song_of_serenity said:My s/o and I are going through a rough spot and had an arguement last night. We're currently long distance and both of our lives are stressful and we've sadly allowed that to affect us. I know it's nothing but the devil trying again to steal our joy because I KNOW something big is on the horizon for both of us. But looking at this thread completely inspired me to take my focus on the fact that we argued and got upset at each other to how amazing he really is to me.
1.Most importantly, loves God with all his heart, has faith in the TRUE meaning of living by Christian values and won't sugar coat it or use the excuse that "We're young so we don't have to live that holy right now, let's wait till we're older and have our fun." That's what bound us in the very beginning.
2.Makes me feel like the most wonderful, beautiful girl in the world and constantly, constantly vocalizes it. We could be talking about the latest current event and he'd just exclaim "God, you're so beautiful. How did I end up with you?"
3.Talks about me to complete strangers; I wouldn't be surprised if I go to Missouri and some odd person says "Well, you must be Janelle!" He's in such a racist area, too and has NO problem telling people "Yeah, she's black, you've got a problem with it?"
4.Is very protective of me and our relationship and values it though we're so far away right now.
5.Is a hard worker, got injured at the job 3 weeks ago to the point of coughing up blood. ANd THEN WENT BACK TO WORK THE NEXT DAY FOR ANOTHER WEEK AFTER THAT! I got so angry and asked him why he even pushed himself that far and he said "Because I don't ever want you and our future children to be at a want for anything. I have to keep working!" He hates doctors and is the kind of person who would "let time heal it" but went to the doctor the next day to get it checked out because I was so worried and he wanted to let me know he was just fine (it was a muscle strain in his abdomen and he was advised to rest for a week and a half) He also promised me that he won't ever push himself that far for any job because it just isn't worth it. He quit and has something new as of today!
6.Is concerned about me and my feelings, even to the point of annoying me about it. "Are you ok? Are you sure you're ok? Is there anything I can do for you?" But I always tell him I'm thankful, because some people wouldn't even care.
7.Takes pictures for me and emails them to me even when he feels he doesn't look his best.
8. We talk on the phone and email and talk via instant messenger, but he still sends me letters and sprays it with his current cologne so I can have something tangible of him. He keeps mine under his pillow so he can have my scent, too. He also hugs that same pillow, pretending it's me.
9.We KNOW how we love our hair and yes, men can love theirs too! He used to have gorgeous, shiny, HEALTHY back length hair which he cherished and started growing out at 17 as a rebellion to his mum who always shaved his head as a child (don't ask, I don't know what her issue was, either.) Last year, he was given the potential of getting a new job but the downside was, he had to cut all his hair off. He wanted to bring in more income "for us and our future" so he cut his cherished hair off to neck length. He didn't get the job. I felt so badly because I know how much he loved his hair, but he said "Our happiness is worth more than my hair ever was."
8.Ran up the phonebill just so we could keep out line of communication open when I wasn't able to afford a cell phone...and doesn't regret one minute of it and told me "This is a reflection of how much we love each other, even when we're apart."
9.Resists even the most gorgeous women and then tells me how stupid they are for even trying because he's already got the one person he loves and how could they compete with the most beautiful thing in the world? We're apart and I have no fear that he's not being faithful to me. And he has no fear about me being faithful either. God gave us that trust.
10.Severed ties with a close family member because that family just got married and he found out the day before that family member's wedding that he had another girlfriend elsewhere and he cheats because "Guys have needs." He told me "I don't care how close I was to them, I'm so far away from you now that bringing that mess to me is a giant disrespect to everything I value." He'd rather bring himself out of a situation than sit and even GIVE a way for him to be affected and take in their negative ways. He's like Joseph to me. <3333
11. When I turn my cam on, he would sit there on his for minutes on end and stare at me so lovingly and would type to me "How did I end up with someone so beautiful, inside and out?"
12.Loves to read the Song of Solomon with me. <333
13.His family tries to put ideas into his head that I'm in N.Y being unfaithful to him and he doesn't even bat his eye at it because he "knows the woman God gave him."
14.Respects me and my body and our faith in God. He knows that I'm a virgin and he...well, he had a "past" and since we got together, even though we can't be "together" in any sexual way, he's never pressured me, and constantly praises me for cherishing my body like a temple. I expressed fears to him about feeling bad after we're married because I didn't know how I'd measure up to those who he'd been with in the past since I had NO experience and worried about not being able to please him like he'd experienced before and all he always tells me he has no doubt how amazing our love life will be because simply "It's you. No one commands my heart and well...other areas like you do. And no one ever has or ever will come close."
15.Constanly praises my work and tells me how amazing of a writer and artist I am.
Omg, I'm talking too much. I didn't think I'd get started and keep going, but I have so much more to post! But Shimmy, God BLESS you, because you have no idea how starting this thread has blessed me, my heart and my relationship. I feel so motivated now to just say "You know what? I've got a good, no, a GREAT thing and a great man who works so hard for me and lets nothing get between us and would fight tooth and nail should anyone disrespect me." I will send him this list today.
You ladies who have posted have wonderful men in your lives. It's so beautiful, I was in tears! I'm surrounded by all my girlfriends who take all of this CRAP from guys with the baby momma dramas and the guys treating them like crap when they're around their friends but would treat them like queens when they are alone and all of that nonsense. Things like that make it so hard to consider that wonderful men are out there, and I would be hard pressed too, if I didn't have one myself. And those who are reading, even if you are in a rough spot with yours, every relationship has them. Don't ever let that overshadow how wonderful he really is to you...unless he is treating you BADLY, then you LEAVE and heal and THEN GET YOURS!
I will also show one of my girlfriends this thread. She does the "Yeah, right." When I tell her how wonderful my S/O is because she's never experienced that kind of male love...and then tells me I'm one of the "lucky few" But I will show her that yes, GOOD MEN are out there and THESE WOMEN are being treated how we SHOULD be treated and that she needs to drop that fool he has, pregnant or not, and settle for nothing less than being treated like a QUEEN!!~
~*Janelle~*
Janelle, may I?
"I thank God for making all the high places low; all the crooked places straight and to crush into dust the gates of iron."
This is a prayer of peace and healing from the word of God for you and your precious one. As a matter of fact....this prayer is placed on 'speed dial', and is answered even more quickly just for you.
Blessings and more love which over rides the bumps in the path of long distance. For no matter the space geographically, the two of you are still nigh unto one another in spite of.
(and may I add, no matter what color.... Is that okay?)
I hear you MissJ. The hugs are for you and your new love, for whenever he comes into your life.
God is certainly showing me some things. We have our challenges that I've been in prayer about, and God has said, "Wait." And so, I'm a lady in waiting. I know that God perfects all things that concerns me, and to question His will or timing would be silly. My hands are folded neatly in my lap as I wait for God to "do His thing". 
I'm so ashamed 
but times were desperate, Perrier was relocated in another aisle in the store and I didn't see it. I have to go to 'Perri' for forgiveness. You're my confessional booth...
