2008 IS the year I will meet a mate

i feel like if i say it i will jinx myself, or sabotage something. i'm rootin and praying for yall tho. i feel like the black family is under attack and we have to really pull for real and solid families to be born in our communities. i think this is the year the tides of change will start to turn.

Come to think of it... as long as yall are declaring things. Declare something for me. That's different from me actually saying it myself...i think...idk.
 
I had something really interesting happen last week. I have a really great male friend that I have known for several years. Yes, at one time there was a mutual attraction and when I attempted to pursue it he very gently rejected me. But he is such a great guy that I can talk to about anything that I was able to get past it and continue our friendship since that time. Over time I have learned that he is really committment phobia (I came to this conclusion based on our conversations about our dating experiences and relationships over the years) and a momma boy to the ninth degree. Since he travels alot with his job our conversations over the past year have been phone calls or text messages, so over the holidays I suggested we get together for lunch since we hadn't seen each other in person in a while. Well concrete plans were never made due to both of our schedules. Last week he left a voicemail message saying he wanted to go to lunch that day, which is unusual for him because he knows how anal I am about last minutes plans. I happen to be hosting my nieces baby shower and missed the call. I spoke with him the next day and he said something that floored me. He said, M, I had a choice to call you and another lady I meet last week because I had some down time to relax. M, I really wanted to see you because while the other lady is attractive I can tell she has an agenda and I really wanted to spend time with someone who knows me and accepts me for who I am. The more I think about relationships, the more I want to be around you. Now I had to take that comment with a grain of salt because he also mentioned going on a business trip followed by a three day weekend with his momma. I am not by any means saying this is man for me but it felt good to be sort after. This is my year to meet my mate, I believe it and I receive it into my life.
 
jdub said:
i feel like if i say it i will jinx myself, or sabotage something. i'm rootin and praying for yall tho. i feel like the black family is under attack and we have to really pull for real and solid families to be born in our communities. i think this is the year the tides of change will start to turn.

Come to think of it... as long as yall are declaring things. Declare something for me. That's different from me actually saying it myself...i think...idk.
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But... by NOT declaring it, have you gotten closer to getting it? :)

In other words, has NOT declaring it caused you to get it?
 
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I had something really interesting happen last week. I have a really great male friend that I have known for several years. Yes, at one time there was a mutual attraction and when I attempted to pursue it he very gently rejected me. But he is such a great guy that I can talk to about anything that I was able to get past it and continue our friendship since that time. Over time I have learned that he is really committment phobia (I came to this conclusion based on our conversations about our dating experiences and relationships over the years) and a momma boy to the ninth degree. Since he travels alot with his job our conversations over the past year have been phone calls or text messages, so over the holidays I suggested we get together for lunch since we hadn't seen each other in person in a while. Well concrete plans were never made due to both of our schedules. Last week he left a voicemail message saying he wanted to go to lunch that day, which is unusual for him because he knows how anal I am about last minutes plans. I happen to be hosting my nieces baby shower and missed the call. I spoke with him the next day and he said something that floored me. He said, M, I had a choice to call you and another lady I meet last week because I had some down time to relax. M, I really wanted to see you because while the other lady is attractive I can tell she has an agenda and I really wanted to spend time with someone who knows me and accepts me for who I am. The more I think about relationships, the more I want to be around you. Now I had to take that comment with a grain of salt because he also mentioned going on a business trip followed by a three day weekend with his momma. I am not by any means saying this is man for me but it felt good to be sort after. This is my year to meet my mate, I believe it and I receive it into my life.
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That was a very interesting comment. I think you should definitely keep in it mind as you evaluate his future actions to see if they line up. Also, how do you get along with his mom? That might be a critical factor for him. But whatever happens, I wish you all the best :yep:.

Me? I'm a little bummed b/c I found out tonight that the guy I've been liking the last few months is interested in someone else :ohwell:. Oh well, on to the next one. 2008 can still be my year.
 
SEMO said:
That was a very interesting comment. I think you should definitely keep in it mind as you evaluate his future actions to see if they line up. Also, how do you get along with his mom? That might be a critical factor for him. But whatever happens, I wish you all the best :yep:.

Me? I'm a little bummed b/c I found out tonight that the guy I've been liking the last few months is interested in someone else :ohwell:. Oh well, on to the next one. 2008 can still be my year.
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Yeah that is definitely a bummer :ohwell: This just means he isn't the one hand selected for you. Don't give up. We are all here to root each other on :yep:
 
For me things have been very interesting. I've had guys come back, and had to dismiss them. I've had the attraction between the guy I was interested in go down hill. But I've been going out and meeting guys. I had a great time this past Friday, actually the whole weekend. January was great, and I hope February is even better.:yep:
 
*Bre~Bre* said:
Yeah that is definitely a bummer :ohwell: This just means he isn't the one hand selected for you. Don't give up. We are all here to root each other on :yep:
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Thanks. I'm glad for this thread (and the one on Christian Carter's book). It reminded me that it's a waste of time to try to convince a man to like you. I want someone who wants me for who I am without my having to jump through hoops (which I won't do).
 
New guy.. went on a lunch date. He seems cool. Definitely has potential.

atleast I'm putting myself out there, so I'm happy. :yep: the odds are in my favor :lachen:
 
abenyo said:
New guy.. went on a lunch date. He seems cool. Definitely has potential.

atleast I'm putting myself out there, so I'm happy. :yep: the odds are in my favor :lachen:
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:yay: It's great that you are putting yourself out there.

As for me, I've had no luck since starting this thread. I can't even really go out (have my daughter) so I'm not sure how I will make this happen. But, that doesn't stop me from looking good when I do out doing errands and such. I will not stop thinking positively about this.

Any other updates??
 
Well...my friend has been under the weather lately and has been having a lot of stuff going on at home so I haven't been talking to him as much as we usually do. He's not in the same state as me so that makes it harder...and now he has a full time job which is what he's been looking for so I'm glad about that, just more time is limited..Oh well..what is meant will happen.
 
Opalsunset said:
Well...my friend has been under the weather lately and has been having a lot of stuff going on at home so I haven't been talking to him as much as we usually do. He's not in the same state as me so that makes it harder...and now he has a full time job which is what he's been looking for so I'm glad about that, just more time is limited..Oh well..what is meant will happen.
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well why don't you keep your options open? Why not meet new people in the meantime till things get where you want it to be with homeboy?

It's great that you are putting yourself out there.

As for me, I've had no luck since starting this thread. I can't even really go out (have my daughter) so I'm not sure how I will make this happen. But, that doesn't stop me from looking good when I do out doing errands and such. I will not stop thinking positively about this.

Any other updates??
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bre do you pre-approach? Meaning if you see a guy that's cute, do you smile and say hi? make it easy for him to approach you? Have you told your friends that you are looking?
 
abenyo said:
well why don't you keep your options open? Why not meet new people in the meantime till things get where you want it to be with homeboy?

bre do you pre-approach? Meaning if you see a guy that's cute, do you smile and say hi? make it easy for him to approach you? Have you told your friends that you are looking?
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I haven't seen many attractive guys my way. Well, none that aren't attached anyway. I don't preapproach, but when I pass someone i think maybe of interest I do smile. They just keep going :lachen:
 
Well, no dates, but I have been "working" on myself. I have been doing more girly things i.e. wearing more makeup and clothes that show off my figure. I spent the last week flirting with some men in my training course. It was interesting. I was in no way attracted to these men, but it felt great to know that I can.

So I plan to keep it up. I am getting my "sexy back."
 
Ooooooh!:wave: I want in on this too... sings "I'm so tired of being alone"..lol.

But I truly believe in my heart of hearts that this is my year to meet my husband! I'm not saying that I hope to be married in 08, but I strongly feel that I will be meeting my future beau.

A few months ago I made a list of qualities that I would like in a mate, put it away and forgot about it. I recently met someone who has alot (almost all) of these attributes..but I don't wanna overthink it to death..so i'll just let life flow as it should. I know in the past I think my energy would put too many expectations on a situation, squeezing out all the serendipity, only to leave me dissapointed in the end. So for now, I'll just breathe and let God work it out for me. If this particular person isn't right, I ain't sweating it, because I KNOW, that he is on the way! (Can the choir say amen?)

Lets get it girls! By focusing on ourselves and personal positive growth, while still focusing on attracting a meaningful relationship, how can the Universe deny?
 
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:yep::yep: I having been praying for this and hopefully GOD hear my prayer, so far he has given me several positve signs. I question it, but it seems like GOD has indeed sent me what I prayed for :yep:. I will stop questioning and enjoy the moment.

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Originally Posted by juju
This year is the year i will meet my special love who will be the father of my children .
 
Duchesse said:
Ooooooh!:wave: I want in on this too... sings "I'm so tired of being alone"..lol.

But I truly believe in my heart of hearts that this is my year to meet my husband! I'm not saying that I hope to be married in 08, but I strongly feel that I will be meeting my future beau.

A few months ago I made a list of qualities that I would like in a mate, put it away and forgot about it. I recently met someone who has alot (almost all) of these attributes..but I don't wanna overthink it to death..so i'll just let life flow as it should. I know in the past I think my energy would put too many expectations on a situation, squeezing out all the serendipity, only to leave me dissapointed in the end. So for now, I'll just breathe and let God work it out for me. If this particular person isn't right, I ain't sweating it, because I KNOW, that he is on the way! (Can the choir say amen?)

Lets get it girls! By focusing on ourselves and personal positive growth, while still focusing on attracting a meaningful relationship, how can the Universe deny?
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Tell me about it.. a guy friend of a friend told his girlfriend that he liked me. Now when I first met him, there was a little something, he isn't my type, but I found myself being really attracted to him.

He goes to my church and I see him occasionally, but he hasn't tried to get my number even though he has said that he like me. I think God wants me to be sure first rather than reacting to him. Cause I am umming and ahhing and I know that it is my issues that this is happening.

But I am glad that he hasn't asked for my number, maybe we are suppose to know each other slowly. I am learning to take it easy and enjoy going out and having fun
 
So ladies how is it going?

I'm having the time of my life. I've seriously never been in this type of life before. I'm here because my outlook is great, coupled with LOA I'm unstoppable. Each turn and twists are very interesting to me, and I'm loving it. By declaring it, and going for it, I have realized that so much has happened in this very short amount of time.

Are any of you ladies keeping a journal? If you are not you should. Keep things about what you are grateful for, how your day is going, what you have done to better yourself, what you want to happen. Make it all positive. Talk as if it's happening or will happen. Never focus on bad stuff focus on the positive and good stuff. Make sure everyday you imagine yourself getting a kiss from your boy.

And if you have a man in your life, make sure to talk to him. Let him know what you want and get to know what he wants. Alot of headaches can be dismissed if only we just forget being afraid and do it.

Early this week I was ready to let a guy go. He and I haven't been as active as last time, and I had started going out on dates with other people. Well he contacts me, and at first I wasn't going to reply, but I just told myself well I'm older, what have I learned from the past? and what am I afraid of. I also told myself to stop letting fear take over and just do what I want. I decided if by telling him the way I feel makes him run well I'm ready to accept that. So I told him and we had a semi "the talk". I know it can go there but I'm not sure if I'm ready to be with him yet. I do like him, but I've also within the time of breaking up with him went on a good date with another person. So I'm doing some serious soul searching.

All my dates know that I'm not looking to just date or waste my time.
 
Bre Bre you are a Genius!!!!!!!

I like this thread. I don’t know if you realized what you did. By you speaking your intention in this thread, you got others to do the same and this creates a synergy. This will accelerate the process for you to find your soul mate. People are seeing this with you. I learned this on a LOA show:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z9gpYgc3Oek&feature=RecentlyWatched&page=1&t=t&f=b




Now,I'm also putting out my intention out there.

I also intend to meet my mate this year while studying my master degree in business administration at Harvard business School.


 
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Yes, i'm joining in this thread. This will me my year too.

My friends had been setting me up on dates - i've had 3 - but i'm not it the least bit attracted to any of them, not just looks but their personalities...however they have all liked me :perplexed. I have however learned alot from the dates and i've confirmed within myself the type of man i would want to be with and not to settle for less.
I believe God put them my way for this reason :yep:

I'm now relaxed, my mind is clear, i'm no longer 'looking' and not feeling so 'desperate' to find me a man.

The right man for all of us will step into our lives when we least expect it.

I'm looking forward to hearing from all of you when you have met your Mr Right.
 
Count me in too!!
I just went on a date with a guy who I'm attracted to (a rarity with me these days) and we're seeing each other tomorrow for a couple hours, so we'll see how it goes. Also, kinda talked to this other guy and he thought I was too busy to really hang out with him, so I had to let him know that I'll make time (some) for him. So we'll see how either of these pan out!! I'm claiming '08 as my year! :yep:
 
Bublin said:
Yes, i'm joining in this thread. This will me my year too.

My friends had been setting me up on dates - i've had 3 - but i'm not it the least bit attracted to any of them, not just looks but their personalities...however they have all liked me :perplexed. I have however learned alot from the dates and i've confirmed within myself the type of man i would want to be with and not to settle for less.
I believe God put them my way for this reason :yep:

I'm now relaxed, my mind is clear, i'm no longer 'looking' and not feeling so 'desperate' to find me a man.

The right man for all of us will step into our lives when we least expect it.

I'm looking forward to hearing from all of you when you have met your Mr Right.
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I feel the exact same way with regard to the bolded.

OT: Which part of South London do you hail from?
 
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