SurferBabe
Well-Known Member
I would really like to get to the bottom of this because we have women investing hundreds of dollars on self-help in the form of books, audio/video series, personal coaching and retreats 
look in search of the answer. There are so many conflicting arguments, and what some of these "gurus" are saying contrast with what I'm seeing in real life.
Is it because she's not feminine enough?
Is it because she's not a perfect 10?
Is it because she doesn't have all of her stuff together?
Does she not spend enough time in the gym, at the makeup counter, or at the hair stylist?
Is she too loud, too bossy, too damaged?
Is it because she isn't educated enough with real estate, a nice vehicle, and advanced degrees?
These gurus would have you think there is something wrong with the perpetually single female, but when I step out into the real world, I'm observing something entirely different...
1. I have a neighbor who can snag a man at the snap of her finger. She's a maneater in the worst way. Right now both her husband AND boyfriend are living with her under the same roof and they are handling all of the bills
. I wish I could make this up but she has it like that. She is average in looks and isn't shaped like a video girl (more like Sherri Shepherd.). For as long as people have known her, she's been a man magnet. She is quite unlikable by most people--she's rude and bossy. Though unlikable by most, people are drawn to her, both male and female. I liken it to her being like the popular girl in high school. Because she has a tendency to be crass and full of drama, it is as if people yearn for her acceptance. She is the opposite of what these gurus are teaching, but she has men lined up--no joke.
2. A friend's sister has a husband who worships her. He goes above and beyond for her even though she bosses him around and does very little to keep herself up. According to my friend, her sister has always been a man magnet. She's never been broken up with--she always did the breaking up, and her exes would pine away for her well after the breakup. She's another one who tends to attract people--both male and female. I've witnessed all types of men try to get at her from the janitor to some well-known single, local surgeon. Once again, average in looks and not shaped like Beyonce.
3. An acquaintance friend of mine has snagged herself an engineer who has the potential to make bank. He worships her and she's quite bossy. Highschool years aside, she has always dated men with potential. She's a great dresser, and has an "uppity" air about her even though she doesn't come from money. She's almost 30, lives at home, and works part-time some of the time. Looks-wise she is attractive but at least 70-80 pounds overweight. Lack of trophy-wife body proportions aside, she can walk into a bar and have a businessman approach her within minutes. I've seen it myself.
I have more examples but I don't want this getting too long. What I have noticed is that these women do not come off as submissive in any way and they do not have the petite figures that women are led to believe will help them find their Prince Charming. They are also not boasting lucrative careers and impressive educational credentials, but can attract men who have both. What they do have are "no nonsense" attitudes and they never lead a man to believe that they need him. This seems to contradict what I've heard from some self-help gurus and multiple men on YT who claim that if a woman can't get a man it is because she has all of the characteristics that these man magnets have. I'm intrigued. Has anyone else observed this? Is there really an answer?
look in search of the answer. There are so many conflicting arguments, and what some of these "gurus" are saying contrast with what I'm seeing in real life. Is it because she's not feminine enough?
Is it because she's not a perfect 10?
Is it because she doesn't have all of her stuff together?
Does she not spend enough time in the gym, at the makeup counter, or at the hair stylist?
Is she too loud, too bossy, too damaged?
Is it because she isn't educated enough with real estate, a nice vehicle, and advanced degrees?
These gurus would have you think there is something wrong with the perpetually single female, but when I step out into the real world, I'm observing something entirely different...
1. I have a neighbor who can snag a man at the snap of her finger. She's a maneater in the worst way. Right now both her husband AND boyfriend are living with her under the same roof and they are handling all of the bills
. I wish I could make this up but she has it like that. She is average in looks and isn't shaped like a video girl (more like Sherri Shepherd.). For as long as people have known her, she's been a man magnet. She is quite unlikable by most people--she's rude and bossy. Though unlikable by most, people are drawn to her, both male and female. I liken it to her being like the popular girl in high school. Because she has a tendency to be crass and full of drama, it is as if people yearn for her acceptance. She is the opposite of what these gurus are teaching, but she has men lined up--no joke. 2. A friend's sister has a husband who worships her. He goes above and beyond for her even though she bosses him around and does very little to keep herself up. According to my friend, her sister has always been a man magnet. She's never been broken up with--she always did the breaking up, and her exes would pine away for her well after the breakup. She's another one who tends to attract people--both male and female. I've witnessed all types of men try to get at her from the janitor to some well-known single, local surgeon. Once again, average in looks and not shaped like Beyonce.
3. An acquaintance friend of mine has snagged herself an engineer who has the potential to make bank. He worships her and she's quite bossy. Highschool years aside, she has always dated men with potential. She's a great dresser, and has an "uppity" air about her even though she doesn't come from money. She's almost 30, lives at home, and works part-time some of the time. Looks-wise she is attractive but at least 70-80 pounds overweight. Lack of trophy-wife body proportions aside, she can walk into a bar and have a businessman approach her within minutes. I've seen it myself.
I have more examples but I don't want this getting too long. What I have noticed is that these women do not come off as submissive in any way and they do not have the petite figures that women are led to believe will help them find their Prince Charming. They are also not boasting lucrative careers and impressive educational credentials, but can attract men who have both. What they do have are "no nonsense" attitudes and they never lead a man to believe that they need him. This seems to contradict what I've heard from some self-help gurus and multiple men on YT who claim that if a woman can't get a man it is because she has all of the characteristics that these man magnets have. I'm intrigued. Has anyone else observed this? Is there really an answer?
Hence, why they are chronically single.
