Well, ladies, I just concluded another textbook open and shut case of he just wasn't that into me. And here I was thinking I was crazy or something.
It was the usual scenario. We met, he went out of his way to spend time w/me, take me out, etc. Talked about how much he really liked me, blah blah. Fast foward 3 months, all of a sudden he's ghost, coming at me crazy with random off color/borderline disrepsectful comments, and when i ask him about it, he makes it seem like I'M the one with the problem. He insists he does like me, and makes excuses for all his changes in behavior. And acts like I'm making up all these "changes" in my head. Tossed me the I'm busy/work alot line. Whatever. Even hit me with the "I'm just real careful/defensive bc I've been hurt in the past and i'm just such a nice guy and people take advantage of me". (Note: stay away from the "self proclaimed" nice guys)
But with me being on the forum and knowing what i know, I starting thinking to myself, Imani, he is obvioulsy not feeling you, PEOPLE MAKE TIME FOR THINGS/PEOPLE THAT ARE IMPORTANT TO THEM. And also form this forum, I recalled reading that guys will string females along even when they don't like you because they just like having options.
So, since he wouldn't admit it, I finally let him go in December after a total of 6 months. And actually, i realize I "wasn't that into him, either!". Just thought he was fine and a "good on paper" dude.
So come to find out...out of "nowhere" he has a girlfriend that he's been with since December (supposedly, i suspect it was before then). Yeah, December, same month we stopped talking.
If he wanted her, why couldn't he just tell me that from jump instead of draggin it out and making excuses/lying?? (Its a rhetorical question. I don't really expect an answer. guys are just stupid)
Anyway, just wanted to thank the ladies on the forum for all their advice and posts.
I'm taking a break. And working on my career/finances this year Have already paid off 2 credit cards so far in 09!!
It was the usual scenario. We met, he went out of his way to spend time w/me, take me out, etc. Talked about how much he really liked me, blah blah. Fast foward 3 months, all of a sudden he's ghost, coming at me crazy with random off color/borderline disrepsectful comments, and when i ask him about it, he makes it seem like I'M the one with the problem. He insists he does like me, and makes excuses for all his changes in behavior. And acts like I'm making up all these "changes" in my head. Tossed me the I'm busy/work alot line. Whatever. Even hit me with the "I'm just real careful/defensive bc I've been hurt in the past and i'm just such a nice guy and people take advantage of me". (Note: stay away from the "self proclaimed" nice guys)
But with me being on the forum and knowing what i know, I starting thinking to myself, Imani, he is obvioulsy not feeling you, PEOPLE MAKE TIME FOR THINGS/PEOPLE THAT ARE IMPORTANT TO THEM. And also form this forum, I recalled reading that guys will string females along even when they don't like you because they just like having options.
So, since he wouldn't admit it, I finally let him go in December after a total of 6 months. And actually, i realize I "wasn't that into him, either!". Just thought he was fine and a "good on paper" dude.
So come to find out...out of "nowhere" he has a girlfriend that he's been with since December (supposedly, i suspect it was before then). Yeah, December, same month we stopped talking.
If he wanted her, why couldn't he just tell me that from jump instead of draggin it out and making excuses/lying?? (Its a rhetorical question. I don't really expect an answer. guys are just stupid)
Anyway, just wanted to thank the ladies on the forum for all their advice and posts.
I'm taking a break. And working on my career/finances this year Have already paid off 2 credit cards so far in 09!!