GraceJones
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I met this guy who is very kind, sweet, and generous. I always have a good time with him. He seems mannerable so far, but I'm still getting to know him. I think the problem is that I'm veryyyyy liberal. You can consider me to be "woke" as far as it pertains to human rights and black women issues (for obvious reasons). I'm trying to expand my horizons and just look for a good man PERIOD rather than a good black man. The guy I'm dating is a mixed-race Hispanic man.
We've already talked about religion, and neither one of us are particularly religious although we both have extremely religious backgrounds. I did hear him say that he was against masks, which makes me feel like he has some conservative political leanings. Or he may be a moderate, conservative in some areas, liberal in others. IDK I have to ask him. I'm wondering if we could be compatible long term.
I don't feel like this difference in political ideology is due to our difference in race or culture (even though Hispanic is not a race, I don't know if he considers himself black yet). It's not even as simple as to say, "Well, in that case just date black men.
I've dated black men who have straight out told me that they do not like talking about black issues.
I've come to realize that my viewpoints as a black woman even differ from those of black men. Ironically enough, the black men that I meet in organizations tend to espouse the same exact talking points as white supremacists such: anti-feminism, anti-lgbt rights, anti-abortion, ant-Semitism, denial of rape culture, etc.
And I live in a blue state.
And let's not talk about the way that these so-called "woke" men juggle various women
. Marc Lamont Hill just became a baby daddy with a younger woman. So did Van Jones. Cousin Jeff confessed how he slept with various women that he organized with. So I don't think it's as cut and dry.
I don't think it's realistic to find a man (even a black man, sadly) who will reflect my political ideology because we live in a culture that ignores the social and political needs of black women. Is it even necessary? IDK, just thinking out loud
We've already talked about religion, and neither one of us are particularly religious although we both have extremely religious backgrounds. I did hear him say that he was against masks, which makes me feel like he has some conservative political leanings. Or he may be a moderate, conservative in some areas, liberal in others. IDK I have to ask him. I'm wondering if we could be compatible long term.
I don't feel like this difference in political ideology is due to our difference in race or culture (even though Hispanic is not a race, I don't know if he considers himself black yet). It's not even as simple as to say, "Well, in that case just date black men.
I've dated black men who have straight out told me that they do not like talking about black issues.
I've come to realize that my viewpoints as a black woman even differ from those of black men. Ironically enough, the black men that I meet in organizations tend to espouse the same exact talking points as white supremacists such: anti-feminism, anti-lgbt rights, anti-abortion, ant-Semitism, denial of rape culture, etc.
And I live in a blue state.
And let's not talk about the way that these so-called "woke" men juggle various women
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I don't think it's realistic to find a man (even a black man, sadly) who will reflect my political ideology because we live in a culture that ignores the social and political needs of black women. Is it even necessary? IDK, just thinking out loud