i have a lot of thoughts on this issue since i primarily prefer to date beta men rather than alpha men. i think the biggest problem is equating beta to "p-word" and it's hard because although the beta men are often p-words, not all of them are
pro: the beta characteristics that i prefer a man to have are mainly non-competitive and non-demanding. i suppose alpha men are very take charge and like to make orders/demands/requests and i'm not really here for the latter. i dont like being told what to do, and i prefer to do the telling. so beta men work for me because i need to have my way a lot, and it's not a battle with them.
con: the biggest irritant to me personally dating beta men? never picking what to eat. that's one area i don't mind taking the backseat to and i find a lot of the time you end up with a half hour conversation just trying to decide where to have dinner
i have learned to tell them i dont care where we go and i am not picking so whatever you want that's what we'll have. then they'll pick something
pro: beta men are usually more intellectual types. there are lots of different theories on why this is but i would say in a nutshell it's related to alpha men being ladies men and being able to rely on charisma and beta men having to develop other positives to get women to date them. being more intellectual USUALLY (though not always) translates to high paying careers in specialized fields.
con: SOME beta men are contrarians. they like to argue both sides just because they can, and that can translate into a lack of original opinions. i think on the whole it's a consistent theme in beta men that they are indecisive, easily swayed, and more willing to bend to another person's opinions or desires.
pro: beta men are more considerate because they are used to getting praise by doing things for other people. this pro is a con too, because a lot of the time they do things for other people and don't feel like they deserve anything in return... which can mean they have low self worth. it's easy to see when it comes to sex life. i dated a guy who always made sure i came first and if/when i did, i couldnt do anything else, and i felt bad because he didnt finish... and he'd be like, it's alright. i also dated a guy that i wanted him to do something sexually and he refused because he "respected" me too much
like dude im ASKING you to! i obviously wouldnt feel disrespected
when it comes to beta men, at worst you might have a guy with no self esteem and massive insecurities who refuses to accept that you would want to be with him. at best, you got yourself a considerate man willing to compromise and who wants to make sure he's keeping you happy. beta men exist on a spectrum, and i think the perception of beta men as "weak" just applies to continually dating those on the left end.