can yall give your 2 cents

OP Thank God the babymama ruined his plans for trapping YOU til after the wedding. Now you dont have to be a divorcee. Pack up and LEAVE.

If he used a condom how could she "trap him with fertility pills"..ignore his senseless lies and move on!
 
So there was a relationship, sex, pregnancy, a birth and a death of a poor little baby, a funeral....all of which happened behind your back and you are asking us if you should stay.............NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
 
You need to call up baby mama and thank her for telling you the truth and just before that, you need to get on your knees and thank God that He allowed you to answer the phone and find all this out beforehand.
 
awwwww, this is heartbreaking. i think you need to let him go. this is not the way to start a life together. keep us posted on your decision. you are in my prayers..

so , did the little one die at birth or something happen outside of the hospital? did the death even have an affect on your dude?
 
I don't have much to add because these smart ladies have SAID IT ALL.

I'm just wondering, what's you economic class level? What's his? Who is more financially stable and has it together?

I ask because I've been noticing this growing trend of guys with very messy lives (divorced and/or multiple baby mama's, child support they can't really handle, messy finances, etc).

You know what? Somehow they always seem to find women who are in better life and financial situations than they are.

The accountant in me says........ He'll gain and you'll loss if you decide on merger with this man.
 
celiabug said:
He died at birth and I he said he had no relationship with the child so he didn't know how to feel
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That is so wrong in so many ways its not even funny. That right there sounds cold like he doesn't have a soul.
Please leave this man alone god has something better planned for you if you let him go.......
 
I'm actually still in school so I don't make much. He is a single father of 2. His children's mother isn't in their life at all but he does pretty ok. His baby mother makes a lot of money. I actually found out the his new car "he" bought actually came from her.
 
he's like a vampire or a leech... he will suck the life right out of you with these issues. he was clearly using you to escape. a new wife with a new woman... forget those kids. :nono:
 
I'm still trying to figure out how he had time to do all this when we practically lived together and she lives almost 2 hrs away. And its not like she had no clue about me though. She knew about me the whole time. He never even found out she was pregnant till she was 4 months apparently.
 
Whoever this chick is needs new dreams, if this is the man of her dreams. This sounds more like a nightmare. I can't even believe she would entertain a thought of staying with him.

ETA: just saw this about OP. So sorry you are going through this. :( Move on without him. You can do better.
 
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i agree, he's a liar and is deceptive. there is more going on than you know. you need to leave and never look back. so now, she bought him a car too? why? this is a rhetorical question by the way. this just sounds out like it will get messier and messier the more you look into what the hell was going on.
 
He said she bought him a car because she wants to be with him and is trying to use money to get him. She bought his kids things too. Like a Wii and school clothes
 
If he didn't want those things he didn't have to keep them. If I wanted to show someone that they couldn't buy me, I certainly wouldn't accept a car from them.

Is he telling you he hasn't slept with her since she got pregnant?

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no he told me that after i first found out and broke things off with him, he tried to be with her because he "doesnt believe in a child out of wedlock" and "since he couldnt be with me" he would try and work things out with her. so he told me they were together for a few months but he said he couldnt be with her because shes not what he wants. he even called her in front of me and told her to stop calling him to prove that they werent together. even though that proves nothing. but ever since i found out hes been pretty honest with me but still i feel like hes lying sometimes.
oh but he said they never had sex again after she got pregnant until after i found out because "she had complications and was bleeding all the time".
 
celiabug this sounds interesting. and by interesting, i mean CRAZY AS HELL. he sat here and TOLD you he stopped having sex with her not because he wasnt interested in her, but because she was bleeding. meaning he woulda still been getting it if she wasnt. sweetheart please dont do this. my ex was a lot like this guy in the sense that he told open lies. this dude is telling you to your face that he is a liar, he has very little stock in the children he creates, can be "bought" even tho he supposedly doesnt want her, and isnt the slightest bit concerned about keeping you aware of whats happening in his life. what would you say if another posted this exact same story on this forum? if this wasnt your current situation, how would you view this man? would you consider him marriage material?
 
celia...that man is a liar from the pitts of hell!! he's been carrying on a relationship with thr both of you!! LEAVE NOW and don't turn back...you will regret it
 
celiabug said:
I'm actually still in school so I don't make much. He is a single father of 2. His children's mother isn't in their life at all but he does pretty ok. His baby mother makes a lot of money. I actually found out the his new car "he" bought actually came from her.
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Does this mean that you'll have to play Mommy? To some other woman's children?


Girl......Jordans' aren't even powerful enough for this situation--JUST RUN BAREFOOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
celiabug said:
no he told me that after i first found out and broke things off with him, he tried to be with her because he "doesnt believe in a child out of wedlock" and "since he couldnt be with me" he would try and work things out with her. so he told me they were together for a few months but he said he couldnt be with her because shes not what he wants. he even called her in front of me and told her to stop calling him to prove that they werent together. even though that proves nothing. but ever since i found out hes been pretty honest with me but still i feel like hes lying sometimes.
oh but he said they never had sex again after she got pregnant until after i found out because "she had complications and was bleeding all the time".
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Go.with.this.feeling! He IS still lying. He sounds like one of those liars that just become better liars when confronted.
 
celiabug said:
no he told me that after i first found out and broke things off with him, he tried to be with her because he "doesnt believe in a child out of wedlock" and "since he couldnt be with me" he would try and work things out with her. so he told me they were together for a few months but he said he couldnt be with her because shes not what he wants. he even called her in front of me and told her to stop calling him to prove that they werent together. even though that proves nothing. but ever since i found out hes been pretty honest with me but still i feel like hes lying sometimes.
oh but he said they never had sex again after she got pregnant until after i found out because "she had complications and was bleeding all the time".
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That is so much going on... More thought and contemplation is involved in that phuckery than in a dissertation for nuclear science...

He's a liar, stop entertaining him...
 
I hope you're reading this post on your phone while running.
There really is no reason for you to waste any time with this fool.
Pack your ****; change your number and don't look back.
 
celiabug said:
I'm still trying to figure out how he had time to do all this when we practically lived together and she lives almost 2 hrs away. And its not like she had no clue about me though. She knew about me the whole time. He never even found out she was pregnant till she was 4 months apparently.
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Stop.it.now...

Stop thinking about how/why... He wanted to - period, so he found a way and broke his neck to lie to you.

Focus on you, not him.... Heal yourself
 
After the wedding? Maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaannnnnnnn, please. Girl, run.

eta: and she didn't buy that car because she "wants" to be with him. She bought it, because according to his lies to her, she is with him and she's just a dog to you both. Hell, probably the ex too.
I'm so sorry. But it's really good that you found out. You'll be able to move on and find better.
 
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celiabug said:
The only way I ever even found out was because one of the babies died and she was constantly calling him so I answered one day and she told me about everything. She even said "If u still want to be with him, know I'm always going to be here" I asked what his plan was and he said he was going to tell me after the wedding
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Again, like I have stated in so many threads, this is how Ninjas end up being an episode of Snapped.
 
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