2008 IS the year I will meet a mate

[juju]

Ok.... Ladies the date went wonderful all the way through We talked about so much that I won't remember all the details but I had a great time and he said he did as well and that he haven't been out like that in a while. We talked, laughed, joked, had magaritas and had a good time. I know he was feeling me b/c even though I don't kiss on the first date but I couldn't help it. Before the movies I came out of the restroom he grabbed me and said I smelled good and begin kissing me, when we sat down before the movie started he turned over and begin kissing me, when we left and was waiting at the stop light he turned over and begin kissing me, and when he dropped me off in front of my building he begin kissing me again and said he didn't want to leave and asked me what I'm about to do I said take a shower and lay down (1:30am) he asked can he come up? I said up where? he hinted my place, I said not tonight! we started laughing he said we have to do this again and said he'll call me tomorrow.

There is one problem, it may or may not be a problem.. When I prayed to God, I wasn't specific enough . He knows I'm in a Sorority so he asked where did I go for undergrad, I told him and he said really, do you know ? ? ? ? and the last name he mentioned was my ex!!! I was like yeah and said nothing else. He was like those are my boys!! Now I'm like ****... He was like they are a couple of years older than you? I said no we are about the same age, at least we all came in together! He was o okay.. Mine you the guys name he mentioned are all friends of my ex and still are. This guy went to high school with one of them so that's how he got to know the crew including my ex. My ex and I have been broken-up for atleast 12-13 years now but we communicate every now and then, but I never heard this guy name come up. I don't know if he would be uncomfortable knowing this b/c I know he is going to ask one of two of his boys, yeah I met such and such..

I asked my sister and one of my friends for their advice, I came up with yeah we dated when we were young, we were both at different places in our lives so we went our seperate ways....

I will defitinitley keep everyone posted ..

I hope it works out well the way you want !

 

[juju]

Im getting engaged this year - there I put it out there in the universe,lol!

For all of the ladies who want to meet their mate - this story will hopefully show that a lot can happen in a year.

In 2006, my brother was 30 years old, living in a studio apartment, unsure about what to do with his life and looking for the right women to settle down with

In one year, he met a women, got engaged and got married. He also got hired at his dream job, got promoted and tripled his salary. My sister in law is now expecting and they just closed on a custom built mansion.

A lot can change in ONE year

Wow ! alot can happen in just a year that is for sure !

 

[TLC1020]

This afternoon my date from last night texted me and said His jacket smells like me. I texted back saying is that good thing, he replied Yes made it made him smile and what I think about us and last night?
I was doing the happy dance . I replied, I must say I had a really good time and I look forward to seeing you again. He replied same and let him know. I replied well you are free let me know and we can go from there. He replied he's free until 4th (grad school) Anytime.

His stats: He's 35, no kids, traveled, did the club thing, attend Catholic Church and a youth Director and says he been that done that.. All of this I prayed for... Except the person knowing my ex...

I will keep you guys posted....

I hope it works out well the way you want !

 

[cocoaluv]

I'm with you Bre Bre,

And I'm not talking about a date here & there, I'm talking about my mate. I truly believe this will be the year that he finds me.

Ditto Ladies!!!

I already prayed on it. I broke up with my boyfriend the second of January after realizing that our relationship wasnt going anywhere further than where it is now. I was very upset over it (moreso then I would have imagined) but after talking to some friends (including my buddy locabouthair!!!) I know its for the best if I want my future to be happy.

I prayed and asked god to send me a man who will LOVE me. One who is slightly older than me and ALREADY has the foundations of his life set (Career, college graduate, own place, great 5-10 yr plan, Benefits and a spiritual relationship with God). Hopefully NO kids or crazy ex-girlfriend/wife. I thought long and hard and have already asked god to grant me my request. All I can do now is keep a positive attitude and continue to do me ( have fun with my girls and do well in school and work) and I believe all will work out.


I truely wish all of you ladies tons of sucess on your goal as well. We all deserve the best and God willing we will all be able to come in here by the end of the year with positive reviews!!!!!

 

[locabouthair]

Ok.... Ladies the date went wonderful all the way through We talked about so much that I won't remember all the details but I had a great time and he said he did as well and that he haven't been out like that in a while. We talked, laughed, joked, had magaritas and had a good time. I know he was feeling me b/c even though I don't kiss on the first date but I couldn't help it. Before the movies I came out of the restroom he grabbed me and said I smelled good and begin kissing me, when we sat down before the movie started he turned over and begin kissing me, when we left and was waiting at the stop light he turned over and begin kissing me, and when he dropped me off in front of my building he begin kissing me again and said he didn't want to leave and asked me what I'm about to do I said take a shower and lay down (1:30am) he asked can he come up? I said up where? he hinted my place, I said not tonight! we started laughing he said we have to do this again and said he'll call me tomorrow.

There is one problem, it may or may not be a problem.. When I prayed to God, I wasn't specific enough . He knows I'm in a Sorority so he asked where did I go for undergrad, I told him and he said really, do you know ? ? ? ? and the last name he mentioned was my ex!!! I was like yeah and said nothing else. He was like those are my boys!! Now I'm like ****... He was like they are a couple of years older than you? I said no we are about the same age, at least we all came in together! He was o okay.. Mine you the guys name he mentioned are all friends of my ex and still are. This guy went to high school with one of them so that's how he got to know the crew including my ex. My ex and I have been broken-up for atleast 12-13 years now but we communicate every now and then, but I never heard this guy name come up. I don't know if he would be uncomfortable knowing this b/c I know he is going to ask one of two of his boys, yeah I met such and such..

I asked my sister and one of my friends for their advice, I came up with yeah we dated when we were young, we were both at different places in our lives so we went our seperate ways....

I will defitinitley keep everyone posted ..

I agree. That was a long time ago. Have fun with the new guy!

 

[locabouthair]

Ditto Ladies!!!

I already prayed on it. I broke up with my boyfriend the second of January after realizing that our relationship wasnt going anywhere further than where it is now. I was very upset over it (moreso then I would have imagined) but after talking to some friends (including my buddy locabouthair!!!) I know its for the best if I want my future to be happy.

I prayed and asked god to send me a man who will LOVE me. One who is slightly older than me and ALREADY has the foundations of his life set (Career, college graduate, own place, great 5-10 yr plan, Benefits and a spiritual relationship with God). Hopefully NO kids or crazy ex-girlfriend/wife. I thought long and hard and have already asked god to grant me my request. All I can do now is keep a positive attitude and continue to do me ( have fun with my girls and do well in school and work) and I believe all will work out.


I truely wish all of you ladies tons of sucess on your goal as well. We all deserve the best and God willing we will all be able to come in here by the end of the year with positive reviews!!!!!

I agree. Things will look up girl! Just continue to do you!

 

[buttaflye03]

This afternoon my date from last night texted me and said His jacket smells like me. I texted back saying is that good thing, he replied Yes made it made him smile and what I think about us and last night?
I was doing the happy dance . I replied, I must say I had a really good time and I look forward to seeing you again. He replied same and let him know. I replied well you are free let me know and we can go from there. He replied he's free until 4th (grad school) Anytime.

His stats: He's 35, no kids, traveled, did the club thing, attend Catholic Church and a youth Director and says he been that done that.. All of this I prayed for... Except the person knowing my ex...

I will keep you guys posted....

I'm so happy for you and hope that this turns out to be the one. He sounds like a sweetie pie. Personally, if the topic comes up again, I'd just go along with what and your family and friends advised you. It was a long time ago and really should not affect what you got going on now. I'll be looking out for updates!

Is he a good kisser?

 

[TLC1020]

Yes he is .. I guess I am too b/c he kept coming back for more

I'm so happy for you and hope that this turns out to be the one. He sounds like a sweetie pie. Personally, if the topic comes up again, I'd just go along with what and your family and friends advised you. It was a long time ago and really should not affect what you got going on now. I'll be looking out for updates!

Is he a good kisser?

 

[boomboom1027]

I am putting it out there, stepping out of faith that I will meet my mate this year Anyone else want to boldy step out on faith and put it out there?

I'm with you Bre! . I am ready to take the next step and I know this is the year for me!

 

[scarcity21]

Originally Posted by *Bre~Bre*
I am putting it out there, stepping out of faith that I will meet my mate this year Anyone else want to boldy step out on faith and put it out there?

I'm with you Bre! . I am ready to take the next step and I know this is the year for me!

ME 3!!!!!!!

 

[natstar]

Add me into this. I will step out on faith that in 2008 I will meet men that I worth my time. I will pray to God to bless me with the man he has made for me.

 

[chocolatesis]

Add me to the list. 2008 is going to be my year to get engaged!!!

 

[PoeticJustice]

I am in too!! He's been around since 2007 but 2008 will make it official, I'm claiming it!

 

[AMJMJR]

Count me in as well. I met him in 2007 and hoping to make it official in 2008!.

 

[Kiadodie]

This year 2008, I accept for myself a NEW loving relationship .

 

[janee]

Me too for 2008! I hate being alone

 

[Nefertiti0906]

I want to join also. I've already taken some steps (i.e., reading Calling In The One).

Here's to '08!

 

[Belle Du Jour]

I'm also claiming my mate in 2008. I want to be like Jacob who wrestled with the Angel/God and said "I'm not letting go until you bless me." Let's claim it ladies! I can't wait to read this thread (or the update thread) at the end of the year.

 

[Belle Du Jour]

Not at all.

Honestly, I believe that the reason many of us don't have mates is because we've either spent too much time with the wrong person, spent too much time working/going to school/taking care of kids to the neglect of pursuing a loving relationship or simply waiting/praying for it to "just happen" without doing anything to increase our exposure to men who could fit that role.

I don't believe in destiny as some uncontrollable force... I think we have more control over our destiny than we think.

Now, my man might not come in '08, true, but this time, it won't be from a lack of effort on my end. I want to give this area of my life as much attention as the others.

This is a GREAT point. I've found myself saying year in year out that the net year will be different. But, how can the result be different if I'm doing the same things? (ie not going out, focusing only on school/career, etc) God is a miracle-worker, but let's be real. . .

Maybe we need some tangible ideas or "rules" for how to get this on and poppin ie join a personals site and see what happens or go to a happy hour at a new bar once a month or something like that? I'm sure that between all of us women in agreement that this will be the year, we can come up with some GREAT ideas, that we would have never though of on our own!

 

[Alpha Female]

Girl, I thought this in 2007, 2006, 2005.... lol

 

[Maa Maa omo mti]

Girl, I thought this in 2007, 2006, 2005.... lol

well own it in 2008

classi good idea, some of us are planning on getting together for happy hour in the DC area. We just need some good weather to come our way and it's on. They say next week should be good....

 

[SEMO]

well own it in 2008

classi good idea, some of us are planning on getting together for happy hour in the DC area. We just need some good weather to come our way and it's on. They say next week should be good....

Too bad I don't live near DC . I'm the same boat as classi. Most weeks I just go to class/work/church and guys are just not approaching me there . I feel approachable but who knows .

 

[Maa Maa omo mti]

Too bad I don't live near DC . I'm the same boat as classi. Most weeks I just go to class/work/church and guys are just not approaching me there . I feel approachable but who knows .

well start a thread or post it in here that you are looking for happy hour buddies. I got several pms. I'm sure there are some single females your way.

 

[jade998]

I might have a potential date today, There is a guy that walks by me on the way to the bus on my way to work and he approached me a while ago, he has been trying to talk to me, but he always shows up when the bus comes, so I need to grab it. He finally had a chance to talk to me and We exchange a couple of words now and then.

So I am moving out of the area and he asked for my number, I gave it to him cause I thought he seemed nice enough. Now he sent me an sms asking if we could go to dinner tonight?

My question is "is dinner more of a 4th/5th date". I live in the UK and it is dark by 4.30pm and I don't want to create a romantic athmosphere yet until I know him OR am I over thinking this, and I should just go to the dinner?

ETA - I told him I was busy and maybe another time. I figured it is too late notice and I don't want to come across like I had nothing to do on a friday night (even though I don't) - Man following all the Christian Carter rules and WMLB rules is hard, but my way never worked so I will give these a chance.

 

[SEMO]

I might have a potential date today, There is a guy that walks by me on the way to the bus on my way to work and he approached me a while ago, he has been trying to talk to me, but he always shows up when the bus comes, so I need to grab it. He finally had a chance to talk to me and We exchange a couple of words now and then.

So I am moving out of the area and he asked for my number, I gave it to him cause I thought he seemed nice enough. Now he sent me an sms asking if we could go to dinner tonight?

My question is "is dinner more of a 4th/5th date". I live in the UK and it is dark by 4.30pm and I don't want to create a romantic athmosphere yet until I know him OR am I over thinking this, and I should just go to the dinner?

ETA - I told him I was busy and maybe another time. I figured it is too late notice and I don't want to come across like I had nothing to do on a friday night (even though I don't) - Man following all the Christian Carter rules and WMLB rules is hard, but my way never worked so I will give these a chance.

I was just going to say that I thought it was short notice. If he's really interested he'll ask again and give you enough time to check your schedule and think about it.

As far as following rules, I think it's most important to keep in mind the principle behind the rule rather than whether you follow it to the letter. Some rules say don't accept a Saturday date offer after Wednesday. The principle is to make a man be more purposeful and considerate when asking you out, and not coming across as if you have no life. But you have to use your own discretion. If he asks you on Thursday and is sincere then why not?

In this situation, I think you did the right thing. Asking you the day of was inconsiderate of your time.

 

[IntelligenceisBeautiful]

I'm so in

 

[Je Ne Sais Quoi]

I will be going out tonight (weather permitting). Most likely just out to dinner with a gf and then to a bar/club type environment for drinks. I will ensure I look my best and give off a friendly vibe. Usually though the guys end up talking to her and it's like i'm invisible erplexed

I had a dream last night about kissing a guy. In the dream I was extremely embarrased because I haven't kissed anyone in over 5 years and I am sure i'm rusty The guy (who happened to be white LOL ) was very understanding, gentle, and considerate. Where this dream came from I have no idea

 

[determined_to_grow]

I will be going out tonight (weather permitting). Most likely just out to dinner with a gf and then to a bar/club type environment for drinks. I will ensure I look my best and give off a friendly vibe. Usually though the guys end up talking to her and it's like i'm invisible erplexed

I had a dream last night about kissing a guy. In the dream I was extremely embarrased because I haven't kissed anyone in over 5 years and I am sure i'm rusty The guy (who happened to be white LOL ) was very understanding, gentle, and considerate. Where this dream came from I have no idea

GO BREBRE!!!!! Lol! I also had a dream that I was on a date and LOVING every minute of it! We did not get to the kissing part....

 

[determined_to_grow]

I might have a potential date today, There is a guy that walks by me on the way to the bus on my way to work and he approached me a while ago, he has been trying to talk to me, but he always shows up when the bus comes, so I need to grab it. He finally had a chance to talk to me and We exchange a couple of words now and then.

So I am moving out of the area and he asked for my number, I gave it to him cause I thought he seemed nice enough. Now he sent me an sms asking if we could go to dinner tonight?

My question is "is dinner more of a 4th/5th date". I live in the UK and it is dark by 4.30pm and I don't want to create a romantic athmosphere yet until I know him OR am I over thinking this, and I should just go to the dinner?

ETA - I told him I was busy and maybe another time. I figured it is too late notice and I don't want to come across like I had nothing to do on a friday night (even though I don't) - Man following all the Christian Carter rules and WMLB rules is hard, but my way never worked so I will give these a chance.

Good for you!!!!! If you don't feel like creating that situation DON'T... Christian Carter is the TRUTH!!!!

 

[TLC1020]

Checking in~~

So far so good, me and the guy both agreed we are dating and will see how things go from here on.

I will continue to keep you ladies posted...