PrissiSippi
Simply Komplex
I didn’t know ANY of this when I first started dating. I’m JUST learning it now. Maybe it could help someone. Can y’all add to the list?
Common Games Emotionally Unavailable Men Play
Common Games Emotionally Unavailable Men Play
- They say they want to married. (Don’t believe their words. Only believe their actions.) But they don’t make any actions towards marriage with you. They don’t try to increase their income to provide for you or secure a home or push the relationship timeline.
- They act like you’re crazy. They play aloof. If they didn’t talk to you all day if you bring it up they say you’re insecure or you’re crazy. They don’t take blame. (Gaslighting)
- They try to change your appearance under the guise of they like natural girls. (Don’t listen to their words. Only look at their actions. Do they like instagirls pictures? Do they eye rape women with makeup, tight clothes, and etc? Did they meet you with makeup? If so, stay like that and always level up.)
- They neg you. (Example: Yeah you can’t cook THAT good. Yeah your box isn’t special. He compliments other women but never you. He told me I couldn’t cook THAT good. This is to lower your self-esteem so you operate from a scarcity mindset and take his crap under the guise of you can’t get anyone else.
- He makes you chase him. (He doesn’t respond to messages.)
- Plays victim.
- Says he doesn’t like commitment but committed to other stuff in life. He doesn’t like Titles but wants titles at work. (He just doesn’t want a title with YOU.)
- Try to get you to plan dates.
- He will say I don't date and then name one of your characteristics. Example: I don’t date Tonga women. or Yeah....I usually don't date women from the South they are too country. It turns the tables and it makes you want to prove yourself....to PROVE you're not like the rest.
- They neg you by telling you they like the opposite of whatever you are. Him: I like white women, they are More submissive You: Can you actually find white women? They like rich guys…
- Calls you girlfriend before investing in you to have sex. It doesn’t matter if HE calls you his gf. Make him invest. He doesn’t get gf privledge until then.
- Wolf tickets - he said je’s Buy me a Mother’s Day present because I deserve it. He says he’s going to take you out you this week...doesn’t do it. He plans out dates real far out in advance and then tries to have sex with you NOW. (This goes with 15. If you get fooled by this, you will emotionally invest in them and or have sex with them early by getting comfortable. By the time you figure out they're not sincere with their offers....you can't go back without them feeling like you're controlling them through sex...beware)
- Lowering your self esteem - You say you go to the gym, he grabs your forearm and says “really I can’t tell.” He calls you fat. This is to lower your self worth.
- Asks for sex early. BUT When you ask for money he says it’s too early. OR he says he likes to take things slow but then tries to be FAST as it relates to sex because 'both of yall are grown"
- He says he won’t leave if y’all have sex. He’s trying to push you to have sex with him early in the relationship without him investing. Once y’all have sex he EXPECTS it to continue. If you try to go back on your actions and stop having sex until you get a commitment he will feel like you are controlling him. He will most likely stop talking to you if this occurs. This is why it's most important to HOLD OUT until you at least get a TITLE and actions to go along with it.
- This is when a guy makes you feel bad about not giving him what he wants. Turn things around to make u question yourself. Him: I was talking to my therapist and said people are crazy to. You: Yeah they are crazy and they need to re-evaluate why they would stay with a person that disrupts their peace and makes them Unsafe.
- Ignore you so you’re hot and bothered
- They go hot and cold. They show you a lot of attention and then ghost you. Then they come back strong. This is to get them to chase you.
- He sends YOU his number so YOU can call HIM instead of HIM chasing you. He complains that you only talk to him when HE contacts YOU. (Darn right because you're the prize)
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