and however they want but damn those desperado online I wanna/needa wyte man and man in general ad's to helz!
Attracting and developing a relationship with a decent educated loving man cannot be that damn hard unless your not willing to venture out or you kinda ugly inside and out. That ugly inside may just be pucking up your man magnet aura so it should be worked on first anyways.

 

[TempleGirl]

Uh oh I forgot I already did but his body/skin had a oh so odd different unappealing sweaty scent. I think it was missing that black mandingo warrior scent.

*Jingle plays in the background*

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This will give your white man that mandigo essense and you'll never be able to tell the difference until you look in the mirror!

Now in 3 great scents, Mandigo Warrior, Rhodes Scholar and Hood Star

In fine department stores near YOU!

 

[JamericanGurl]

*Jingle plays in the background*

Announcer: "Sistas", have your options run low? Did you have to turn to the "white man"? Is he missing something but you can't put your finger on it? Try our great new product

"O'Da Black Man"!!!!

This will give your white man that mandigo essense and you'll never be able to tell the difference until you look in the mirror!

Now in 3 great scents, Mandigo Warrior, Rhodes Scholar and Hood Star

In fine department stores near YOU!

Your now on my list

 

[delp]

Don't mean to sound short Carlita, but if you want to discuss the plight of black men, perhaps you should start a thread of your own. IMO, black women have expended far too much time, energy and precious resources trying to elevate black men. Sometimes to our own detriment. When all is said and done black men are men, and its incumbent upon them to elevate their own goddamned selves.

I knew there was a reason I liked you.

 

[rozlips]

This is an interesting little tidbit I found over at Slate. The author is discussin the jump in BW/WM marriages between 1990 and 2000. He thinks it might have been welfare reform. Essentially he theorizes that when women start thinking about men in terms of combined income as opposed to losing their AFDC benefits, hooking up with a white man made more sense.

I'm not sure about that, but it does remind me of something I noticed back when I still lived in the town where I grew up. My house was fairly near the local chicken plant. Now, back in the day when my hometown was still the home of Goodyear and a major steel producer no men worked at the chicken plants. That was especially true of white men. These days men of all races work at the chicken plants because there are few other jobs available. This has resulted in what I called the 'Bubba/Latisha' hook-up. I kept seeing these guys driving their pick-ups to and from work and they'd have a black woman on the seat with them. For the longest time I just assumed they were giving the women a ride home, but one of my relatives worked there and they assured me that the hook-up was on. It was the strangest thing I'd ever seen, but all of a sudden there was an explosion of IRs involving black women and white men.

Miscegenation -- an official trend: The Atlanta Journal Constitution has a seemingly important taboo-busting story on the increase in black women dating white men. The evidence of this trend is not only anecdotal -- AJC's John Blake says
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the number of black female/white male marriages remained relatively static between 1960 and 1980, increasing from 26,000 to 27,000. But by 2000, the number had jumped to 80,000.
Why the shift? Blake emphasizes the large percentage of black men who are off the dating scene because they're "in jail, or are murder victims." But isn't there another possible factor, something that happened in, say, the mid-90s, something like ...(the suspense must be killing you) ... welfare reform? It's not only that the hundreds of thousands of black women who are now working rather than on welfare come into contact with non-black men at work, It's also that when you're working the virtues of pooling your income with a male earner are now far more obvious than in the days when that could cost you your AFDC check. If there aren't enough "marriageable" black men around -- and if too many of those who are around "know the numbers favor them so they have less incentive to treat a black woman well." -- then women expand their "options," as one African-American Web designer puts it:
"I'm not going to sit on a porch in a rocking chair, all alone at 80 years old because of color," says Wanda Dunn, a 37-year-old Stone Mountain Web designer.
One reaction to that sentiment: It's about time! Black-white miscegenation may have been slow to get off the ground, but once it gets started it seems likely to transform the national culture. ... The AJC touches on all the other obvious themes -- the diminishing-but-still-evident social opprobrium, male insecurity in the face of the college degrees and earning power of many black women, male complaints that black women are too status conscious. ... Two issues go unaddressed: 1) How will black men react when black women start getting all sorts of favorable publicity (in newspaper stories like this one, and advertising imagery) for going out with non-black men? Anger seeems one short-run possibility. 2) Then there is the final taboo issue -- black male sexuality. Fear of black male sexuality was the psychological engine of Jim Crow, Nicholas Lemann has argued. And respect for it is the unwritten explanation for a lot of the resistance to cross-race dating (betwen 1960 and 1980, for example). I once asked a multi-degreed, accomplished black woman friend of mine (who dated whites) why so many other black women restricted their "options" to black men. She paused thoughtfully, stroked her chin, and said:
"I guess it's the sex."
Blake's story leaves the reader with the impression the biggest obstacle white men-seeking-miscegenation face is that they might not know what "P-funk, nappy hair and playing the dozens" mean -- that they lack an understanding of the black "experience" and "heritage." That's what newspaper editors would like to think! ... Even so, Blake's story ("Could Mr. Right be White?") seems like a big advance. ... 1:30 P.M.

 

[Deluxe]

Surprise--I know what you are saying. My friend invited me to be her date at her best friend's wedding. The bride's father and ALL of his 8 brothers and their sons (a big family) were all married to white women, except for one of the brothers--he had a black wife but she looked basically white. I looked like this the whole time I felt like I was in the twilight zone. Everyone was nice, but I felt very uncomfortable. I was just in awe.

And I heard one of the sons say his mixed daughter "bet not bring home a white man." My friend and I were like erplexed . i couldn't believe he said that and he was serious.

my friend and i were talking to the bride the night before the wedding. the bride (who is all Black) said that she accepts it, but she still resents the fact that her Dad left her family for a white woman and she acknowledged that all of them don't want their daughters to marry white men. That is insane!

How interesting. I know of another family full of black males sons. The father has married a white woman, and his five sons followed suit. I'm not saying anything is wrong with who they married. I just think it is a very interesting pattern that keeps popping up.

 

[firecracker]

*Jingle plays in the background*

Announcer: "Sistas", have your options run low? Did you have to turn to the "white man"? Is he missing something but you can't put your finger on it? Try our great new product

"O'Da Black Man"!!!!

This will give your white man that mandigo essense and you'll never be able to tell the difference until you look in the mirror!

Now in 3 great scents, Mandigo Warrior, Rhodes Scholar and Hood Star

In fine department stores near YOU!

See why you gotta clown my silly ***

 

[firecracker]

Don't mean to sound short Carlita, but if you want to discuss the plight of black men, perhaps you should start a thread of your own. IMO, black women have expended far too much time, energy and precious resources trying to elevate black men. Sometimes to our own detriment. When all is said and done black men are men, and its incumbent upon them to elevate their own goddamned selves.

Gotdamn you don spoke da truf!

 

[chica_canella]

I think that the reason this statement seems to be true is because we still live in a male dominated society. The undercurrent is "men are the head of the household".

So I find the opposite is also true, when a white woman marries or dates a black man, she'll most often be "kicked out" of the white club... or --at the very least-- get odd stares. Many a white father has cried over his daughter's choice of a black spouse or boyfriend... However, it's more hidden because white people don't want to be called racist for this type of attitude. Whereas many black people would just consider this attitude as preserving their heritage...

Anyway, alienation has happend to some degree with some of my white associates who have married/dated black men... And ultimately my sister in law couldn't handle it so she dumped my brother and went back... BTW- her father was one of the criers...

Um, I must also add that even though Becky may get kicked out of her family, the black family is always welcoming, to ANYONE. I'm talking black, not African. But in the case of the black woman, her family may give her a harder time for dating IR than they give black men, becuase it is that syndrome, "Boys will be Boys" and people are already used to or somewhat expecting black men to date IR. But I don't know if white families are willing to accept their white son dating IR so the black women may have no family in the end where at least Becky has her adopted black family.

 

[Mystic]

For the women who feel this way, it's sad. I have ALWAYS been a self-lover. That's why I can date a black, white or latino guy, rich or poor and still be able to be me. I treat all of them the same way - with respect and vice versa - and I put no one above me; no one is too good for me - doesn't matter who you are.

As for the person with the blog, that is sad too. Just the title alone is limiting and excludes other races. Dating should not be about a particular race. It should be about FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON, irrespective of color.

You think? I don't know. Me personally, I don't think that we think of black men as our equal but that's another thread. I DO think however we (not us us, but when i say we I am speaking of black women in general) think of white men as the ultimate step above/uup. I seriously do. I know some women who only date black men and won't date outside of their race because they don't even think they have the chance with a white man-not that they would ever admit it though.

ETA: Disclaimer, I do NOT think every black woman feels like this nor am I implying that. Some only SOME.

 

[Mystic]

I totally agree with this. The other annoying one is, "You are not black enough if you speak proper English." Such garbage.................

I am sorry to say this but your friends are living in a bubble and living a world full of sterotypes, how in the world can you be less black if you are: successful, have money, and have a degree? That's basically saying that in order to be black you have to be poor, lack an education, and not attain your goals. Being black is about standing up for yourself and proving people wrong who say you can't make it. I really dislike people who have this train of thought that being black is one think or another, some with any other race who sterotypes their race.

 

[live2bgr8]

Wow, that was a lot to digest, but I mainly agree with your post... GREAT POINTS! Congrats on your engagement! Some of your experience had been mine too.

Utimately I married a black man who treats me like a queen... Not because he's black and not because I'm black... but because he believes that it's the right thing to do when honoring God. BTW-- we still have our cultural differences, because he was not born here...

Anyway, I pray that all of my sisters out there-- who are looking for a good man-- find one who loves you for who you are. If you really want to be with a black man, don't give up hope. If it's not that important to you, well then it's not that important... But more importantly, I hope that all sisters can love themselves so that when a real and lasting love comes along, they'll be ready for it...

I completely agree on this one. I also have a cousin who’s fiancée left him after her father did his crying thing over her dating a black man. So with women it happens both ways. My cousin also told me when I was dating white men that I need to stop because its not right so I asked him what the difference was since he only dated white women, and he said it looks good when I do it, but it doesn’t look good when you do
Overall I find that there are good white men out there, and nearly all white men are interested in black women at some point, its just some of them are not interested in long term. Believe it or not from the BET image of black women some young and dumb white men seem to think we are all sex crazed sluts, and what man wouldn’t be interested in that at some point? My point is finding a white man who is genuinely interested in settling down AND someone you have a lot in common with is actually in my opinion harder than finding a black man with this ish together and would be good for you.
I dated a few white men and I don’t have a problem with them at all, but honestly for me personally I felt like their level of understanding of ME was not the same as my relationship with my black fiancée, I cant say this is only because he is black but I feel like that barrier makes things a lot more relaxed. Also dealing with other people in an IR really stresses your love, so it has to be that much stronger and I personally never felt a love that strong for a white man. I think the comments on black women seeing white men as the ultimate prize is seriously out of line? What black women really think something like that? To me black men are the ultimate prize they are seriously the most copied despised and coveted male on the planet. (Maybe I am just a black male lover??) I dated white men because they were around and SEEMED like a better option than the black men I had around asking me out. Upon further dating I found there are plenty of good black men out there they just are not sitting at my feet like the not so good ones and white ones were. Regardless of how far we have come in race relations there is still that taboo, and as racist as this might sound I personally feel like I have more in common with men of all other races besides white.
I also have slowly and steadily become less and less attracted to white men, as I matured. I guess it has something to do with me truly loving myself my skin, hair features, and then just not liking the opposite as much as I once did, I wouldn’t say I ever hated myself, but I did conform to white standards (straightened my hair, didn’t LIKE my nose, wore contacts), I have since grown out of that and find myself attracted to the blackest of black men.

 

[CaramelMiSS]

Let me first say... I haven't read the replies so maybe my opinion right now won't be appropriate

but Rozlips' post had me thinking:

although I agree with you that we shouldn't close ourselves to the other races, it just seems like in all this, black men are getting left behind. What I mean is, although I agree that we shouldn't sit on our butts waiting for those of them who don't have their act together to get it working,

I think we are forgetting that it's just going to be a slippery slope for them. I wish there were MEN (because they'd most likely listen to each other) telling each other to do something better with themselves (those who aren't), to go to college like black women are doing, or vocational schools, anything! and stop thinking of "the life" as hustlin' or whatever else.

It's good that we aren't waiting for them, but someone also needs to encourage them to do better with themselves

Oh and recently, we were watching all these documentaries about African countries, and in most of them, the youth there IDOLIZE none other than 50Cent! It's sad that it's what they see when they think of black men in America, living like Fiddy... yes that was unrelated to the topic but just a thought.

For some reason or another some men do not take kindly to women encouraging them. I have found that men will not listen to women, they take better if they have a male leader who is SHOWING then the right way. For example, my sister has this boyfriend who has the mentality of why should I help another young black man when no one helped me? This is a common attitude amoung young black males. Like my mom said some are like crabs in a bucket, if one is about to get out another one pulls them down.

 

[TwistNMx]

Nothing like that in my marriage. I wouldn't be with a man I could control.

Ditto. We stand up for ourselves in life, and "respect" each other in our marriage.
I wouldn't want a push-over...know what I mean?
We've been together for years now...we understand each other completely.

 

[JamericanGurl]

I know this is going to ruffle some feathers, but there's an absolute shortage of black men.
I've dated exclusively IR (White) for years before my IR marriage. Never had any problem outside of the norm.
There were a few black guys that were oblivious to well, lets just say everything! Needless to say they were very short-term.
So....
Date White and you'll do better than allright.
Date black, and it'll set you back.
This is solely based on my opinion, so my apologies if I offend anyone.

Roz? Where you at? Cuz here's the proof
Yes, I'm offended on so many different levels....I don't even know where to start...yet it's your God given right to have these beliefs

 

[WomanlyCharm]

Date White and you'll do better than allright.
Date black, and it'll set you back.
This is solely based on my opinion, so my apologies if I offend anyone.

You are entitled to your opinion...but I'm just speechless.
Wow. O.k. Imma let someone else take this on, 'cause I just can't right now. I just can't.

 

[JLove74]

I know this is going to ruffle some feathers, but there's an absolute shortage of black men.
I've dated exclusively IR (White) for years before my IR marriage. Never had any problem outside of the norm.
There were a few black guys that were oblivious to well, lets just say everything! Needless to say they were very short-term.
So....
Date White and you'll do better than allright.
Date black, and it'll set you back.
This is solely based on my opinion, so my apologies if I offend anyone.

in my most bestest Flavor Flav voice "WOOOOOOOWWWWW"

so I guess you set him back, I mean you black and all, right? I guess you downgraded him?

 

[Millahdoowop]

I know this is going to ruffle some feathers, but there's an absolute shortage of black men.
I've dated exclusively IR (White) for years before my IR marriage. Never had any problem outside of the norm.
There were a few black guys that were oblivious to well, lets just say everything! Needless to say they were very short-term.
So....
Date White and you'll do better than allright.
Date black, and it'll set you back.
This is solely based on my opinion, so my apologies if I offend anyone.

Wooooooooooooooow!! *giggle* wooooooooooooooooow. I'm so... I can't even describe. This was just funny to me. Sorry.

 

[JamericanGurl]

in my most bestest Flavor Flav voice "WOOOOOOOWWWWW"

so I guess you set him back, I mean you black and all, right? I guess you downgraded him?

You know I was thinking the same thang.erplexed

 

[Radianthealth]

So....
Date White and you'll do better than allright.
Date black, and it'll set you back.

WOW...This is gonna be my new siggy quote...priceless

No really you are entitled to your oppinion and I can't even hate, I am sure the experiences in your life have led you to feel this way.

My Husband (he is black) says - "All Black men are not evil & corrupt, people should be judged based on their individual qualities"

 

[TwistNMx]

Roz? Where you at? Cuz here's the proof
Yes, I'm offended on so many different levels....I don't even know where to start...yet it's your God given right to have these beliefs

Hey Jamericangurl,
I knew you'd come through.
I was just kidding about that last part.
Don't be so sensitive.
If I had a dime for every prank.
I had a feeling I'd get a reaction, but WOW!

 

[LocksOfLuV]

I know this is going to ruffle some feathers, but there's an absolute shortage of black men.
I've dated exclusively IR (White) for years before my IR marriage. Never had any problem outside of the norm.
There were a few black guys that were oblivious to well, lets just say everything! Needless to say they were very short-term.
So....
Date White and you'll do better than allright.
Date black, and it'll set you back.
This is solely based on my opinion, so my apologies if I offend anyone.

*blinks a lot* Well it is definitely refereshing to see someone finally state the opposite end of the spectrum and tell how they feel regardless of how others might take it and not just follow along with the crowd. I also respect you for acknowledging this as just your opinions and not just some facts.

Not saying, I agree, but big ups and maybe this will help other women who feel the way you do feel security in participating.

 

[PaperClip]

I know this is going to ruffle some feathers, but there's an absolute shortage of black men.
I've dated exclusively IR (White) for years before my IR marriage. Never had any problem outside of the norm.
There were a few black guys that were oblivious to well, lets just say everything! Needless to say they were very short-term.
So....
Date White and you'll do better than allright.
Date black, and it'll set you back.
This is solely based on my opinion, so my apologies if I offend anyone.

Looking around for Ashton Kutcher 'cause I know I just got PUNK'D with this post! Come on out, Ashton!

Ok for real.... This is beyond words....So now I got to pull up my Holy Ghost (naw, He's always with me!) and say this:

In defense of all the wonderful Black men on the planet (startin' with my own daddy, brother, etc.,), the devil is a L-I-A-R!!!!

 

[WomanlyCharm]

Why are we all saying WOW! tonight?!
We need a thesaurus!

 

[Radianthealth]

Hey Jamericangurl,
I knew you'd come through.
I was just kidding about that last part.
Don't be so sensitive.
If I had a dime for every prank.
I had a feeling I'd get a reaction, but WOW!

Cute

Happy B-Day!!!

 

[Millahdoowop]

in my most bestest Flavor Flav voice "WOOOOOOOWWWWW"

so I guess you set him back, I mean you black and all, right? I guess you downgraded him?

:in my best beyonce voice: Baby let me downgrade you!!

 

[JamericanGurl]

Hey Jamericangurl,
I knew you'd come through.
I was just kidding about that last part.
Don't be so sensitive.
If I had a dime for every prank.
I had a feeling I'd get a reaction, but WOW!

Well you got me cuz I sure did send an SOS to Roz.
But were you really joking? Cuz honestly, I've heard simlar for real statements before and at this point ....I'm no longer surprised.

But I showl was gonna ask Roz to have a little convo with you

 

[TwistNMx]

WOW...This is gonna be my new siggy quote...priceless

No really you are entitled to your oppinion and I can't even hate, I am sure the experiences in your life have led you to feel this way.

My Husband (he is black) says - "All Black men are not evil & corrupt, people should be judged based on their individual qualities"

You are so right!

 

[WomanlyCharm]

High Priestess :



Now I know you're on JG's list!

 

[TwistNMx]

Cute

Happy B-Day!!!

Thanks trimbride.
And btw, I'm glad someone has a sense of humor.