When a Man Loves a Woman...What Does He do to Show it?

[EXSQUISIT]

Thank you so much Shimmie for your kind words. I have to remind myself to not sweat the little nitpicky things and think of how much he gives to me and our kids each and every day.

You are such a sweet spirit and I love reading your posts. So in case I haven't told you because I don't post very often, you are an inspiration and what I'm trying to get to in my Christian walk.

Ths made me cry It's so warm; so loving; so beautiful. I would write a book about him entitled, "He delivers His Love on Sunday Morning."

Ms_Jennifer, I wish you and your husband, "Sunday's" everyday of your life. And that you will always continue to grow, prosper in love with each other, for always. Give your husband a great big hug for me. And tell him I said 'thank you' for loving you so much. He's really pretty special indeed.

God bless you both...eternally.

 

[SweetNic_JA]

He's having PMS...

But seriously, men can be in moods or having bouts of self-doubt. I have a prayer for this that won't miss.

"Lord, give this man a heart like yours; full of love and peace. And show me how to 'be' with and 'for' him and whatever the issues are; from them he'll be released. In Jesus' name, Amen. "

(((( hugs ))) to both of you, Ms. J.

This is so beautiful, Shimmie.

 

[Chanel's Tresses]

I love this thread it is so positive and I love talking good about my man. Often times we dont have anywhere to do that. Here are a few things my man does for me

1. Takes the day off work to take my son to the Aqauarium without me.
It means so much to me he cares about my son just as much as I do.
2. Takes my son for the day so I can get a break.
3. Meets me outside when he knows I am almost at his house so that he can carry all my bags no matter how much junk I have (hair products).
4. Comes up behind me in the kitchen and hugs me when I am cooking or washing dishes (yall know what I am talking about).
5. Cooks me breakfast when I just can't make it out of bed on a weekend morning.
6. Works two jobs so that he can prepare for our future together.
7. Comes by almost evey night after working those two jobs even if only to see me and my son for a minute and kiss us goodnight.
(dang i was on the internet typing so yall made me miss his call (he gets off at 10pm)

 

[gmw]

I don't know about hate, but you can be disliked and loved at the same time. My ex and I had a very love/dislike relationship. Like the differences about one another were what we loved and what we couldn't stand. But I never felt like he didn't love me still we were just not so compatible.
The sweetest thing my ex did is my very estranged father got sick and we thought he wasn't going to make it. When I told him he just listened turned to me and said when are we leaving. a week later we packed his car and drove from NYC to pittburgh for a two day trip so I could see him and make peace. I was a mess the whole time first by snapping at him while we were driving then when we got there he was the only one i could cry on and he was just my tower of strength through the whole thing. He is the reason I have a relationsip with my father now. Wihtout him I probably wouldn't have gone. And afterwards I kept telling him how thankful I was and how I never could properly thank him for what he did and what it meant to me, and one day he was like I should thank you for coming into my life, and for letting me spend all that time with you, I love you , there was no where I'd rather be.
Things didn't work out, but it cemented for me that when you stick w/ God he will put people in your life to help you, and get you through those rough times. He never leaves you alone. Just a wonderful memory.

Awww that is a sweet story!

 

[Shimmie]

Thank you so much Shimmie for your kind words. I have to remind myself to not sweat the little nitpicky things and think of how much he gives to me and our kids each and every day.

You are such a sweet spirit and I love reading your posts. So in case I haven't told you because I don't post very often, you are an inspiration and what I'm trying to get to in my Christian walk.

You are too dearest one. Sweet in heart and spirit, so are you.

Be blessed

 

[Shimmie]

I love this thread it is so positive and I love talking good about my man. Often times we dont have anywhere to do that. Here are a few things my man does for me

1. Takes the day off work to take my son to the Aqauarium without me.
It means so much to me he cares about my son just as much as I do.
2. Takes my son for the day so I can get a break.
3. Meets me outside when he knows I am almost at his house so that he can carry all my bags no matter how much junk I have (hair products).
4. Comes up behind me in the kitchen and hugs me when I am cooking or washing dishes (yall know what I am talking about).
5. Cooks me breakfast when I just can't make it out of bed on a weekend morning.
6. Works two jobs so that he can prepare for our future together.
7. Comes by almost evey night after working those two jobs even if only to see me and my son for a minute and kiss us goodnight.
(dang i was on the internet typing so yall made me miss his call (he gets off at 10pm)

Two jobs and yet love still rules his heart for you and your son...

Give this man a big hug and tell him, 'we' love him too.

 

[brownsugarflyygirl]

Wow....this thread was amazing It brought tears to my eyes a couple times.

Thank you so much Shimmie. I will strive to never take for granted the things that a man does for me. I see how this all adds up and when you read it on black and white, its a lot easier to see how valuable that man is.

Thank you. I definitely plan to implement the note writing suggestion when I do get into a relationship.

 

[blessed]

Wow this was a beautiful and touching thread. Thanks ladies for sharing. I hope to have some stories to tell soon myself. But for now I will be glad and rejoice for you ladies for the wonderful men God has given you.

 

[Shimmie]

Wow....this thread was amazing It brought tears to my eyes a couple times.

Thank you so much Shimmie. I will strive to never take for granted the things that a man does for me. I see how this all adds up and when you read it on black and white, its a lot easier to see how valuable that man is.

Thank you. I definitely plan to implement the note writing suggestion when I do get into a relationship.

Your husband has a beautiful gift awaiting him...'you', whom he shall seek and he shall find a good thing.

God bless your beautiful future as 'one'...God's one. In Jesus' name, Amen.

 

[Shimmie]

Wow this was a beautiful and touching thread. Thanks ladies for sharing. I hope to have some stories to tell soon myself. But for now I will be glad and rejoice for you ladies for the wonderful men God has given you.

And so you shall...a beautiful life in love with the man God blesses you to be with. So you shall.

"For he that will come, SHALL come and will not tarry."

God bless you, "Blessed"...

 

[brownsugarflyygirl]

Thanks Shimmie

 

[Luvmylife]

OMGoodness, this thread literally has methe stories here are so beautiful!

I must say my husband is truly my best friend and I know in the depths of my soul that is the person God had picked for me...because he's perferct for me in every way:heart2::heart2:

1. My husband brought me closer to God - I was pretty cynical about religion and didn't have the best spiritual relationship when we first started dating. But through his patience and guidance helped me to realize that a firm spiritual foundation was necessary for what he had planned for our future (marriage)

2. He is always a gentleman. I haven't opened a door for myself in his presence in about 10 years.

3. He encourages me in all aspects of my career. He truly believes in all of my aspirations and will do anything in his power to help me achieve them.

4. Every dream I have had for my life I have realized with him. (Marriage, Career (we work together), Home, Travel, ect.)

5. He can't cook but will not hesitate to drive anywhere...and I do mean anywhere in a 50 mile radius to buy me my favorite meals and treats, regardless of cost.

6. He remembers my favorite flowers (stargazer lillies) and suprises me with them often.

7. The worst and the best moments of my life he has been right by my side.

8. He always compliments me anytime I wear a new outfit or hairstyle

9. He spoils me rotten! For my 30th bday, he suprised by flying my best friend in from out of town, sent us off to the spa, salon, and then for manis and pedis. Then escorted me and 5 of my friends out for dinner and dancing in a limo! Then he threw me a suprise party the next day!!

10. He respects my family...even when they don't deserve it.

11. He picks me up and carries me to bed when I fall asleep

12. He's really cutesorry...that had nothing to do with the OPs question

I could go on for hours

Despite all of these things, I will always remember these as the three sweetest things he ever did for me:

Once when I was sick (...and we were dating in college...) he walked about 3 miles along country roads in the rain to my apartment to make sure I was okay.

For my college graduation he bought be the sweetest sapphire ring. This gift will always mean the most to me because he gave me this gift when he didn't really have it to give. He was working his first job out of college and I know he probably had to skip lunch for a month to save up enough money for that ring

On our wedding day, after my dad 'gave me away', DH got down on one knee and kissed my hand in front of the entire church because he was finally 'marrying his princess'

I love that man more than words can say!

 

[SerenavanderWoodsen]

This thread has made me sad, Its a complex issue with me and i am young and immature but it seems i reject, dont even give the time of day to men who are loving, the kind of men who do these wonderful things ive read about here and i welcome a macho , maybe semi abusive type of guy and make myself practically a slave for him,i know this is a flaw but i dont know how to stop it, its sad really. I am a sucker for physical attraction and it would almost seem that I am not attracted to a man who isnt dominant even emotionally abusive . Is there anyone who understands this? Am I guilty of something here? Am i crazy? Looking at this thread is disheartening for me........

 

[Shimmie]

OMGoodness, this thread literally has methe stories here are so beautiful!

I must say my husband is truly my best friend and I know in the depths of my soul that is the person God had picked for me...because he's perferct for me in every way:heart2::heart2:

1. My husband brought me closer to God - I was pretty cynical about religion and didn't have the best spiritual relationship when we first started dating. But through his patience and guidance helped me to realize that a firm spiritual foundation was necessary for what he had planned for our future (marriage)

2. He is always a gentleman. I haven't opened a door for myself in his presence in about 10 years.

3. He encourages me in all aspects of my career. He truly believes in all of my aspirations and will do anything in his power to help me achieve them.

4. Every dream I have had for my life I have realized with him. (Marriage, Career (we work together), Home, Travel, ect.)

5. He can't cook but will not hesitate to drive anywhere...and I do mean anywhere in a 50 mile radius to buy me my favorite meals and treats, regardless of cost.

6. He remembers my favorite flowers (stargazer lillies) and suprises me with them often.

7. The worst and the best moments of my life he has been right by my side.

8. He always compliments me anytime I wear a new outfit or hairstyle

9. He spoils me rotten! For my 30th bday, he suprised by flying my best friend in from out of town, sent us off to the spa, salon, and then for manis and pedis. Then escorted me and 5 of my friends out for dinner and dancing in a limo! Then he threw me a suprise party the next day!!

10. He respects my family...even when they don't deserve it.

11. He picks me up and carries me to bed when I fall asleep

12. He's really cutesorry...that had nothing to do with the OPs question

I could go on for hours

Despite all of these things, I will always remember these as the three sweetest things he ever did for me:

Once when I was sick (...and we were dating in college...) he walked about 3 miles along country roads in the rain to my apartment to make sure I was okay.

For my college graduation he bought be the sweetest sapphire ring. This gift will always mean the most to me because he gave me this gift when he didn't really have it to give. He was working his first job out of college and I know he probably had to skip lunch for a month to save up enough money for that ring

On our wedding day, after my dad 'gave me away', DH got down on one knee and kissed my hand in front of the entire church because he was finally 'marrying his princess'

I love that man more than words can say!

This is a pure dedication to love. Your husband is surely dedicated to your entire being, spirit, soul and body. I cried when I read this and it still brings tears of love to my heart as I'm typing this reply.

To you and your husband, I wish above all things that you shall continue to prosper in the love of the Lord, the love of one another and the love of life itsself. For in both of you there is life ...much of it, eternally.

God bless you for being who you are.

Give your husband a great big hug from all of us. We love him too and we support your marriage and every marriage and loving relationship here. In Jesus' name, Amen. :heart2:

 

[Shimmie]

This thread has made me sad, Its a complex issue with me and i am young and immature but it seems i reject, dont even give the time of day to men who are loving, the kind of men who do these wonderful things ive read about here and i welcome a macho , maybe semi abusive type of guy and make myself practically a slave for him,i know this is a flaw but i dont know how to stop it, its sad really. I am a sucker for physical attraction and it would almost seem that I am not attracted to a man who isnt dominant even emotionally abusive . Is there anyone who understands this? Am I guilty of something here? Am i crazy? Looking at this thread is disheartening for me........

Precious One, you are not crazy and you are not alone. It took me a while to allow the nice men into my life as well. Somewhere along my path of life, I didn't 'trust' any man who was 'nice' to me. And I made bad choices in dating.

One day I prayed and this prayer I will share with you. I asked the Lord to bring a 'healthy' balance into my life; a healthy "MALE" balance. And God did just that. He brought a man into my life that fits into God's plan and in each of our lives as a couple.

So with your permission, may I pray for precious and beautiful you? For you are a precious 'sister' to us and most precious in the Heart of God, for you are His daughter whom He wants to give you His very best.

Father God in the name of Jesus, I lift the heart of this precious daughter of yours to receive and have the ideal love of a man that you have ordained for her. Ease her mind and give her total peace to trust you. Remove all fear and all doubt. Also, allow her to feel the love that surrounds her all about. For indeed she is truly loved beyond any measure that man could unfold.

Give her a brighter view of how beautiful and how important she is and how important her desires are to you and that your open hand is hers to behold with all of your gifts to unfold. Love her as she has never known love before; give to her the open door of treasures that await her.

Bless her comings and her goings and bless that of the man whom you've called to be the one in whom she will surely see, the pureness of love from Heaven above. Strengthen both of their hearts to love and to serve you more and more each moment of each day. For it is you to whom they will honor and pray. From this day eternally...and Lord we thank you with all of our hearts. Amen and Amen.

Ravenhairbellydancer...you are loved, deeply; very, very deeply. You will soon behold this love forever. :heart2:

 

[SerenavanderWoodsen]

Wow shimmie, that was beautiful, you are very kind.

 

[misspriss]

And for you precious angels, shaking your fists and saying 'one day...'

"He that will come SHALL come and will not tarry...."

Just say amen...

Love this thread. Only made it to page 10 so far, but "Amen!"

 

[misspriss]

Precious One, you are not crazy and you are not alone. It took me a while to allow the nice men into my life as well. Somewhere along my path of life, I didn't 'trust' any man who was 'nice' to me. And I made bad choices in dating.

One day I prayed and this prayer I will share with you. I asked the Lord to bring a 'healthy' balance into my life; a healthy "MALE" balance. And God did just that. He brought a man into my life that fits into God's plan and in each of our lives as a couple.

So with your permission, may I pray for precious and beautiful you? For you are a precious 'sister' to us and most precious in the Heart of God, for you are His daughter whom He wants to give you His very best.

Father God in the name of Jesus, I lift the heart of this precious daughter of yours to receive and have the ideal love of a man that you have ordained for her. Ease her mind and give her total peace to trust you. Remove all fear and all doubt. Also, allow her to feel the love that surrounds her all about. For indeed she is truly loved beyond any measure that man could unfold.

Give her a brighter view of how beautiful and how important she is and how important her desires are to you and that your open hand is hers to behold with all of your gifts to unfold. Love her as she has never known love before; give to her the open door of treasures that await her.

Bless her comings and her goings and bless that of the man whom you've called to be the one in whom she will surely see, the pureness of love from Heaven above. Strengthen both of their hearts to love and to serve you more and more each moment of each day. For it is you to whom they will honor and pray. From this day eternally...and Lord we thank you with all of our hearts. Amen and Amen.

Ravenhairbellydancer...you are loved, deeply; very, very deeply. You will soon behold this love forever. :heart2:

Ravenhairbellydancer...girl you are not alone. I've realized reading this thread I'm guilty of the same thing knowing full well I deserve more. No more settling, I want a man that treats me like a goddess. Shimmie thanks for your encouraging words...I'm praying with you.

 

[Ms Red]

Awww that was soooooooooo sweet!!!!

OMGoodness, this thread literally has methe stories here are so beautiful!

I must say my husband is truly my best friend and I know in the depths of my soul that is the person God had picked for me...because he's perferct for me in every way:heart2::heart2:

1. My husband brought me closer to God - I was pretty cynical about religion and didn't have the best spiritual relationship when we first started dating. But through his patience and guidance helped me to realize that a firm spiritual foundation was necessary for what he had planned for our future (marriage)

2. He is always a gentleman. I haven't opened a door for myself in his presence in about 10 years.

3. He encourages me in all aspects of my career. He truly believes in all of my aspirations and will do anything in his power to help me achieve them.

4. Every dream I have had for my life I have realized with him. (Marriage, Career (we work together), Home, Travel, ect.)

5. He can't cook but will not hesitate to drive anywhere...and I do mean anywhere in a 50 mile radius to buy me my favorite meals and treats, regardless of cost.

6. He remembers my favorite flowers (stargazer lillies) and suprises me with them often.

7. The worst and the best moments of my life he has been right by my side.

8. He always compliments me anytime I wear a new outfit or hairstyle

9. He spoils me rotten! For my 30th bday, he suprised by flying my best friend in from out of town, sent us off to the spa, salon, and then for manis and pedis. Then escorted me and 5 of my friends out for dinner and dancing in a limo! Then he threw me a suprise party the next day!!

10. He respects my family...even when they don't deserve it.

11. He picks me up and carries me to bed when I fall asleep

12. He's really cutesorry...that had nothing to do with the OPs question

I could go on for hours

Despite all of these things, I will always remember these as the three sweetest things he ever did for me:

Once when I was sick (...and we were dating in college...) he walked about 3 miles along country roads in the rain to my apartment to make sure I was okay.

For my college graduation he bought be the sweetest sapphire ring. This gift will always mean the most to me because he gave me this gift when he didn't really have it to give. He was working his first job out of college and I know he probably had to skip lunch for a month to save up enough money for that ring

On our wedding day, after my dad 'gave me away', DH got down on one knee and kissed my hand in front of the entire church because he was finally 'marrying his princess'

I love that man more than words can say!

 

[Shimmie]

Wow shimmie, that was beautiful, you are very kind.

So are you, angel. Remember that...so are you.

 

[mrselle]

-When we were engaged he paid off one of my credit cards
-Helped me pay off my student loans this year
-Took me shopping for some clothes one week after I had our baby girl because I didn’t have any “transition” clothes
-Sent a dozen red roses to my job my first day back to work after maternity leave and I had a voice mail message from him when I got to work that morning saying that he loved me and missed me and enjoyed me being at home for three months (he works from home)
-one day last week he was at a meeting and couldn’t get to a phone so he sent me an email that said “luv u”
-when I had my gallbladder out he spent the night with me in the hospital and took off work for one week to take care of me.
-yesterday morning he took our baby girl downstairs to feed her breakfast and stayed down there when she was done so I could get a little more sleep
-a few years ago when he went on a job interview someone asked him what he considers to be one of his greatest accomplishments and he said that finding me, his wife, someone he can spend to rest of his life with is one of his greatest accomplishments

 

[Shimmie]

Ravenhairbellydancer...girl you are not alone. I've realized reading this thread I'm guilty of the same thing knowing full well I deserve more. No more settling, I want a man that treats me like a goddess. Shimmie thanks for your encouraging words...I'm praying with you.

For you, there shall be no more 'couterfeits'. Even those who tried to betray you or would attempt to, shall no longer be able to cross the Bloodline of Jesus; the Bloodline of His purity.

You are God's child of precious love and wonder. No longer will the enemy be able to put you 'under' his false pretenses of love. For God is pouring out to you a great overflow of His love and He will love you through the man whom He has ordained for you.

Just stay before the Lord. Keep His word alive in your heart. Don't ever doubt what He speaks to you, personally. Believe what He tells you and be blessed. For God is giving you His very best. This earth has not been void nor has hindered from God's outpouring of His love and promises.

Remember: God watches over His word to perform it. God's Word does not return unto Him void; for it shall prosper whereto He sends it. God's word never dies neither His promises to us.

Love and blessings to you...

 

[Shimmie]

-When we were engaged he paid off one of my credit cards
-Helped me pay off my student loans this year
-Took me shopping for some clothes one week after I had our baby girl because I didn’t have any “transition” clothes
-Sent a dozen red roses to my job my first day back to work after maternity leave and I had a voice mail message from him when I got to work that morning saying that he loved me and missed me and enjoyed me being at home for three months (he works from home)
-one day last week he was at a meeting and couldn’t get to a phone so he sent me an email that said “luv u”
-when I had my gallbladder out he spent the night with me in the hospital and took off work for one week to take care of me.
-yesterday morning he took our baby girl downstairs to feed her breakfast and stayed down there when she was done so I could get a little more sleep
-a few years ago when he went on a job interview someone asked him what he considers to be one of his greatest accomplishments and he said that finding me, his wife, someone he can spend to rest of his life with is one of his greatest accomplishments

This is absolutely beautiful; your man has completely surrounded you with his love and affection.

 

[Everything Zen]

My boyfriend soaks my feet and then rubs them with cocoa butter anytime I ask (mostly he asks). He usually keeps a pint of my favorite ice cream around to eat on while he rubs them.

He takes my car to get it washed and waxed and cleaned on the interior. He always fills up the tank and when we take my car he pumps my gas.

He sends me little text messages and voicemails all day long.

He helps me with my hair!!! I'm starting him off slowly so he's still helping me with basic rollersets with sectioning and rolling etc. He even told one of his guy friends that he couldn't come hang out because he was helping me with my hair.

He likes to wash my clothes!

I'm really lucky to have him...

 

[Evolving78]

My Dh was on his way to the city to meet his friend and just before he got on the expressway, I called and asked if he could get me some nacho cheese so I could make nachos. He went to 3 stores before he found the kind that I like.

 

[Shimmie]

My boyfriend soaks my feet and then rubs them with cocoa butter anytime I ask (mostly he asks). He usually keeps a pint of my favorite ice cream around to eat on while he rubs them.

He takes my car to get it washed and waxed and cleaned on the interior. He always fills up the tank and when we take my car he pumps my gas.

He sends me little text messages and voicemails all day long.

He helps me with my hair!!! I'm starting him off slowly so he's still helping me with basic rollersets with sectioning and rolling etc. He even told one of his guy friends that he couldn't come hang out because he was helping me with my hair.

He likes to wash my clothes!

I'm really lucky to have him...

He LIKES to wash your clothes. That's love.

Does he 'fluff and dry' also? Just kidding. Give him a great big hug for us. He's a true 'keeper'. I wish you both the most joyous of love that both life and love and God can bring.

For your sweetheart from us:

 

[Shimmie]

My Dh was on his way to the city to meet his friend and just before he got on the expressway, I called and asked if he could get me some nacho cheese so I could make nachos. He went to 3 stores before he found the kind that I like.

Now that's a sweetheart. He didn't give up for he knew just how important this small thing was to you. It's the 'little' things that mean so much.

Give your DH a great big hug. He's a sweetheart for sure. I wish you showers of loving blessings for eternal love and joy.

:blowkiss: For your DH from all of us.

 

[Shimmie]

Ladies, to all of you reading. Have you cheered your man on today?

Well, right now, whatever you are doing, stop and take a moment to leave him a voice mail, a text message; an email or a loving 10-second phone call and just say,

Baby, I appreciate you.

That's all. Just those 4 words which will make his day. He may have just has a run in with his boss or a co-worker; a traffic jam, or a mean waitress who didn't serve his lunch on time. Whatever the case may be, let him know that you truly see all the good that he does and that you out of all the people in this world appreciate him as no one else can.

Blessings to each of you and your sweetheart of a man. There's no one else like him. And there's no one like you for him. You are his queen.

And to the ladies in 'waiting' - pray over your future 'man'.

Yes!!! Pray over him. Right now speak to him in spirit and just say 'Baby, I appreciate you'. Speak it as a prayer of faith and thank God for making it real. You never know who is about to walk through that door; it could be the one you're praying for.

Blessings to everyone in love...

 

[Everything Zen]

He LIKES to wash your clothes. That's love.

Does he 'fluff and dry' also? Just kidding. Give him a great big hug for us. He's a true 'keeper'. I wish you both the most joyous of love that both life and love and God can bring.

For your sweetheart from us:

Awww shucks....

 

[Luvmylife]

This is a pure dedication to love. Your husband is surely dedicated to your entire being, spirit, soul and body. I cried when I read this and it still brings tears of love to my heart as I'm typing this reply.

To you and your husband, I wish above all things that you shall continue to prosper in the love of the Lord, the love of one another and the love of life itsself. For in both of you there is life ...much of it, eternally.

God bless you for being who you are.

Give your husband a great big hug from all of us. We love him too and we support your marriage and every marriage and loving relationship here. In Jesus' name, Amen. :heart2:

Shimmie...you are fantastic! Thank you so much for your kind words and well wishes to you and your relationship...from what I've been reading, he sounds like a keeper Many blessings to you!