2012 Relationship Random Thoughts.... Part III

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meesch said:
i take it back (i mean, well, you know what i mean). the games are about to begin. i just feel, intrinsically, that the right thing to do right now is to throw a wrench in the plans.
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aye- i hope it doesn't backfire! you sure you want to do this....?
 
LaBelleLL said:
aye- i hope it doesn't backfire! you sure you want to do this....?
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YES. like, im... i cant seem to make me hear me. and, i cannot stress this enough, I AM NOT THE RELATIONSHIP TYPE IN THE FIRST PLACE. i allowed this relationship because it made me happy. but, im so mad at him right now. and hes just like "oh, youre mad at me." like, cmon son...

the only thing i can think to do...

i mean...

like fish in a barrel...
 
^ Hope it all works out for you meesch. If you don't mind me asking, what'd he do?


Going to give them the 5 love languages test tonight. I will figure this fugger out if it's the last thing I do! His parents really should have hugged him more.
 
VeryBecoming said:
^ Hope it all works out for you @meesch. If you don't mind me asking, what'd he do?


Going to give them the 5 love languages test tonight. I will figure this fugger out if it's the last thing I do! His parents really should have hugged him more.
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he pissed me off, and im in the mood to be a btich about it. i might have to pm you.
 
On the phone I was being snappy and raising my voice and he was like "what's going on? You have a little attitude today." (Actually, I don't have an attitude with him. I talk loud anyway so it doesn't take much to raise my voice :look: and I'm snappy in general, so...I am stressed out today, though.) When we got off the phone I thought "Aw :sad:" and sent him a text that said "I'm cranky today!" and he sent one back that said. "Yeah. And I like it, too." Yasssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss. Get you some, then. :look:
 
I haven't checked in lately, I've been so busy with life and work and work and life.:ohwell: My son and my boyfriend are my brightest spots right now. The boyfriend is still the absolute best man ever to me and my son. He loves me...and I love him. Just when I think he can't do anything to top the last thing he's done for me, he always finds a way.
 
Gosh, this teacher is sooo cute. I am a professional, shouldn't be scoping out cute individuals while consulting, but I wonder if he's married. They always tend to be:sad:
 
And I had one of the best dates in a long time this weekend. It was just... awesome. Siiigh:) Unexpected, but great. Looking forward to the next one.
 
Idk if they should be making plans for my bday, and we just started dating. Are there rules for that or something? But they are old school so maybe its different
 
OOOO I text dad and he said "Too old for you, are they R. Kelly" :lachen:

Then again they are only 3 years younger than my dad :blush:
 
Theo (((hugs))) He sounds like a jerk. I'm a free-spirit, running late, creative type too, but like you, overall I am a very productive, loving, dependable person. Dh is a business guy but loves me as I am, quietly waits when I'm running late, loves my creativity, my Afro, etc. Boo on this guy for being so critical of you.
 
Welp he's still mad at me...he always preaches to me "don't cry over spoiled milk" but he is :ohwell: Let's see how long he's gonna do this for:spinning:



firecracker said:
Soooooo I force him to watch smut tv.:look: LIAR you like that mess too.
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Me too! I made him watch BBW last week; everytime I got ready to turn he said you don't have to turn:look:
 
Yesterday afternoon, was talking to other guy, who asked what I was up to that evening. Told him I was staying a little late in the office, then running home to change and head to yoga. I asked what he would be up to, and he said nothing, but that he could be persuaded. I was thinking... I said I'm going to yoga. Asked him if he meant joining me for yoga, and he's like nooo, not what I was thinking about... Like hanging out or something. Me: oh, hm, can't... I've got yoga tonight. Blinks slowly at computer screen.
 
seriously WTF? who doesn't like free spirits!
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personally, self professed "free spirits" are on my list of generally unlikeable people/people i dont get along with. i can see where hes coming from (but why would he continue to date you just to resent it :lol:)
 
hopeful said:
@Theo (((hugs))) He sounds like a jerk. I'm a free-spirit, running late, creative type too, but like you, overall I am a very productive, loving, dependable person. Dh is a business guy but loves me as I am, quietly waits when I'm running late, loves my creativity, my Afro, etc. Boo on this guy for being so critical of you.
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Thanks hopeful. You totally get me. It seems like you and your husband have a great relationship.

You're right. He's definitely a jerk and he's stupid too b/c I'm awesome. I don't know why he can't see that.
 
meesch said:
personally, self professed "free spirits" are on my list of generally unlikeable people/people i dont get along with. i can see where hes coming from (but why would he continue to date you just to resent it :lol:)
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really? lol what is wrong with free spirits?

there was a behavior change with him. he's been acting different, much less aggressive about pursuing me, which is weird for him b/c overall he's an aggressive person. i just didn't know why until now. i mean i knew he had an issue with that aspect of my personality but i didn't realize it was THAT big of a deal to him before now.

honestly, if i hadn't addressed the issue directly he probably would have gone about breaking things off in a more indirect manner, i think that's what he was moving towards.

sigh. i'm going to give myself a couple more hours to mope about it, and then i have to force myself to get over it and move on. i think i'm going to send him and e-mail tomorrow and tell him i don't think we can hang out anymore. cuz he's gonna want to be "friends" and i don't want to be his friend cuz its gonna end up being a "friends w/ bennies" sort of deal and I don't want that for myself. either you wanna be with me or you don't.
 
Theo said:
really? lol what is wrong with free spirits?

there was a behavior change with him. he's been acting different, much less aggressive about pursuing me, which is weird for him b/c overall he's an aggressive person. i just didn't know why until now. i mean i knew he had an issue with that aspect of my personality but i didn't realize it was THAT big of a deal to him before now.

honestly, if i hadn't addressed the issue directly he probably would have gone about breaking things off in a more indirect manner, i think that's what he was moving towards.

sigh. i'm going to give myself a couple more hours to mope about it, and then i have to force myself to get over it and move on. i think i'm going to send him and e-mail tomorrow and tell him i don't think we can hang out anymore. cuz he's gonna want to be "friends" and i don't want to be his friend cuz its gonna end up being a "friends w/ bennies" sort of deal and I don't want that for myself. either you wanna be with me or you don't.
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just as a broad generalization, i have found "free spirit" types to use that as a catchall for thoughtlessness and general inconsideration of others. they probably dont see it that way though. he sounds kind of like me, may seem slightly uptight when viewed by others, but really just likes order and routine and things done a certain way because it's more efficient. "free spirits" run counter to that, and it's like a totally different orientation to life, time, and relationships with others.
 
Awww how cute. He's been hounding his cousin for my information and trying to find me on facebook. His cousin won't give up the info and I'm not on facebook.

I think I'm going to give her my number to give to him.
 
I never should have said that, b/c it became such a problem. After I said that, he was really quiet. And I could tell there was something wrong, but he wouldn't tell me what it was. But then he started giving me a mini lectures about the way rules and structure help society to function, like for example one time I was complaining to him about a parking ticket I got and he starts going on about why paying parking tickets was important, and how its not fair to overstay the meter, ppl need to park, it was crazy. He would just randomly relate things to me not being a rules person. It would always go back to that.
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Yea..I couldnt date this. Is he one of the Yoruba dudes? I'd wanna beech aboujt stuff and he'll take the side of the law or the other person..um No. I would be so turned off. what is his sign
 
@meesch oh okay. yeah i don't like thoughtless or inconsiderate ppl either. i'm neither of those things so maybe i'm a different sort of free spirit lol

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