If A Man Invites You On A Trip, Who Pays?

[Honey Bee]

So with most of you having established the fact that he should pay for everything since he invited you what are you offering for the gift. In most cases if guy spends that kind of money or asks you to go on an overnight trip and he's paying he probably thinks (not all guys) that he will get some bedroom benefits during the trip.
Would love to hear from you all!

Home rules apply. If I was gon give him some anyway, he gon get it. If he wasn't, oh well, nice trip, hopefully we get 'closer'.

I don't work on anybody else's schedule.

 

[nappi]

So with most of you having established the fact that he should pay for everything since he invited you what are you offering for the gift. In most cases if guy spends that kind of money or asks you to go on an overnight trip and he's paying he probably thinks (not all guys) that he will get some bedroom benefits during the trip.
Would love to hear from you all!

the gift is yourself

he gets your company
he gets to be around you/smell you/touch you…...

 

[LoveLiLi]

So with most of you having established the fact that he should pay for everything since he invited you what are you offering for the gift. In most cases if guy spends that kind of money or asks you to go on an overnight trip and he's paying he probably thinks (not all guys) that he will get some bedroom benefits during the trip.
Would love to hear from you all!

He can expect whatever he pleases but he may be setting himself up for disappointment. I've been on multiple vacations with an SO and only had sex with him on one of them. I don't owe him for taking me on a trip. If he wants guaranteed sex he should take the trip and then find an escort.

 

[LivingInPeace]

So with most of you having established the fact that he should pay for everything since he invited you what are you offering for the gift. In most cases if guy spends that kind of money or asks you to go on an overnight trip and he's paying he probably thinks (not all guys) that he will get some bedroom benefits during the trip.
Would love to hear from you all!

As one of my high school teachers would tell us every week, "The only thing you owe your date is the pleasure of your company."

 

[mzpurp]

@nappi

I agree, if he invites you, he pays. Same thing if this was a dinner date!

 

[nappi]

So with most of you having established the fact that he should pay for everything since he invited you what are you offering for the gift. In most cases if guy spends that kind of money or asks you to go on an overnight trip and he's paying he probably thinks (not all guys) that he will get some bedroom benefits during the trip.
Would love to hear from you all!

like to a

As one of my high school teachers would tell us every week, "The only thing you owe your date is the pleasure of your company."

yeah i agree

by touching i didn't mean sex

just in a general ( arm around the waist)

 

[LiftedUp]

So with most of you having established the fact that he should pay for everything since he invited you what are you offering for the gift. In most cases if guy spends that kind of money or asks you to go on an overnight trip and he's paying he probably thinks (not all guys) that he will get some bedroom benefits during the trip.
Would love to hear from you all!

I'm not having sex with my bf before marriage and he paid for everything. He's supposedly planning my bday trip now.

Also my ex, same thing except we weren't having sex at that time.

The reason why I wouldn't go on a trip so soon is because ol boy may be a murderer amongst other things.

 

[LaBelleLL]

good for you

but that wasn't what she asked

why even bother posting

so many judgmental hoes up in here

Lolol you sound legit crazy. All of this Bc I said I wouldn't go on a trip before 3 months. Im responding to a hypo at that. Sorry my reply seemed to hurt your feelings for you to go so hard. And I see no judgment in this thread except for your comments. Fool.

 

[FemmeFatale]

Wow so reckless for no reason.

Anyway I presented this to 3 of my colleagues and tell me why two said 50/50, the other said let him pay for the flight/hotel and the gf should cover dinner, excursions, etc.

All women

 

[DarkJoy]

How quickly these threads turn. Hm.

And to answer op, he pays. I would have sex too cuz my hoe ass would probably already been ass up, face down a few times already by then

 

[qchelle]

Right. More importantly, if I'm going on a trip with a man, we're having sex already lol. Wtf am I going for? So I can NOT have sex? the thought of that makes me angry.

Like no duh he pays, but that's not even the question anymore lol

If we not having sex, then no need in him even going. Just give me the money so I can go by myself lmao wtf?

 

[DarkJoy]

Right. More importantly, if I'm going on a trip with a man, we're having sex already lol. Wtf am I going for? So I can NOT have sex? the thought of that makes me angry.

Like no duh he pays, but that's not even the question anymore lol

If we not having sex, then no need in him even going. Just give me the money so I can go by myself lmao wtf?

 

[nlamr2013]

good for you

but that wasn't what she asked

why even bother posting

so many judgmental hoes up in here

LOL where's the judgment? Girl you hollering like a hit dog.

So with most of you having established the fact that he should pay for everything since he invited you what are you offering for the gift. In most cases if guy spends that kind of money or asks you to go on an overnight trip and he's paying he probably thinks (not all guys) that he will get some bedroom benefits during the trip.
Would love to hear from you all!

The offering would be my precious time
What you mean ? But this is why I don't advocate for overnight trips with strange men

 

[RocStar]

I cannot believe this is a serious question.

The game done changed.

 

[Honey Bee]

The reason why I wouldn't go on a trip so soon is because ol boy may be a murderer amongst other things.

This.

I've never been especially stingy with my cookies , but I also grew up on ID tv. You ain't killing me and pushing me over the side of the cruise ship/ throwing me off the mountain/ etc. Too many possibilities. My rule when single was: no sleepovers until I had copied his driver's license and emailed the info to several people including my mama. This was a while back. I'd probably run a background check now.

 

[DarkJoy]

I'd probably run a background check now.

I do...

 

[Bunnyhaslonghair]

Lol. Y'all have delivered the extra-ness as expected.

Op, if this person is someone that the women is dating, then yes. The man should pay all expenses. If this man is a strictly platonic guy friend then pay your way unless he offers.

It is essential that you see whether he is going to cover your expenses early on before you get serious because: a) he could be looking for a sugar mama and try to finesse YOU into paying, b) he is setting the tone in the relationship that bills and such will be split 50/50.

Unless you are ok with splitting bills 50/50 in the relationship then curve him. He will have the same expectation of you in marriage. My mother made this mistake with my step dad. She wanted him to start covering all the rent when originally they split it. He started to resent her.


Eta: oh yea, I forgot to add only go if you have some emergency funds that can get you home in case dude is cray cray since you've only known him 3 months. Bring enough money for one way flight and hotel stay just in case.

 

[Bunnyhaslonghair]

So with most of you having established the fact that he should pay for everything since he invited you what are you offering for the gift. In most cases if guy spends that kind of money or asks you to go on an overnight trip and he's paying he probably thinks (not all guys) that he will get some bedroom benefits during the trip.
Would love to hear from you all!

His chance at courting you is the gift. I've never had a guy ask me to do something sexual for taking me out. If he does he has issues and you should run away.

 

[LaBelleLL]

This.

I've never been especially stingy with my cookies , but I also grew up on ID tv. You ain't killing me and pushing me over the side of the cruise ship/ throwing me off the mountain/ etc. Too many possibilities. My rule when single was: no sleepovers until I had copied his driver's license and emailed the info to several people including my mama. This was a while back. I'd probably run a background check now.

Lolololll seriously. Pretty much.

 

[destinyseeker]

If it was an invitation...him. If you planned it together... the both of you.
Just so that there are no misunderstandings or miscommunications I'd clarify this with him as soon as possible.

 

[beebstt]

No question, he pays for it all if he wants all of you on the trip.

 

[Dellas]

This guy I was dating wanted to go to Marthas Vinyard. When he started talking 50-50 I jammed the breaks.

impromptu trips are always paid by the person inviting.

Planned vacations split

 

[LoveLiLi]

Are all of these personal preference or is there some dating etiquette I don't know about?

He pays if he asks, he pays if we both plan and he pays when I suggest doing something that I know requires travel and deliberately omit the fact that what I want to do is far away when I make him research it.

Nvmd. This may be some type of hard core grooming on my part. Or I might just be mean.

 

[NICOLETHENUMBERONE]

the gift is yourself

he gets your company
he gets to be around you/smell you/touch you…...

Exactly! Sometime we forget how much of a gift we are to men...unless your a B I h and no one wants to be around you, like you don't even have friends. @nappi

 

[*CherryPie*]

Thank you!!! I get so tired of questions like that.

so? he can think or wish it all he wants. doesnt mean it has to happen. and if does happen. ok?

then again Im not of the mind set of feeling like I "owe" someone anything for doing something for me. If its thsat serious one can always say, I wouldnt mind following you, sure but I'd like my own room. if he agrees fine, if he doesnt, no trip. I mean, imma need women to stop the "I feel like I have to" nonsense. you either want to or you dont. your decision.

 

[LadyPBC]

Love the fact that some of you are so resolute but as you may have concluded now we don't all feel the same way on this subject matter. I'm not sure about @**SaSSy** but I happen to be in this exact predicament. Hope you got some valuable input OP!!!

 

[MzLady78]

How quickly these threads turn. Hm.

And to answer op, he pays. I would have sex too cuz my hoe ass would probably already been ass up, face down a few times already by then

I have absolutely no idea what to do with you anymore. You are out of control.

 

[**SaSSy**]

Love the fact that some of you are so resolute but as you may have concluded now we don't all feel the same way on this subject matter. I'm not sure about @**SaSSy** but I happen to be in this exact predicament. Hope you got some valuable input OP!!!

Well basically the ending result was a lot of BS on his part. Long story short he barely had the money for his share, let alone my share, so in the end I decided not to go. Probably the best dating decision I have ever made, because shortly after that, his true colors became more apparent.

 

[lux10023]

if a man invites you on a trip he should pay and the trip should be within his budget...if he is on a budget there are many wknd day trips or wknd local get aways that you two can indulge in..if he is balling..listen i want to go to xyz island...


men dont have many expenses...they def dont have as much upkeep expenses as us

so i always feel their money should be in abundance/used on us...im always confused by broke men or cheap men or stingy men as
men are primal..they want us!!! a man who wants to keep his money in his pocket can keep is deck in his palm as well as we will not be doing a got damn thing lmaooo

every see a man spend money on his hobby...he will spend his life savings on keeping up with his hobby..so paying for anything involving us should be fine...

 

[C@ssandr@]

Well basically the ending result was a lot of BS on his part. Long story short he barely had the money for his share, let alone my share, so in the end I decided not to go. Probably the best dating decision I have ever made, because shortly after that, his true colors became more apparent.

Interesting. my only input here would've been why is he asking me out on a trip at 3 months? Unless you've actually known him for much longer. It's only a red/yellow flag because it sounds like a lack of boundaries.