2008 IS the year I will meet a mate

[Bunny77]

We gon get us some mens this year Maybe we should checkin on a semi monthly basis with any progress or tips we get.

I know that's right! And I'm really happy to see a group of black women being honest with ourselves about the fact that we want mates AND that we're willing to make an effort to meet them!

I like the check-ins! I'll be participating!

 

[caligirl]

Can you imagine if some nice single men somehow got into our forum and saw all of us fly *ss black woman doing the damn thing?! What more could you want? Great hair, ambition, intelligence...we got it all here!

 

[tocktick]

DITTO!!!

well not a hubby..but a real bf

lol same. i do truly believe i will meet a good person very soon and have done since late last year. 2007 was truly the year of loser guys for me . there will be no more "mistakes" .

 

[Maa Maa omo mti]

all honesty I don't feel like we will stick to this "challenge".

I feel like many of us say it now but a few months down the road we will be off course.

Honestly I've been waiting for something like this and really hope we can truly make it into one of those real challenges. One thing I've learned from this board is that if enough people make it an effort to stick to a challenge and assist each other results will be shown.

That's why I like the LOA challenge(just for example), day in day out we have females who are posting links, giving advice, and really being adamant about being involved in the monthly threads.

So with that said, I hope you ladies just don't proclaim and forget it. Please don't let this thread die. I know I won't.

Post links, give advice, post stories, give insight, do it all in here. We can definitely make things happen relationship wise for all of us, if we care to put the energy and effort it truly deserve.

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

all honesty I don't feel like we will stick to this "challenge".

I feel like many of us say it now but a few months down the road we will be off course.

Honestly I've been waiting for something like this and really hope we can truly make it into one of those real challenges. One thing I've learned from this board is that if enough people make it an effort to stick to a challenge and assist each other results will be shown.

That's why I like the LOA challenge(just for example), day in day out we have females who are posting links, giving advice, and really being adamant about being involved in the monthly threads.

So with that said, I hope you ladies just don't proclaim and forget it. Please don't let this thread die. I know I won't.

Post links, give advice, post stories, give insight, do it all in here. We can definitely make things happen relationship wise for all of us, if we care to put the energy and effort it truly deserve.

I here you!! Rest assured that i will be here until the wheels fall off so we will be road dogs Abenyo

I need to go out a minimum of one night a month. I just need someone to go out with. Too bad you aren't in cali

 

[aqualung]

I'm getting engaged this year.

 

[miss Congeniality]

I really hope that I meet someone I can be myself with. The only thing that I worry about is myself. I haven't been out on a date in forever. I don't think I have ever had a "real" relationship. I have let my fears really hold me back. I am definately working on that this year. I spent the last few years working on graduating and to be honest. I am completely lost. I don't know what to do.


**Do I sound crazy?

 

[jade998]

I really hope that I meet someone I can be myself with. The only thing that I worry about is myself. I haven't been out on a date in forever. I don't think I have ever had a "real" relationship. I have let my fears really hold me back. I am definately working on that this year. I spent the last few years working on graduating and to be honest. I am completely lost. I don't know what to do.


**Do I sound crazy?

You don't sound crazy at all, you just feel like you have been out of the game for a while. You don't know, whilst you were studying and graduating and focussing your energy on that, you might have spared yourself unneccesary heartbreak.

You just now need to make the decision to give it a go this year and be open to a relationship - That is waht I am going to be doing.

We have to watch what we SPEAK, I remember once going to a friends birthday and she had a male friend there and I said in my heart, I wish I could meet someone like him, only to find out later he ws asking about me. Now I am scared that he might not be the one and I am looking for excuses why it isn't him, but my spirit told me to chill , he hasn't asked you to marry him, he was just showing his intent, take it a day at a time. And if it isn't him, that is okay too.

I hope we keep this thread live, cause I am going to need you ladies a lot, cause I don't want to make the same old mistakes, as I am really going to make a real effort to meet my husband this year and get engaged.

 

[Caramela]

I'm concerned. In saying in '08 you will meet your husband, do you guys feel like you will be forcing a square peg into a round hole? In other words, if your soul mate isn't destined to come to you in '08, will you snatch up that man that isn't quite right and try to make it into something it is? How can you make this call? Just wondering. Honest question.

 

[juju]

This year is the year i will meet my special love who will be the father of my children .

 

[tyrablu]

I here you!! Rest assured that i will be here until the wheels fall off so we will be road dogs Abenyo

I need to go out a minimum of one night a month. I just need someone to go out with. Too bad you aren't in cali

Bre`Bre that's me right there. All my girlfriends are in relationships, so going out on this type of mission is not feasible.

I would like for me and this particular person to get it together for 2008.

 

[Bunny77]

I'm concerned. In saying in '08 you will meet your husband, do you guys feel like you will be forcing a square peg into a round hole? In other words, if your soul mate isn't destined to come to you in '08, will you snatch up that man that isn't quite right and try to make it into something it is? How can you make this call? Just wondering. Honest question.

Not at all.

Honestly, I believe that the reason many of us don't have mates is because we've either spent too much time with the wrong person, spent too much time working/going to school/taking care of kids to the neglect of pursuing a loving relationship or simply waiting/praying for it to "just happen" without doing anything to increase our exposure to men who could fit that role.

I don't believe in destiny as some uncontrollable force... I think we have more control over our destiny than we think.

Now, my man might not come in '08, true, but this time, it won't be from a lack of effort on my end. I want to give this area of my life as much attention as the others.

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

I'm concerned. In saying in '08 you will meet your husband, do you guys feel like you will be forcing a square peg into a round hole? In other words, if your soul mate isn't destined to come to you in '08, will you snatch up that man that isn't quite right and try to make it into something it is? How can you make this call? Just wondering. Honest question.

Nah, at least not for me. Then i'll be "getting mine on 09" I'm just believing in faith that the Lord will send my man. Just putting it out there in faith and doing things to make myself more available.

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

Not at all.

Honestly, I believe that the reason many of us don't have mates is because we've either spent too much time with the wrong person, spent too much time working/going to school/taking care of kids to the neglect of pursuing a loving relationship or simply waiting/praying for it to "just happen" without doing anything to increase our exposure to men who could fit that role.

I don't believe in destiny as some uncontrollable force... I think we have more control over our destiny than we think.

Now, my man might not come in '08, true, but this time, it won't be from a lack of effort on my end. I want to give this area of my life as much attention as the others.

ditto !!!!

 

[Precious_1]

Not at all.

Honestly, I believe that the reason many of us don't have mates is because we've either spent too much time with the wrong person, spent too much time working/going to school/taking care of kids to the neglect of pursuing a loving relationship or simply waiting/praying for it to "just happen" without doing anything to increase our exposure to men who could fit that role.

I don't believe in destiny as some uncontrollable force... I think we have more control over our destiny than we think.

Now, my man might not come in '08, true, but this time, it won't be from a lack of effort on my end. I want to give this area of my life as much attention as the others.

Bunny, we are here>< I love to read your posts, I am one of those people you described. the bolded is me to a tee. This year is going to be different, I read your gift of singleness thread, and I am letting people know what I want and actively pursuing it! I will find a mate this year, i know it.

 

[foxxymami]

2008 is the year I will become engaged to my honey

ETA: Bre, does that count too? If not just let me know. I would not wanna intrude on the positive flow of this thread

 

[damarc94]

Ok ladies well lets make sure we are ready to recieve him!! For me this year I am going to be more approachable, smile more, just be more relaxed. I am also going to try and go out more than once every 6 months. I'm also working on my spending habits/budgetary issues, my credit, and my body to be ready (obviously for me, but also in preparation for him). I am also going to continue to confess with my mouth that my mate is waiting on me.

Does anyone have some scripture on this?????

2008 will be a great year for me too. I will be meditating on these words for this year...


Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. Mark 11:24

And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus. Phillipians 4:19

Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. Matthew 7:7

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Matthew 6:33-34

It is not good for the man to be alone (Genesis 2:18)

That night God appeared to Solomon and said, “What do you want? Ask, and I will give it to you! 2 Chronicles 1:7

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One of my favorite songs is taken from Matthew 6:26

Look at the birds of the air; they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?

His Eye Is On The Sparrow

 

[MzLady78]

Bre, this is a great thread! Unfortunately, I'm still a little on the fence as far as relationships are concerned. I think I'm still a little jaded. Maybe that will change. But I wish nothing but the best for all the ladies that want it to happen for them.

Also, I just wanna say to those who want to get out more but don't have anyone to go out with, please don't let that stop you. I go out by myself a lot and I've found that that's when I get the most attention from men. Someone always stikes up a conversation with me. Even if it's not someone I'm interested in, at least I don't feel as alone.

 

[OneInAMillion]

Nah, at least not for me. Then i'll be "getting mine on 09" I'm just believing in faith that the Lord will send my man. Just putting it out there in faith and doing things to make myself more available.

LOL @ gettin mine in '09 .

Thanks for starting this thread...i hear you though! Sometimes we have to step out on faith and in general, that's my game plan for '08. I've let a spirit of doubt and uncertainty run rampant for too long and now I do feel like having faith in the things that the Lord promises us is what I need. So yes, I'm claiming that this is the year I find my mate. I truly believe I've found him, but we'll see what unfolds in the coming months. I'll be good about sharing my progress, I promise .

Also, I read this in a thread here a while ago, but what has really helped me in the past couple of months is making a three lists. The first contains things I absolutely can't stand in a mate. The second contains things that I need in an ideal partner. The third contains qualities, or areas of my life that I need to improve to attract this type of person. This list has worked wonders for me because it really helps me weed out guys that will only waste my time. It's also shown me that there are plenty of men that exist who are exactly what I'm looking for, it's all about finding the one who you're most compatible with.

Good luck ladies

 

[Maa Maa omo mti]

well ladies to start if you haven't already, make a list of what you want in a guy, be realistic, and let it be what you want so you can focus on that even if the guy is not bringing it to the table.

this is helping me alot.

 

[Opalsunset]

well ladies to start if you haven't already, make a list of what you want in a guy, be realistic, and let it be what you want so you can focus on that even if the guy is not bringing it to the table.

this is helping me alot.

I did that two years ago and the guy I am interested in fit every. single thing I listed. except being spontaneous..Which is okay with me. I had about 30 things listed and each one of them he has. That is when I realized (way back when I wasn't even thinking about him more than just a friend) that he is a very special person. So in 2008 If It is in Gods will, I hope at least for him to know how I feel about him, and perhaps he may feel the same way ...My mother already is calling him her son in law so who knows.

 

[seraphinelle]

I'll join.

But I'm putting an extension on it for 2009, since that's when I'm finished school and will be back in Canada!!

 

[ALWAYZL8]

I'm putting it out there that I will be engaged to the "right guy for me" by my birthday in August. I don't know how it is going to happen, but my faith says it will happen. Bre Bre, thanks for starting this thread. I feel good releasing this into the atmosphere!

 

[Maa Maa omo mti]

I did that two years ago and the guy I am interested in fit every. single thing I listed. except being spontaneous..Which is okay with me. I had about 30 things listed and each one of them he has. That is when I realized (way back when I wasn't even thinking about him more than just a friend) that he is a very special person. So in 2008 If It is in Gods will, I hope at least for him to know how I feel about him, and perhaps he may feel the same way ...My mother already is calling him her son in law so who knows.

now this is cute. Good luck chiika

 

[SEMO]

I would like to join the thread as one of those believing that I will meet my husband in 08. I actually think I met him at the end of 07 but nothing major has happened yet. I'm all for this thread and encouraging each other.

Abenyo, you may have to send out pm's to keep people in line and updating in this thread.

 

[motherx2esq]

I hope you get him Bre Bre!
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[Opalsunset]

now this is cute. Good luck chiika

Thanks! Same to you too!

 

[Maa Maa omo mti]

well for the ladies in my area I want to try to get a friday happy hour event going on. Pm me if you are interested.

 

[ALWAYZL8]

Abenyo, in what city will the events take place?

 

[Reslnt1]

In 2008 I am going to meet my Fiance and he will be everything that I want in a man