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AlwayzAbenyo, in what city will the events take place?
I'm in MD chiika.
some info to help us all, great advice, well worth the read. I will be posting information that we can all use. I know they are common sense to some of us, but we all could use some reinforcements.
If you have a FRIEND (man or woman) and you
like them, and you want to make them like you
more, then when you do some nice things for them
they will probably actually like and appreciate
you more. As a friend.
On the other hand...
If you have a man that you "like" in a romantic
way, and he doesn't "feel it" for you, and you do
something nice for him, because you want HIM to
like you more, it will BACKFIRE... and he will not
only NOT like you more, but he will most likely
distance himself from you.
Women think that they need to communicate
verbally when they like a man... as if that's part
of the necessary process of getting a guy.
In their minds, it goes like this:
Like him >Tell him you like him >He likes you
If you follow this pattern with men who aren't
already FEELING much ATTRACTION or CONNECTION with
you, then it's probably going to BACKFIRE.
If he's not into you, then it goes like THIS:
He thinks of you as a friend>You tell him you
like him>He gets that "yikes" feeling and
withdraws...
THE ANSWER
There are really TWO answers to this problem.
The first answer is what to do if you're in a
situation where you like a particular guy, but you
don't know if he likes you back.
DON'T GET HEAVY WITH HIM.
Don't buy him a big gift, do something nice to
show him how much you think about him, or write
him a love letter...
Don't send him a note to his work that says,
"From your secret admirer".
Don't call him several times, without hearing
from him.
And DON'T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for him.
If you want to know how he feels about you, do
something to ATTRACT HIM and see how he reacts
instead of telling him you love him and hearing
the crickets chirp as you wait for his response.
As a rule of thumb, don't get heavier than HIM.
Use SIGNALS from him to find out how he feels...
and if you don't know how to read and create those
signals, then LEARN.
Asking a man if he's interested in you in a
romantic way, or if you are "his type", will
actually DESTROY the chances that his attraction
and interest in you will grow.
Really.
The SECOND answer is to not get into this
particular situation in the FIRST PLACE. Avoid it
entirely.
And how does one do that?
One does that by creating ATTRACTION from the
beginning.
One does that by understanding the dynamics of
how and why the physical and emotional response of
ATTRACTION is triggered in men.
One does that by knowing what you're doing FROM
THE BEGINNING.